So I've recently been analyzing the differences between women and men. It particularly started when some girls at my school were ridiculing me for not knowing and memorizing my girlfriend's middle name, mother's name, our anniversary, and her birthday. I argued with them for a good part of 2 hours and continuously said that "There are far more important things to remember about a girl that show I care." They stubbornly used the statement "But *I* would be angry if *my* boyfriend didn't remember our anniversary." Which got me thinking:
Women are emotionally oriented, and think only about how something makes them feel. They thwart logic and only use it to back up their arguments when it does.
Men, on the other hand, think with their logic, and far less with how things make them feel. When they do think of how things make them feel, the combination of adrenalin and estrogen [Estrogen is the chemical for impulse based decisions; NOT testosterone. Testosterone actually controls growth and development] causes them to almost loose complete spectrum of the events around them, and thus spiral out of control.
I saw absolutely no use in any of the useless facts these girls were expecting me to know about my girlfriend of 6 months. They saw how that made them feel, and not how it should make them feel. Neither of us would budge because neither of us were right.
A friend of mine has been going out with a guy for a long time. She's also been taking an anti-depressant which suppresses her estrogen quite a bit. Her relationship with this guy has NEVER gone sour. Even after a big argument, logic kicks in and they both work it out easily and move on. They don't have free reign to see other people, but they do have the option of not seeing each other for periods of time to relax. They can push one another away, offend them, make critical but loving comments, and no offense is ever taken. They use logic to govern their relationship, not emotional reactions.
Where does this all stem from? Women must use instinct to care for their child FAR more than logic. A man's logic wouldn't keep a baby alive for long because there are certain things that cannot be defined by logic, but are instead defined by intuition, impulses, and emotions.
Men must hunt. Hunting requires a keen and well sharpened spear point and brain. Clear and rational thinking is REQUIRED for hunting or little will get done. Impulses kill a hunter.
So what's the fix? Acceptance. I accept that my girlfriend's reactions to something I say are only her emotional strife. My girlfriend understands the entire logic VS emotions thing [she helped me understand this theory] and thus can eventually be reasoned out of foolish arguments. She also accepts that my rationalization of human relations [Like I'll tell her to forget about something that someone else has said or done, yada yada, and she'll still be worried, or wonder how to approach the situation with the person.] is just my logical brain trying to understand human behavior.
Can one have both? I don't know. My friend I talked about seems to have both via artificial means. But in nature, is it possible? I wonder if that is a part of evolution: The uninvention of gender and emotions vs. logic.
Discuss [Not the birthdays and stuff. I am not going to argue with you people about that; They're also part of my philosophies of not attaching meaning to dates objects and events, but onto emotions, interactions, and simpler things] my theory!
JediKirby
Women are emotionally oriented, and think only about how something makes them feel. They thwart logic and only use it to back up their arguments when it does.
Men, on the other hand, think with their logic, and far less with how things make them feel. When they do think of how things make them feel, the combination of adrenalin and estrogen [Estrogen is the chemical for impulse based decisions; NOT testosterone. Testosterone actually controls growth and development] causes them to almost loose complete spectrum of the events around them, and thus spiral out of control.
I saw absolutely no use in any of the useless facts these girls were expecting me to know about my girlfriend of 6 months. They saw how that made them feel, and not how it should make them feel. Neither of us would budge because neither of us were right.
A friend of mine has been going out with a guy for a long time. She's also been taking an anti-depressant which suppresses her estrogen quite a bit. Her relationship with this guy has NEVER gone sour. Even after a big argument, logic kicks in and they both work it out easily and move on. They don't have free reign to see other people, but they do have the option of not seeing each other for periods of time to relax. They can push one another away, offend them, make critical but loving comments, and no offense is ever taken. They use logic to govern their relationship, not emotional reactions.
Where does this all stem from? Women must use instinct to care for their child FAR more than logic. A man's logic wouldn't keep a baby alive for long because there are certain things that cannot be defined by logic, but are instead defined by intuition, impulses, and emotions.
Men must hunt. Hunting requires a keen and well sharpened spear point and brain. Clear and rational thinking is REQUIRED for hunting or little will get done. Impulses kill a hunter.
So what's the fix? Acceptance. I accept that my girlfriend's reactions to something I say are only her emotional strife. My girlfriend understands the entire logic VS emotions thing [she helped me understand this theory] and thus can eventually be reasoned out of foolish arguments. She also accepts that my rationalization of human relations [Like I'll tell her to forget about something that someone else has said or done, yada yada, and she'll still be worried, or wonder how to approach the situation with the person.] is just my logical brain trying to understand human behavior.
Can one have both? I don't know. My friend I talked about seems to have both via artificial means. But in nature, is it possible? I wonder if that is a part of evolution: The uninvention of gender and emotions vs. logic.
Discuss [Not the birthdays and stuff. I am not going to argue with you people about that; They're also part of my philosophies of not attaching meaning to dates objects and events, but onto emotions, interactions, and simpler things] my theory!
JediKirby
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