...in myself. I just find it hard to go up and talk to ppl i dont usually talk to, anyone know how to increase your confidence?

Confidence:
If you have it, keep it.
If you don't, find it.
But until you do, fake it.

S'always worked for me.

the #1 internet tough guy has no confidence?

I have the same problem I just cannot talk to people I dont know. I find starting conversation hard. One thing I dont have a real problem with is talking infront of the class and stuff like that... a lot of people have that problem but it doenst seem to effect me... cos i know what i'm going to say I guess.

Well its much easier to talk on the net isn't it?

"hey your fly is undone"
"Wha?"
"Haha just messin', what's up?"

Worked for me. Once.

Talk to people. I know it sounds like I'm trying to be smart, but I'm not. If you simply Start friendly conversation with some one,
either:

A. They're friendly to you, or

B. They're jerks who don't deserve a friend like you anyway.

Your a cool guy. We like you.

One of the best ways to gain confidence that I've found is to just pretend that you have it and act accordingly. The more you step out of your shell the easier it becomes. I know that may sound a bit hackneyed, but it's true.

*hears the dull thud of Pagewizard approaching*

Like Sok Munkey said, you jsut have to do it. The more you talk to people, the easier it will get.

You can start by singing songs about how you are the king, and how everyone should bow down. I've been doing this for years, and have had excellent results. Sadly, it seems to anger the peasants.

Take a martial arts class.

This is very true. Confidence isn't an actual thing. It's just, whether or not, you use it. What is also helpful, is, developing an indifference to what people think of you. That isn't to say you should never listen to what people say, just, be unaffected by what you think they might be thinking of you. Every time you have felt in any way critical of someone or something someone did, or whatever, and didn't act on it is about as much as most people might feel about you. Everyone has the same self-doubt, the same lack of confidence; it's a matter of choosing to act against it, because it is all an act.

I suppose the most important thing is figuring out who you are. A lot of people do a lot of things because they feel insecure about themselves (that is, the kind of person they really are) so they try conforming to social standards by doing those things.

Also, you can also have mental disorders (relative term) that can make you very confident, like, if you are a sociopath and/or manic.

Start working out and get really buff, that'll boost your confidence. Or, just force yourself to talk people, and you'll get used to it eventually.

Personally, I'm not shy and I don't lack confidence, I just hate most people in general so I don't bother talking to them.

At the start of term I had to help promote Ultimate Frisbee at my uni, this involved going round to kitchens full of Freshers and talking to them about the sport. Then a couple of days later I had to try and talk everyone who came into the students union to sign up for the sport.

Needless to say, I got better at it.

However, everytime someone takes a photo of me with their camera-phone it sets me back about a week

just dont be a douche though. Because if you think that confidence means being a douche (a la fratboy mentality) then you've got it all wrong.

Just do it.

/end Nike commercial.

Seriously. I used to be like that too, then one day I said **** it and started talking to people. Bite the bullet. It's not as hard as it seems.

Some like to call it 'Grade School.' Wait till talking to someone is the only way you can get your pokemon cards. Moms don't buy them forever.

i got confidence though joining a team. I was bad at it when i started, but i kept with it for 3 years. even became the captian. I practiced every day at it, and when i finally got good it paied off with much + confidence even though i have no use for the skill i spent so long learning.

In summary, everything everyone has said up to this point of the thread is true. From Cloud's taking a Martial Art class to talk about acting confident, is advisable.

Watch some movies, and read some books. Paticular movies: Star Wars episode I (pre podrace, and podrace scences in paticular to the paticlar film), Star Wars: Episode 5: The Empire Strikes Back (I cannot get enough of relation towards Yoda's wisdom and my theroies of Chi energy).

Paticular book: Bounty Hunter series. If you havn't noticed, I'm trying to pick things into relation towards your interest in Star Wars via the Massassi Temple. Once you read that book, you should find out more about Boba Fett, and how good things could be bad things, and bad things could be good things. (For example, Boba Fett's paranoia...he's scared as hell all the time that someone's tracking him, watching him, etc., but it's kept him alive, hasn't it?)



Hopefully this unorganized reply may be some help to your quest of gaining a little confidence in yourself.

May the Force be with you.
-J

Quite true.

WTF?:confused:

Oh, you'd understand if you collected Pokemon cards.

I bent my Pikachu

I also bent jEDIkIRBY's pikachu

lmao

Just find excuses to talk to new people. Throw a pencil under their chair, get them to pick it up, then make a joke about it.

... it works sometimes, not as crap as that though. GAH! I'll just leave.

*runs*

Hey goit, your name is fitting

It helps when u think about how much better looking/cooler/hipper/sexier/smarter/nicer you are than the new people u are talking to. if u're blatently NOT, just believe it.

I come across as quite arrogant sometimes when I'm in a good mood. Just be funny and friendly, and u cant go wrong.

And also... depends if they're girls, boys, or a mixture

if(getThingFlags(source) & 0x8){
  do her}
elseif(getThingFlags(source) & 0x4){
  do other babe}
else{
  do a dude}