I just found out that my best friend thinks he's gay. Seriously, what the hell? Do you magically switch sides over night? He's not very popular, but he's had a few girlfriends. I never would have thought. How can you be unsure though? I look at guys and I can tell if they're good looking or not, but it's never really been an issue. Gwah!

And he's Catholic. Way to follow your own religion buddy.

Post your experience with gay friends.:(

Half my school claims that they are bisexual....they aren't though. Atleast most of them aren't. They use it to get attention, along with there black mystery clothes and sad emo poetry. I'm not saying it would be a horrible thing if they really WERE bisexual, but they aren't.

I dont see why its a bad thing... its just his personal preference. Just be supportive of him.

In my experience, they don't just decide to be gay one day. They are gay from the start but don't really know it since they are more or less programmed to like girls from the start, exposed to male-female relationships, etc.

I had a friend who claimed he was bi at one point, but he himself admitted it was only for attention at a later date... no one cared when he first claimed to be bisexual, and no one cared when he said he wasn't really. That's pretty much it.

It's not considered bad for men to be attracted to men by the Catholic Church. It is considered bad to act on this attraction and engage in sexual activity with other men.

I suppose he could have just noticed the attraction, or just thought it was something else up until now, or perhaps is still confused.

What's wrong with a friend being gay?

i don't think i could stand getting it up the bum...

Well that's a nice way of putting it.

Far from emo, and I hate modern music, and I'm bi because I was born that way.


I swear, I'm going to take a shotgun to the next emo kid I find. Just... pop. Weehee *TRAIN*

More girls for the rest of us.

Everyone picks on this one openly gay kid at school. He got used to it.

I don't have a problem with homosexuals, but I wounder to myself, "What's the life expectancy for them?".

And, "Do they have a more average divorce rate than male/female combination couples?"

life expectancy?

let me just add another question mark

?

Well, homosexual males seem to be more likely to get HIV, but I'm sure thats declining now because of more couples taking precautions.

For one, it's somewhat against his religion (yes, I know it's not against it if you don't act on it, but seriously, who wouldn't? Not many people.)

Actually I thought it didn't change because a lot of people think that the cocktail HAART is a cure...which of course it isn't. I'm not sure about the precaution thing either...one of my gay friends slept with a guy who he knew had AIDS and they didn't use a condom because they didn't have one. Now he has AIDS and he moved away

In high school, my best friend of 9 or 10 years came out to me through a picture she drew. It was of her wedding and she was marrying her dance teacher (who was a girl.) It was all emotional...I cried because I knew it could never happen, and she cried because she thought I was going to hate her. (ah...teenage years...)

But other than that, I've had a lot of gay friends. I agree that a lot of them don't want to admit it, or prehaps they are scared and don't want to come out/don't know what's going on. Just be supportive. Since coming to college I hear so many stories of people that have their best friend come out to them and they just tell them to get away and never talk to them again. I think that's the worse thing you could do, but they just act like it's funny. Strange how the things I thought would change in college really didn't..

it's a marriage length average of 18 months in countries that made it legal, and in that 18 months they have 3-6 extra-marrital partners, how bout dem odds?

*cough*stereotype*cough*

No it isn't. It's a fact.

I know a couple of guys who are gay. There's nothing wrong with it. Though it seems that I'm constantly defending them from the less open-minded people that I know...

a non gay person has just the same amount of chance of catching hiv from unprotected sex from someone who is HIV+ as a gay person having sex with a person who is HIV+.

this desease has no bias, if you look into it, most cases of HIV are in developing nations. Also, not all gay people have sex with other gay people, that is one of the cruelest stereotypes of all.

He's still going to be my friend no matter what. I used to hate gay people, but then I realised I was only being a bigot. I just hate the choice. I'm very...I donno dissapointed.

Edit: don't want to offend anyone.

Wake up and realize it's not a ****ing choice. You have no right to be 'disappointed' in him.

in again before the edit/ban/lock.

you may want to edit that post as people may find it very offensive.

@lonelydagger

This is the worst thread ever.

"Gays are bad and die quicker because Jesus Christ, destroyer of worlds hates them"

i hope that was sarcasm

You're still being a bigot.

I kind of agree, but I also believe it is his choice to be disappointed - right or wrong.

It might be profitable for some Christians who have problems with gays to read this site. I'm not saying it justifies it, but it offers some good insite and food for thought:

http://www.gaychristian.net/faq.html

Its not having sex that transfers the disease, its the transfer of blood between the people. When people... how do I put this... have sex in the butt, which is the only way gay men can do it, it causes them to bleed more than it would were they doing it with a woman in a non-anal fashion. Hence gay men are more likely to have/get the disease than most other people.

Any internal bodily fluid can transmit HIV (sweat and saliva can't). Blood provides the easiest method of transfer, but it happens quite readily through exchange of sexual fluids, ie normal vaginal intercourse. I'm fairly sure it can be transmitted through oral sex as well. Anal intercourse provides a greater risk yes, but the risk is still unacceptably high with any kind of sex with an infected person.

God made a man and a woman.


If you dont believe in God, than be gay if you want to I dont really care.

How is it not a choice?

Do you choose who you find yourself attracted to, or do you just find yourself attracted to certain people?

While it may be a choice not to have sex, attraction isn't chosen. Tell me, what age did you decide to be attracted to girls?

I'm curious to find out how many of you consider homosexuality to be a disease, a psychological disorder, or simply ones sexual orientation. I'm well aware of the fact that homosexuality is currently classified as a sexual orientation, but the issue has a fascinating history, and I would just like to know where you folks stand. It's an interesting debate, and I'm often irritated by the political correctness involved in such an issue, so please don't ride in on a high-horse.

Personally, I'm not quite sure, and think that there just isn't yet enough evidence to draw a conclusion.

Both, but I obviously have a choice of whether or not to pursue any action with the person, male or female and obviously I would stay far, FAR away from the male.

While I don't necessarily disagree with you, I think the point is that there are many people who may not consider a so-called sexual preference to be an issue of morality, thus they have no reason to ignore the attraction.