Alright alot of you read that jibberish crap last night this is the story.

Yes there is a baby scare basically the test results come back from the hostpital tommorrow. The basic baby test, test possitive (hence the freak out) but we took her to be double sure for a heavy duity blood test one to be sure because she just had her time of the month and sometimes that can mess up the test. It's a long shot... I pray it comes back negaitve.

But if it doesn't boys I'm gonna be a daddy... now before the calvary of bashing gets here we used protection like mature adults. But unfortunatly condoms can break... and fate had something else instore I suppose...

I'm back together with her... if she truely is pregnant I'm gonna marry her legally within the next few months no child of mine will be ******* I'm sorry I won't be able to give he/she much but I will give he/she a father... but I'm also gonna see about maybe talking to her about adoption... I can't support a child and mother he/she could have a better life.

A fine mess I've gotten myself into but I don't consider my life completely gone... just changing.

Don't worry, you've got nine months left to live.

Yeah it will be hard... but hey... someday I dunno maybe I'll wake up and realize that I've done good by my mistake.

Yah, I was wondering where that thread went...

Anyways, again, I would like to wish you both luck. You are doing the right thing by staying with her.

Damn, I think that's really cool of you Mech. I think it's something hard to undertake but it can be done. My mother takes care of children (family day care service) and I help her out a lot, so if you ever need advice or anything I'm pretty good with knowing the habits of babies and what not.

Anywho she's lucky that she's got you with her supporting and willing to help out, cuz most guys just ditch. Tha'ts really mature of you. I wish ya luck

Laura:cool:

I was going to say that, but Laura beat me to it. Anyway, good on you, man. hopefully she'll go for adoption (assuming the test is positive) and you can lead a mostly normal life after that, but if not, you're still willing to support it fully, and that takes alot of guts.

Don't pat me on the back too much we were broken up when I found out... I just... couldn't leave her with a baby and sleep well at night... the baby comes first.

may the futur mother of your child never be attacked by a vampire werewolf or zombie...

nobody wants an undead or furry baby

hmmmmm now that sounds interesting.

I applaud you getting back together with your ex and making sure that the child is raised by father and mother. And you owned up to responsibility. This is of course the case should results turn out true.

Your actions have shifted your alignment towards "a man"

Indeed.

Just a little general advice, use more than one form of protection. Relying on just one is asking for situations like this.

What bad may come for a child who sees its parents don't love each other?

You are a real man of honour. I salute you!

Abortion isn't an unreasonable option.

How old are you and her?

MW, i'm a man with some experience here. i had a little boy when i was 20 and we gave him up for adoption because there was no way we could do it. he's 16 now. and i talk to his biological mother every week.

secondly, i married the mother of my 2 boys now. we talked for a long time about what to do and we decided to get married and raise them properly (she was pregnant with our first when we had this talk).
as you may know, we realized at some point about 8 years ago that we never really were in love and that we would just do what needs to be done to raise our kids in a loving, good home. we provide for them the best home that 2 people can provide.
so now we're getting divorced (i won't get into that now but it's 100% amicable and yes we told our boys about it).

do the right thing. when you talk to her about it you'll know what the right thing is.
good luck to you and we all hope for the best for you and everyone involved.

Thats good your back together, but what do you really want? a baby or no baby?

How old are you guys anyway?

You say you were broken up when she told you about the test, then you got back together? I hate to bring this up, but some girls will say they are pregnant to get/keep a guy. Keep your eyes open for that possibility also. The hospital test should bring the truth out, but make SURE you're there when the doc gives the results.

I feel really bad about bringing this up, but, are you sure you're the father?

Let's hear it for murder: the easy way out!

No, just no.

And I don't like where this is going. Don't buy into this "getting together is being a man" and "it's the right thing to do" rhetoric. It's not the right thing to do, necessarily. Case in point: Evad.

Abortion is every couple's choice, and right sili--I like you but don't start preaching either way. If he wants to go with abortion, let him.

Like Crimson said, be open for the possibility that it could all just be a hoax to get back together with you. Girls are weirdos :p

Also don't forget adoption, seeing as how you two are so young (iirc you're 19) and you still have much of your life to live.

The problem with pro-abortionists. I'm sure he knows that it is technically an option but he didn't give it as one they're considering. Why must some people encourage others to terminate their unborn children? He said he'll deal with the consequences and may encourage her to adopt the child out. He seems more concerned about the welfare of his potential child than them having to suffer the consequences of their actions.

Whatever choice you guys make, best of luck.

If they decide to abort or not abort the pregnancy, it's their choice and nobody else's. There is no argument. Period. It's none of anybody's business but theirs. Period.

I'd just like to add that although it's not a regular thing, a lot of females will miss their period for a month or two, some even more. There's many reasons for this, stress, changes in the body, diet, etc. But keep it in mind, that just because she doesn't have her period, doesn't necessarily mean she's pregnant.

If you do adoption, make sure to sign any agreement or what have you about it before the child is born.

No one is ecouraging him to have an abortion. I dare you to quote anyone who did. You're acting like a homophobe that screams out, "OMG quit trying to make me homosexual!" when they are simply approached by a homosexual.

Birth control > condoms.

And abstinence never fails on you.


Anyway I'd lean toward adoption foremost. You really don't want to marry someone you don't love... just think about it for a while.

You're handling it very maturely and responsibility.

Freelancer pretty much wins.

To which this was mostly in response to:



Not sure where you miscomprehension derived from.

He didn't give any options. We're just telling him what's available to him.

(I usually skim topics like these and then move on, thinking it best just to stay quiet. This time, however, I have personal experience that relates.)

I grew up with two parents who were in MechWarrior's and his "girlfriend's" situation. My father married my mother because they had conceived *me*. A year later, they had my brother. A year after that, they divorced.

Of all my experiences so far, being in a "broken" family has been the most difficult emotionally. Seeing this topic brought back sorrowful emotions, particularly when I remembered that my second most difficult experience was being with a girlfriend in which this very situation could have occurred. After that girlfriend, I did not have sex until I married someone that I would actually live with "until death do we part". I did not want to be responsible for bringing someone else into the same sadness that I had experienced.

Even now that I have been on my own for well over a decade and a half, am married, and have a child, I still wonder about how things would have been different if my parents had actually loved each other and had stayed together, or even better (because they did not love each other), had they not bothered to have sex outside of marriage.

With a sad sigh,



[Edit: Took out irrelevant statements.]

I had very little problem with what you said. You didn't bring up abortion and didn't encourage him to consider it. You responded to someone who started going on about murder. Personally I find it distasteful to bring up the abortion issue in this thread. MW didn't bring it up. He never said it was something he was considering. Raising the child or adopting it were the two options he's considering. We know he knows abortion is an option but he didn't appear to be considering it. So I take offense to someone "reminding" him that aborting/terminating/killing his unborn child is an option and then Mr Braniac wants to equate me to a homophobe? Whatever.

Funny thing is that this could all be a very moot issue if, in fact, she turns out to not be pregnant.

Tell that to Jesus' Mom!

This is getting wierd.

There was also a case of a guy getting shot in the... you know... and the bullet took some sperm along for the ride before finally lodging in a woman's... uterus? ovaries? The specifics escape me. Anyway, she became pregnant. Sucks to be both of them, really. Well, more the guy, since he'd just had his balls shot off. But getting pregnant without having caused it yourself would be a bit of an annoyance. And imagine telling the story to your kid!

You sure that's not an urban legend? It sounds a bit far-fetched to be true... But if it is true, then that's crazy.

It's an urban legend.

Freelancer, your posts are becoming more ludicrous every day. Seriously, grow the **** up.