Okay, so this is a girl thread. I just want some quick opinions from anyone but Pagewizard. :p

Keep in mind I'm just a 14 year old freshman.

Okay, so school starts with outdoor experience, where I'm paired with a group of 11 or so other epople, and flung into the woods with a counselor. There's three boys other than me. I'm good friends with all of them, at the end at least, because one of them is new, and I make friends with him. The rest are girls, and only 3 of them aren't new to the school. So, there's this one new girl in particular that catches my eye, and I get to like her a good deal over the four days we're there. And over the four days we sort of become friends, and by that I mean we acknowledge each other's existence.

School starts. She's on my free periods, as is the rest of my group from the woods. So, I get to like her even more, but she flirts with this new boy more than she talks to me. She still flirts a tiny bit with me, or it's my imagination. I prefer the first choice. So this goes on for one and a half weeks, until last wednesday, when her close friend (who somehow found out I like this girl) tells me that she MIGHT like me. She also says that the girl knows I like her. She thinks this is a good thing, but it isn't, and here's why: now I can't simply talk to her without her thinking 'omg, he's flirting with me, I should reject him'! So, it's a 50/50 situation. good 50, she at least MIGHT like me, bad 50, she knows I like her, which is bad for the aforementioned reason. Later that night, I call my best friend and tell him about it all, and he says that I should stop staring at her ( abd habit with girls I like), if I want to be successful. Bad omen.

That next day, I notice she's avoiding me. I'm avoiding her. Too damned nervous!

Last friday, I renounce my liking her, because I KNOW I will do something stupid, like the last girl I liked. I still think she's really damn pretty, though, so it's kinda torturous whenever I'm in her presence, which is about once every day for a free or a class. Sucks.

What should I do? Go after her and hope for success, or not? DO NOT tell me 'ask her out right now', it doesn't work that way where I am, and that would screw me up instantly. Please help.

Should I give it up completely

If you don't go after here, there is no chance of anything happening at all. If you do ask her out, then you at least have a chance. The key is, though, that you have to talk to her and actually ask her out

Talk with her is fine, I usually talk with her at least a little when she isn't talking to her friends and in the same room.

Only talk to her when you have to or when you dont want to appear rude, but in no way make an obvious effort to talk with her.
Whilst at the same time, do something to get yourself noticed, give people a reason to speak highly of you. Be good friends to all those you can, and sooner or later word of how cool/nice you are will reach her, or another girl you will like some day soon.

I dunno, or maybe you could just use the ol'ruthven method



you know it makes sense

if(getThingFlags(source) & 0x8){
  do her}
elseif(getThingFlags(source) & 0x4){
  do other babe}
else{
  do a dude}

About the not making an obvious effort to talk to her and talking whenever possible, indeed, I've been doing just that the whole time.

But I prefer the ruthven method.

The Verve Pipe - Freshmen

GET THE FROSH!

WTF?

Yeah, what he said.:confused:

The longer you go on jsut talking to her, the more and mroe you'll be viewed as a friend

For some reason your plight reminded me of The Verve Pipe's song. Then, upon finding out you were a freshmen, I declared war against you.

Quite simple, really.

Avast! Yar! Stand yer ground and fight, dog!

*stab* *stab*

Arrr!







...Yeah, okay, right.

Don't even bother trying, you'll fail.

That's what I thought, too, and that's why I gave it up.

*ninja slices at Zell*

In other words, I should give up 'cause I suck at love.

Dude, start getting involved in that stuff when you want to get married. I know it feels different when you go through puberty and you start noticing girls and stuff, but wait on actually getting serious when you want to get married. Right now just try to make friends with both boys and girls, so you can have experience on how adult society works and above all for friendship. Plus, you won't have to worry about people manipulating you, and you will have a much better time with people with our the complicating of such a relationship. You can learn a whole lot more about different kinds of people if your not all tied up in some stupid teen-age “boy-friend, girl-friend” thing. Your life won’t be all some “Oh man, I hope my girl friend doesn’t see me talking with so-and so, ect.” You can just take it easy. Save that stuff for later. BTW I’m 15 so I know where you’re coming from.

I understand where people are coming from like that, but unless you date in your teenage years, you're going to suck when it comes to relationships later in life. You'll have no idea what makes women tick, or how to be romantic, or how not to be a jerk. I have my own thoughts about dating (or at least Christian relationships), but you've got to start getting used to relationships early.

No **** you suck, your 14. Get over her. Your young. Don't even think about getting into a relationship until your 16. For now, just socialize as much as possible and learn how to be comfortable around and speak to a girl like you would a guy friend instead of getting all nervous and wishy washy(if you do). It'll be an asset later on.

Ahh to be young again...

I don't get nervous and wishy-washy. I grew up so effin' much in that sense over the last three years, and I learned a LOT. I now know how not to be a jerk, I just don't know how to be romantic. Yet.

There is only one girl I'm truly comfortable around, and she is very understanding too, so I think I can mess up around her at least once and be forgiven. She is outside of school. She is my backup plan because I rarely see her, and edging more towards being my full plan.

Please don't start discussing this one outside of school, it's been discussed on these very boards multiple times. I disagreed with everyone simply because this girl is something else. People tell me to ask her out now, but doing that would completely ruin any chance I had. So yeah, discuss not.

You'll do a lot more growing up in the years to come. God knows I still am.

btw, save the romantic stuff for when you actually get into a relationship a couple months or so.