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Being Single vs Having Bf/Gf

2004-12-24, 3:58 PM #1

clan ruthervain

Not The Man He Once Was

Posts: 7,638

In my short experience with the opposite sex (only started being around women a year ago) and my brief painful relationships, being single now I can honestly say I'm happier.

The lust and boost in ego in having a partner can be ok, but the drawbacks, such as falling out, not feeling satisfied, them cheating on you or not putting out, and alllll the emotional BS that comes with it, ITS JUST NOT WORTH IT!!!

Being single, you can still have fun with the whole "being fancied" mollarky, but never actually getting with them seems to be better in the long run.

Dancing and flirting is great, and none of the drawbacks mentioned above apply in that situation.

Your opinions massassi??

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if(getThingFlags(source) & 0x8){
  do her}
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  do other babe}
else{
  do a dude}

2004-12-24, 4:03 PM #2

Ford

Not Suitable for Motor Vehicles

Posts: 4,265

- the puke part.

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2004-12-24, 4:07 PM #3

DEFINOTELY NOT SPE

Banned

Posts: 8,138

i like relationships, find the right person and its fun.

2004-12-24, 4:12 PM #4

BoricuaDelight

wannabe cam..girl..

Posts: 1,919

Quote:

Originally posted by clan ruthervain
being single now I can honestly say I'm happier.

Being single, you can still have fun with the whole "being fancied" mollarky, but never actually getting with them seems to be better in the long run.

Dancing and flirting is great, and none of the drawbacks mentioned above apply in that situation.

I agree with what you stated above ^^ for the time being. Being 21 and just having fun is great right now. I agree with Mr. Stafford on relationships being good if u find the right person, but i dont see that happening anytime soon. So nothing against relationships, but until that person comes along i'm all about being single and flirting and just enjoying being with friends, flirting and all that good stuff

Laura

2004-12-24, 4:15 PM #5

DeTRiTiC-iQ

Britlandish

Posts: 5,649

Well being single sucks, but I can't comment on whether being in a relationship sucks.

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2004-12-24, 4:18 PM #6

R_ivi_N

Loves The Rooster

Posts: 425

I went the first year of college single and it was great. This year I have been in a relationship and it has been great. Can't really say either is bad...especially when you go to a school that has a lot of things to do for entertainment. Now, if you are single and bored, I can see where problems might arise.

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2004-12-24, 4:37 PM #7

Elana14

Doesn't Want One

Posts: 1,732

i like me a long term relationship, yes i do. less stress all around

Laughing at my spelling herts my feelings. Well laughing is fine actully, but posting about it is not.

2004-12-24, 4:37 PM #8

Wolfy

I TYPE LOUD

Posts: 10,623

Now, is the first option for the wholly celibate, or only the partial celibate?

the idiot is the person who follows the idiot and your not following me your insulting me your following the path of a idiot so that makes you the idiot - LC Tusken

2004-12-24, 5:00 PM #9

clan ruthervain

Not The Man He Once Was

Posts: 7,638

100% asexual

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if(getThingFlags(source) & 0x8){
  do her}
elseif(getThingFlags(source) & 0x4){
  do other babe}
else{
  do a dude}

2004-12-24, 6:48 PM #10

Pagewizard_YKS

Redeemed Scoundrel

Posts: 5,971

I generally prefer casual, non-commitment dating to begin with, which then develops into a short-term relationship, which may then develop into a long term relationship if things work out well.

That's all you are going to get out of me today.

2004-12-24, 6:51 PM #11

Thrawn[numbarz]

colonpee addict

Posts: 11,951

Stop smoking ruthy

2004-12-24, 7:07 PM #12

Roach

Registered User

Posts: 5,275

No no you fool! Smoke more, smoke more!

omnia mea mecum porto

2004-12-24, 7:15 PM #13

DogSRoOL

wtf is a catloaf?a

Posts: 6,227

Quote:

Originally posted by clan ruthervain
The lust and boost in ego in having a partner can be ok, but the drawbacks, such as falling out, not feeling satisfied, them cheating on you or not putting out...

That's exactly why long term relationships are better. DUH. Because you don't have to deal with all that nearly as much as you do with short-term relationships.

Also, don't date horny girls (ironically) because they're more likely to cheat on you.

Not that I would know.
>.>
<.<

Cat loaf, meet mouseloaf.
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2004-12-24, 8:10 PM #14

UltimatePotato

Seniority Complex

Posts: 1,506

I always feel kinda left out when I see everyone with someone else and my friends who are girls always talking about who's with who. Plus having someone rocks.

It took a while for you to find me; I was hiding in the lime tree.

2004-12-24, 8:22 PM #15

finity5

I dont need no stinking title

Posts: 2,693

I'm so alone

2004-12-24, 8:31 PM #16

saberopus

Likes Kittens. Eats Fluffies

Posts: 12,306

I'm in love

ish.

It feels great. It would suck if it was one sided, but you when you get the feeling it's reciprocal... well, when you feel it coming back then....

it's just amazing.

Last night I saw [sorry] Lemony Snickett's a series of unfofudofuasdofusdogtjstlkjasdf eventnsntnss with the girl i'm currently interested in, and of her own free will [not sure why i felt the need to say that o.O] she kissed me. Which is kinda awesome because she just got over getting let down by some other guy and has expressed doubts about a relationship w/ me.

yep, no one cares

2004-12-24, 8:33 PM #17

The_Lost_One

Lost No More

Posts: 749

i make love to mirrors.

Peace is a lie
There is only passion
Through passion I gain strength
Through strength I gain power
Through power I gain victory
Through victory my chains are broken
The Force shall set me free

2004-12-24, 8:46 PM #18

alpha1

Posts: 2,998

Quote:

Originally posted by clan ruthervain
100% asexual

so, how do you reproduce, mitosis (sp?) or do your reproductive organs create your offsring internaly without anyone else.

:p

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2004-12-24, 8:47 PM #19

Chaz Ghostle

The Man with the PlanT

Posts: 2,865

For someone who'd rather be single, you sure do make a lot of girl threads.

I can stand being single, but I'd prefer having a long term relationship.

"I got kicked off the high school debate team for saying 'Yeah? Well, **** you!'
... I thought I had won."

2004-12-24, 8:54 PM #20

Flexor

Flexorator

Posts: 4,279

Quote:

Originally posted by DogSRoOL
Also, don't date horny girls (ironically) because they're more likely to cheat on you.

Indeed.

The music industry is a cruel and shallow money trench where thieves and pimps run free, and good men die like dogs. There's also a negative side.

2004-12-24, 9:34 PM #21

Ubuu

forums' token black man

Posts: 1,670

I never want to get to that state that my roomates have with their GFs. Single for life.

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2004-12-24, 10:04 PM #22

Gilgamesh85

So cool it's cold. Yeaaah.

Posts: 1,079

I'll have to go with single and flirtatious, but only because that's what I am most used to. After a couple failed relationships, I can't say I'm happier this way, but I am more stable. With relationships came great happiness, but at least double the misery afterwards. Right now I'm enjoying being calm and centered, but I wouldn't mind giving it another go soon, I think.

2004-12-24, 10:23 PM #23

Jedi Legend

Doesn't Sleep Welll

Posts: 1,380

This thread reminds me of what I'm NOT getting for Christmas...

2004-12-24, 11:13 PM #24

stat

Nananananananana BATMAN!

Posts: 3,017

Celibate. Sex is wrong.

[Annendum: I guess I should explain my position further. I figure I'm such an awful and wretched person that causing someone to love me would be a terrible thing to do. Plus, I don't like being touched.]

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2004-12-25, 12:17 AM #25

Vin

No Longer Homeless!
Fancy Pants

Posts: 9,843

I wouldn't know, having never been in a relationship of any kind.

2004-12-25, 3:37 AM #26

Martyn

The Daddy

Posts: 9,001

Despite evil four year ex cheating on me, I'm still voting for relationships, I'm just happier when I've got someone to be with.

2004-12-25, 7:09 AM #27

Freelancer

Peelancer

Posts: 15,012

Option #1.

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2004-12-25, 8:49 AM #28

Shintock

Balls of steel.

Posts: 7,146

Quote:

Originally posted by Martyn
Despite evil four year ex cheating on me, I'm still voting for relationships, I'm just happier when I've got someone to be with.

Same here, except it was only one year for me.

2004-12-25, 2:31 PM #29

Jedigreedo

Watch Him Squirm

Posts: 2,068

Single and flirting. Who wants to be tied down? Feh, I had two relationships and looking back...I don't think I would be able to stand such limits unless she was mind-blowingly perfect.

"We came, we saw, we conquered, we...woke up!"

2004-12-25, 2:48 PM #30

Outlaw Torn

Appears to be a Yuck

Posts: 1,873

I'm married, so I guess I go with option 4?

obviously you've never been able to harness the power of cleavage...

maeve

2004-12-25, 4:50 PM #31

DogSRoOL

wtf is a catloaf?a

Posts: 6,227

Quote:

Originally posted by Jedigreedo
Single and flirting. Who wants to be tied down? Feh, I had two relationships and looking back...I don't think I would be able to stand such limits unless she was mind-blowingly perfect.

That's the ultimate goal of us long-term seekers; someone so perfectly suited for us that it's nearly unbelievable.

...or maybe that's just my goal.

Cat loaf, meet mouseloaf.
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2004-12-25, 7:18 PM #32

Avenger

Positive!

Posts: 19,146

I don't mind being single as it lets me do what I want and have a really good time. Doesn't mean I don't like being in a good realtionship either, as I am now. I'm having a good time with my current girl.

Pissed Off?

2004-12-25, 8:49 PM #33

Ric_Olie

Senior calculadora

Posts: 3,198

I've had two short relationships, and both were fun while they lasted. Ideally, I'm looking for somebody to spend the rest of my life with, but being single for now isn't all that bad. I'm sure everything will come to pass as it should in due time.

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Za twoim przewodem
Złączym się z narodem.

2004-12-25, 9:28 PM #34

Obi_Kwiet

It's Stuart, Martha Stuart

Posts: 7,943

You know, 30 years ago they had something called marriage. That was when you actually committed to someone all your life. Then people realized that they got divorced so easily that it was easier just forget the whole thing and skip right to the sleeping around part. Now long term means a few years. Some people actually still get married and bring up kids, but they're just old fashioned and stupid. I mean, everyone knows that your pleasure now is way more important than any kids it might produce.

2004-12-25, 9:45 PM #35

Wolfy

I TYPE LOUD

Posts: 10,623

Quote:

Originally posted by Obi_Kwiet
Then people realized that they got divorced so easily...

While the divorce-to-new-marriage ratio has increased to 50%, the actual divorce rate has declined since the 70's.

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Now long term means a few years.

Is there some reason why you shouldn't consider a non-marital relationship that lasts a few years to be long-term?

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Some people actually still get married and bring up kids, but they're just old fashioned and stupid. I mean, everyone knows that your pleasure now is way more important than any kids it might produce.

Not everyone has sexual relationships. Or are you actually saying that you shouldn't date someone unless you think you'll marry them?

the idiot is the person who follows the idiot and your not following me your insulting me your following the path of a idiot so that makes you the idiot - LC Tusken

2004-12-26, 5:55 AM #36

Martyn

The Daddy

Posts: 9,001

Obi....

*sigh*

2004-12-26, 11:09 AM #37

DogSRoOL

wtf is a catloaf?a

Posts: 6,227

Quote:

Originally posted by Obi_Kwiet
You know, 30 years ago they had something called marriage. That was when you actually committed to someone all your life. Then people realized that they got divorced so easily that it was easier just forget the whole thing and skip right to the sleeping around part. Now long term means a few years. Some people actually still get married and bring up kids, but they're just old fashioned and stupid. I mean, everyone knows that your pleasure now is way more important than any kids it might produce.

*ahem*

Cat loaf, meet mouseloaf.
My music

2004-12-26, 11:16 AM #38

Shintock

Balls of steel.

Posts: 7,146

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