This is a rant of sorts, but I want to know if anyone can relate.

Anyway, I remember back in high school and community college, finding good friends was fairly easy. I have at least 5 people from each place I talk to on a daily basis, and see at least once a week.

But this university I'm at. So... alone... It's like I'm in some form of odd isolation. It blows to an extreme amount. I guess maybe the classes are larger, but people on the whole are unfriendly, sometimes downright hostile. Things just... suck...

Is this a cause of big classes and bell curves, or is something far more sinister at work here?

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I personally find that classes isnt the best place to make friends. Try joining a club or something, if you find one you like, chances are its members will have similar interests to yours.

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So basically... it's like every day of my life.

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I feel the same way, although I think everyone is unfriendly because I don't like to listen to thier pissy moronic whining... they all get along with each other fine.

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See, what you do is you listen to their whining, and then you say, "Man.. I wish I was you." "What?? Why??" And then you proceed to tell them about how your Aunt Judy killed your parents and sister, and kidnapped you and held you hostage in her basement for 6 months, and after you escaped you were picked up by the police because you looked like a kid who had murdered someone the night before, and went to jail for a year and a half before you were proven innocent, and how you just found out that you have a rare genetic disease that makes your finger nails wrinkle up and fall off after your (your age plus five), and lots of other crazy things. And then they feel bad because their puny problems, and leave you alone. And then you smirk, and walk away.

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For me, making friends has seldom been a problem. Just get to talking to people, and friendships build themselves with practically zero effort on your part.



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Old aunts used to come up to me at weddings, poking me in the ribs and cackling, telling me, "You're next." They stopped after I started doing the same thing to them at funerals.

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God Pagewizard...not only are you Rico Suave, you are also a great pal!

Anyways, I realized too that in college, classes arent the easiest places to make good friends. Try sitting by the same people a lot. You will notice they take notice to you, talk about the subject, and it may lead to something. Im in that process now, and its not that bad. I think you may be waiting for people to approach you, and thatst not how it works. My mom is a genius

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I didnt have any friend at uni until third year, and I liked it! Just showed up, went to class, came home, nothing else to worry about. I already have my best friends from back in school and a decent number of friends from work.

Of course by third year having someone to study with became a huge help, so I made friends with a few people I shared every class with, and we made it through our subjects together. We're still good friends now.

As for clubs, yeah they're great. There's usually a club for every religion and just about everything geeky, so all Massassians should be nicely covered

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Also, get a job.

No, seriously, money is too tight in college and getting a job gives you cash to burn, something to do out of studying/internet/room stuff, and will force you to make some kind of social interaction, and likely, friends.

Or, do what I do. Tell girls that you're famous and get them to watch the student run News on the t.v. station.

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I've found that on the whole, people in universities are nicer, more accepting people. There are always exceptions.

First couple of weeks this year I did nothing but hang with my roommate. Then I noticed that I had a class with a neighbor of mine. We talked while having a cigarette break from class, then started chilling. Now I know everyone and everyone knows me. You can make plenty of friends without even trying.

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not even close. Part time jobs pay you practically nothing to begin with, and then that greedy sob uncle sam comes along and steals half of it as tax....

I only had enough money after I started being self-employed.




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Old aunts used to come up to me at weddings, poking me in the ribs and cackling, telling me, "You're next." They stopped after I started doing the same thing to them at funerals.

... Just work in a reference to alcohol and womanizing and you'll be set!

Pagewizard is a pimp now?

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He's a manwhore.

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Old aunts used to come up to me at weddings, poking me in the ribs and cackling, telling me, "You're next." They stopped after I started doing the same thing to them at funerals.

I think in all areas, it helps to understand how much college is different from high school. Most people in secondary education only form their groups of "firends" because there tends to be a significant ammount of gravity, that forms multiple distinct groups of high school students (i.e. Goths, Jocks, etc.). If you pay close attention to High School Peer groups, you'll notice how you'll find all of one group together.

In college, there are no real distinct pre-defined groups of people that are automatically together. Instead of trying to cement yoursefl with the people you already know and fit with, try new things... try to make friends with people through everything, including your classes, clubs, any job you might hold, or simply picking up a conversation with a complete stranger.

On a side note, I do reccomend trying to be the "teacher's pet". While they are ridiculed in grade school, they are the people that get easy A's, and other students are drawn to those who do well (even if then it's only for assistance, it gives you an opportunity to get to know each other better).

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True. Plus professors are much easier to get along with than high school teachers. You get an awful lot more freedom in university than high school, and the way the teachers treat you really reflects that.

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Agreed. The average high school teacher isn't really enthusiastic about their subjects, and believes their B.A. in E. gives them considerable superiority over their students. However, professors are the scientists, and are truly devoted to their subjects. Professors recognize that everything isn't a closed book, and that's why they have their job.

Personally, I think for anybody with decent mental capacity, post-secondary education is a must, as grade school doesn't really teach you anything aside from "the basics". It's at universities where you actually learn.

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Heh, I didnt learn much in uni. But if you applied yourself and tried a little I guess you would...

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All of my professors are idiots. I have a dumber reincarnation of Bill Gates for CS, and he treats us as if we've never touched a computer before. My English professor is a radical woman's rights activist. She and I don't get along too well, seeing as I'm an engineer and I don't see much value in literature. I value technical manuals and microchip datasheets much more. My physics professor is actually only an instructor, and her teaching style is sporadic at best. My math professor is halfway decent, except for the severe lack of time he gives us on our quizzes and tests. And then my AutoCAD professor, who is also the Solar Car Advisor, likes to talk a lot about things he doesn't know much about. He attended a solar car conference with us and kept complaining about a lot of electrical aspects that we're working on to make better already. Oh yeah, he's the mechanical engineering advisor. He doesn't know an XOR gate from an 8mhz crystal.

In conclusion, college professors, especially the ones that teach entry level courses, can really suck. As you get higher up, the professors you have are doing more interesting research, so you can ask about it and sometimes they'll allow you to assist. Undergraduate research with your professor = good grades.

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