Dear massassians, today is a day of sorrow for me. I am a tenth grader at a private school. There is a girl I like, but am too shy to really talk to. I am a very outgoing person and kinda crazy, so don't think I'm just shy. Well, today, my two good friends pulled me aside and informed me that they had both asked girls from the school to go to senior banquet with them, and one of the girls was the one I like. I was really shocked because the friend who is taking her knows I like her alot. I felt very betrayed and embarressed, but I guess he's welcome to it since 've never really made a move...anyway, I think my friends suspect they hurt me. BUT the reason they pulled me aside, was to ask me to take this other girl that wasn't going. Because my friends's dates didn't want her to feel left out. Now, this girl is really nice and all, but ya know, it's going to be torture to sit down at the banquet while my friend probably sits across from me with the girl I like. I guess the biggest thing I'm feeling right now is anger that my friend didn't even tell me he had the hots for her, much less that he asked her to this thing. I don't even know if he WOULD have told me he'd taken her if they hadn't needed me to take this girl. So please, today, take a moment to mourn for this underdog. Thanks for your time.

P.S. I don't need advice or anything, I just want your prayers for me and my stomach that feels like it's been kicked.

Please excuse me while I laugh uncontrollably.
*long pause*
There is an old saying, "You snooze, you lose."
Tough.

This person doesn't sound like a very good friend to me. With my friends, If I liked a girl, it's just a given that this means HANDS OFF. Of course, if a friend were to come to me and tell me how much he REALLY likes such a girl, I'd be inclined to wish him luck. But...that's just me...good luck!

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[This message has been edited by MentatMM (edited March 15, 2004).]

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Well there's a bunch of informed opinions. Dudes, I know how stupid I was, I didn't ask for you to state the obvious. Geez. Thanks for the encouragement......

Hellequin, I know you might...no wait you DIDN'T mean well. I call troll.

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What can we do?? There's nothing we can post except help, even condolences are somewhat inappropriate. I suggest you follow PW's advice, it's sound. He's known as the ladies man of this here Massassi .

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Pagewizard strikes.

You know you can comment outside the quotes, right?

I know, I'm too lazy, and you can still read that.

Dude, grow some balls, turn off the computer, and go make a move. She's not "taken". Unless she is wearing a ring on her finger, she's fair game. Don't be a sissy-coward. Don't let your friends push you around like that.

While his friend should have told him of his intentions before hand, what he did was a bit underhanded, even considering the "snooze you lose" rule. But by doing whatever he wants to his friend who "betrayed" him, he is really the one that is breaking the bros-before-hoes rule.

Just because he takes her to this one thing doesn't mean he is settling for anything.

BLASPHEMY!!!!

Okay, let me rephrase what Pagewizard said. "dude...just ****ing start a conversation with her. it's not that hard. If it is, you have bigger problems then not being able to talk to this girl. Get over your insecurities and stop creating excuses." Better?

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If you ever want to be hated by your peers, make them look bad. That's what America did.

Preach!

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If you ever want to be hated by your peers, make them look bad. That's what America did.

You obviously missed the thread where he tried to chat up a female -ian. I printed it out and bronzed it. Bronzing paper is troublesome btw.

[This message has been edited by Gordon Farcus (edited March 15, 2004).]

Pft, you'd let a little ring stop you? Do you know how many "lonely" wives there are?


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0 of 14.

Still, though, really. If a male friend wants a girl, and he tells his friends about it, it's just common courtesy to keep away. The only time I go for it is when the friend doing the claiming is the friend who "likes" and gets possessive over every girl he meets.

Pagewizard is right on this one. Your friend made a move on someone you're interested in. That's just not cool. Anything is fair game now.

I wouldn't go with the girl they're offering you. In fact, I wouldn't go at all. If you're stuck with someone you aren't interested in, it's going to be a very dull evening - worse than going alone and standing in a corner with all of the other people who went without dates, because at least you have something in common with them. It would be more productive to stay at home alone, watching a movie and drinking beer.

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Woohoo, I just got owned. I'll go away now.

[barrywhite]No my brother, do not walk away from the light. Here at the Church of Luuuuuv we accept and teach all new converts and turn none away. Do not reject us and go out there and live a life of emotional torture and sexual repression. Admit your wussiness and redeem yourself! Admit your lack of confidence and learn to be a new man! Let the almighty Trojan Man into your heart and let him guide you to the promised land! The promised land where love is within reach, and blue balls have never been heard of! Come with me brother, and you will be shown the glory of acting like a man![/barrywhite]

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If you ever want to be hated by your peers, make them look bad. That's what America did.

[This message has been edited by Kieran Horn (edited March 15, 2004).]

... Sorry to hear that man, sounds bad. A girl at my school I like is taken, but was taken before I started liking her. Erm, well not takin', but the jocks got to her first. (DAMN SPORTS!)

Hope something works out.

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Kind of a mean response in my opinion. All he is doing is telling you about a personal problem that obviously upsets him and you go and make him feel like crap.

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Kids must be shot by Monday.

Honesty tests for workers can't be trusted, report says.

Psychopaths are unpredictable.

Jay Leno's Headlines > Everything

Well, I suppose I could cheer you up with one of my retarded remarks. I bet you're thinking, "Who is this guy?" I'll give you a hint. You've know me for quite awhile, and I constantly change my zone name. Also, half of my old name is what is above us, and it is blue.

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Zell = 100% there.

What side of who's bed did Quin wake up on? Geez!

It is hard to talk to a girl, if your a gentleman. The feelings that occur are exactly how he described.

Sounds like a bad situation. I say it's 50% your fault, though. What a jerk of a 'friend' though!

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I *never* thought I'd be saying this, but I agree with Jon`C more than any other person on this thread. Even more deranged than that is the fact that I found Farcus funny. It's been hard to find his dry, sarcastic humor funny ever since his introduction of the infamous "stick-removal" system.

[This message has been edited by Freelancer (edited March 15, 2004).]

I've experienced all of the above when trying to talk to a girl I like. The nervous gut feeling is the worst, and it really has no purpose other than to mess you up. While I haven't really overcome these "symptoms" yet, I'm working at it, and you should too. Just try and overcome that gut feeling and realize that there truly isn't anything to be nervous about. It's just a girl, not a monster.

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Kids must be shot by Monday.

Honesty tests for workers can't be trusted, report says.

Psychopaths are unpredictable.

Jay Leno's Headlines > Everything

Oh, and I also agree with Jon'C. His comment seemed to hit the nail on the head. If you don't think you're going to enjoy it, then don't go. Why go somewhere and feel like crap and have to pretend you're having fun when you're not?

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Kids must be shot by Monday.

Honesty tests for workers can't be trusted, report says.

Psychopaths are unpredictable.

Jay Leno's Headlines > Everything

and remember that you're the prize, not her

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If you ever want to be hated by your peers, make them look bad. That's what America did.

I find that the most difficult part is to find something to talk about. But that's just me.

Also, yes, you're the prize, and the prize is trying to figure out who is worthy to win it.

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WOOSH.
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Beer sucks. Get a real drink, not carbonated urine.

In actual relevance to the thread, it's kind of an issue of too bad, so sad. Simply because you're interested in her doesn't mean that no one else can be interested in her. If you're not going to make a move and try to initiate something with her, don't be surprised if someone else who shares your interests will.

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NMGOH || Jack Chick preaches it

Quit drinking American beer. Or as I like to call it, "Boar Urine Ale".

And it's not "first come first served". His friends knew damn well that he was interested in her, but one of them still asked her out. Friends are supposed to help each other out on this one. A real buddy would have forced his friend to make a move, rather than make a move himself. I'm sure it must sound primitive to a lot of people here, but... really... it's what guys are supposed to do.

Unless she asked him out. Then it's pretty much lose/lose for everybody involved.

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<3

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If I had a buddy and he was interested in a girl and I was later on, I would only tolerate so much. If time after time he didn't do anything, I would just tell him "You know, you have one last chance to do anything with this girl before I swoop in. Take it or leave it."



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If you ever want to be hated by your peers, make them look bad. That's what America did.

Aww, nobody wants to guess my old name?

Maybe people just don't care about me.

Nobody loves me!

*Runs off and cries in a corner*



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I sort of agree with the whole "your friend shouldn't have asked her out", but you weren't exactly making a move, at all. It's one thing if you had the intention of asking her out and he swooped in before you did, but you weren't even going to do anything.

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I'm not an actor. I just play one on TV.

It appears so..

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no... go... then find the girl tell her how you feel even if that means pushing your "friend" out of the way to do it

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[This message has been edited by DrkJedi82 (edited March 15, 2004).]

Seconded.

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There is no spoon.

"Hey, [friend]. I like a girl, but I'm too shy to make a move. Now, this means that she's mine, and that you have no right to ask her out if you share my interests."

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"LC Tusken: the idiot is the person who follows the idiot and your not following me your insulting me your following the path of a idiot so that makes you the idiot"
NMGOH || Jack Chick preaches it

First of all you would get much success if you referred to the girl in question as "it."

Second, I can see the feeling of betrayal as your friends did know about it. But they can easily come back and say "Well, you never did anything about it." If they just see you lolly gagging about the girl, they're not gonna wait forever for you to make up your mind. They took opportunity.

I'm sorry, but I'm with Hellequin. You snooze, you lose.

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Seconded

[HUZZAH STOLE YOUR PHRASE SPORKY!]

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