I agree with Raol Duke on most of what he says, insensitive ******* as most of you may consider him. Death is necessary. slow, painful deaths happen. It's a part of life, and will never change (or, if it does change, read: we become immortal, i sure as hell don't want to be around to see it. Immortality is a curse, for the individual and the species, more later).
And this isn't coming from someone who doesn't have any experience with this. My grandfather, a great man who i was really attached to, died of alzhiemers. he didn't know who i was for about 10 years, and i wasn't able to see him during this time because he could have become violent. I saw him for the first time after all that in a coffin. My grandmother, who was an amazing woman and i loved dearly, died from breast cancer and a broken heart (i'm not being romantic here, when my grandfather died her spirit jsut died, she sunk into the worst depression i've ever seen) a few months later. My great aunt, anouther really strong woman who i loved and who was always great to me, died from, for the most part, old age, but also paranoid dementia. She saw visions and was 'out of it' for a great deal, and her body decayed to such an extent that she couldn't even walk, from series of accidents, and this was a woman who i knew was capable of driving (serious, not the type of driving where they go 10 miles per hour down a highway and still crash into things) until about 5 years before she died, and never needed any walking asistance until her accidents (she was at least 65).
I never cried at any of the funerals.
Its not that i'm unemotional, though i know myself to be a cynical ******* conserning the human race. its just that this **** happens, its a part of life. They died, their in a better place (i'm a catholic, so i believe so, at least), why the hell should i mourn because they whent to someplace better then the hell they were in before? feeling such grief at a funeral seems to me very, very selfish. "oh my god, i'll never get to see/talk/etc. to them again." selfish, so selfish. want to talk to them? pray. want to see them? that's what you have a memory for, etc. Thier in a better place, why would you want to trouble them with your own petty grief?
ugh, sorry, i know i offended many people, and maybe someday, if i lose my wife, i'll understand why, but now i just can't, and i hope i won't fell like that at my wife's death, i wouldn't want to marry someone who will want me to feel unconsolable grief because they've gone somewhere better.
Anyway, a slightly different topic, Immortality is a curse. you get to see all you're friends, family die. a planet will become uncontrollably overpopulated and destroy itself. If there were some sort of space colonization, it would have to grow exponentially until it's expanding faster then the speed of light, to support an ever increasing immortal population. Did you ever wonder, assuming you know this, why [the hebrew/christian] God punished Cain with immortality? (losely quoted: "and i shall put a mark upon your forehead, so that all shall know you, and none shall ever kill you, so you may walk forever upon the earth").
And pure immortality is even worse, never dying no matter what. I don't feel like explaining it now, if you want to know why i say this, go read the short story "The Island of the Immortals" by Ursula K. Le Guin, in Changing Planes if you can't find it seperately.
A Knight's Tail
Exile: A Tale of Light in Dark
The Never Ending Story²
"I consume the life essence itself!... Preferably medium rare" - Mauldis
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