This is going to be sort of a long post, but I feel like ranting a little bit.

Knowing my friend, I should have known this was a bad idea to begin with. My Mom went out of town with my grandparents and aunt and uncle until tommorrow. I was dumb enough to tell my best friend about, cause it seemed like a good idea at the time to have just a little party. I would never do anything big in the first place.

I shouldn't have told him in the first place, because right after I had a bad feeling about it. I got worse when he bought a bottle of Everclear and a bottle of Vodka to make trashcan punch. He made a five gallon batch with only half a bottle of each, the rest is mostly water and koolaid, so I'm not worried TOO much.

I layed down the rules of this "party"-- more like get-together -- to him: no more than about 8 people, anybody that drinks, stays. I wanted this to be more like a poker/x-box/movie thing so some people don't get the wrong idea.

I never thought having people over at my house like this would make me so nervous. I'm usually a casual light drinker, only drink where I'm sleeping, but I don't want to drink right now, because I want to be in total control of my house.

I got so nervous that I kind of went into a cleaning frenzy, just cleaning stuff so after the little mess they would make, there would be less stuff to clean up. It was my Mom's birthday today and I don't want her coming home tommorrow to a dirty house either.

So, I don't want things to get too out of hand, so I've taken some stealthy actions to keep my problems to a minimum. While they went out to one of the guys car to smoke weed-- because absolutely not in the house and not even on the property (I don't smoke at all)-- I poured out a bunch of the trashcan punch and replaced it with water to lessen the blow. I intend to actually go pour a cup "for myself"-- even though I said I'm not drinking-- but dump it out in the bathroom. These are my friends, and I just don't want to let them down too much. Don't get me wrong though, if things get too out of control I will literally throw people out and **** their **** up beforehand if necesary. Besides that, I can claim my Mom just called and that they're coming home tonight. I don't really want to do this because it forces a couple people to drive.

I wish I would've never told him in the first place. I'd much rather be playing CS:S or BF2 right now than taking care of these people. I don't so much mind when people are drunk around me, it's when they got too drunk and you literally have to babysit them.

Anyway, post some stuff so I have something to read.

Honestly if you keep the numbers down it will be fine


It's only when you start getting a ton of people that **** hits the fan, and it happens EVERYTIME a house gets swarmed.

damn man way to freak out, go find those half bottles and drink to your happiness cuz you need it. social activities are a good thing... invite a hmmm... girl?? make it interesting. You can drink responsibly and still have a serene calm time while collecting your thoughts and not worry that someone walked in the house with their shoes on. Don't wish you were alone playing a video game...

heh, my house is mostly party grounds. cleaning up is a *****. i only let people i know GOOD come over, though, people i fully trust. so as long as they're your friends, it should be all good.

and take life easy.

I think my friend only invited a couple more of our friends. One of them I don't like that much, cause he tends to get drunk a lot. If I can, I intend to turn my friend's phone off so he can't get any more calls, because people need directions to find my house in my neighborhood.

I think your right, maybe I'm overreacting a little bit. There's only four other people here, besides me, and the alcohol formula doesn't work out to be too much.

Amount of alcohol poured in punch (x) amount of actual punch (/) number of people that are going to drink it (+) the fact that I watered it down even more (=) people not THAT drunk.

Hopefully.

Lay down the law.

YOU ARE THE LAW.

I don't drink.

Use a shotgun to solve your problems.

I would be totally different if this was my own house, and I was actually 21. But both of those facts are not true and I've been in situations before exactly like this except at someone else's house and turned out bad for me, and even worse for the underage person whose house it was.

Maybe that's your lifestyle but it's not mine. Except for my best friend these people have no respect for me or my property, and it shows. I'm willing to take it but only up to a certain point. After that they can go **** themselves. Now I know why the drinking age is 21, because most people under that age have no respect at all for other people, especially ones they don't know, and drinking only makes things worse.

There's a few other things about this situation that I have not mentioned and will not mention that make this situation more uneasy for me.

its only a forum, withholding stressful information is surely a factor to you, but to me (ive thrown my share of parties) you have to learn to not give a ****. I don't know if you have a patio or deck but its typically a cool place to hang out with friends and drink in the summer time. That way **** dosn't really get messed with and you can enjoy yourself at your OWN party (novelty!!!!!!). Yeah if you watered it down and theres only about a fifth between that many people, plus the fact you have to drink all the punch part people won't get that drunk since they will have to literally drink alot over time to get wasted.

Wow you have issues. Pouring a cup and then dumpin it in the bathroom to make them think you drank it? WTF???

someone didn't go to D.A.R.E.

i'm 18, my family lives in a different country, and hell - are you wrong or what? it's not about people's age, it's about the people. would worrying so much make things better? hell no.

if i were you i'd just get relatively drunk, save myself some nerve cells, and have FUN. right now you're sounding like some weird pseudo-masochist or something.

that was a good laugh with the pseudo-masochist bit.

what game is that? manhunt?

I was speaking generally. I know there's a lot of people that have more brain cells and actually use them.

Here's the situation. People get drunk at my house, make a mess in my house, **** **** up in my house, pass out at my house, wake up and immediatly leave my house. Do you really think any of these people will help clean up? No, so now I have to clean up their ****. Sounds like a barrel of fun to me. I have better things to do.

I'm all for having a good time, and would enjoy a social setting than playing computer games anyday. I'll drink with the right people and at the right places. These are not the right people, and I don't own this house so this is not the right place. I'm sorry if I don't contend to your way of life, which is apparently let your "friends" mess up your home at your expense.

heh, no my of life is not letting my friends mess up my house at my expense, my way of life is letting go of the small things in life, the small things that make you worry so damn much. yes, i have to clean up afterwards (unless i'm feeling lazy). yes, i might have a hangover. yes.

but that comes after.

i sing songs, i dance, listen to friends play guitar, discuss philosophy, and wrestle on my floor. i smile, i laugh.

but then, i only do that with the people i trust.

people i don't trust don't cross my porch.

you'll have to clean up anyway. if you'll consider for a moment that if you LET GO now and face the consequences later, you'll stop trying to ruin your own life. and i'm talking in general terms here.

let go.

free your mind.

I had a problem very similar to yours a few weeks ago. My parents were away for the week and they said noone was to come over, but 3 friends kind of just came over, and we hung out, but they ended up staying the night. I just said 'Okay guys, listen. We can have fun and stuff, but any mess you make, you need to clean up" They said "Okay." and that was that. If they are your friends they will respect your situation and listen.

If you truly want to avoid any trouble on your part, yes, do not drink. I went to a kegger one time (sober-driving) and the hostess didn't even have on cup of beer.

So, pop open a can of Pepsi and enjoy yourself.

Smoke up. You'll be present mentally and you'll be happy too. Drinking is for farmers anyways.

Well, to continue the story, a couple other people came over and by that time there really wasn't any alcohol left. Finally got to talk to some people and have a marginally good time.

That was later negated by the fact that someone threw up in my bathtub, took a shower and used all my towels as "throw-up cleaning devices" as well. Talk about a good time for me.

now you have something to burn for your bonfire

>.<

Why do you have to be so goddamn negative??? A bathtub is easy to clean, and towels can be throw in the wash.

LOOSEN. UP.

Because he doesn't enjoy cleaning up after other people's vomit? I could be mistaken, but that's not the kind of activity I consider, you know, enjoyable.

because all he did was ***** on a forum the whole time about how he wished that noone was coming over and that he feels everyone is going to **** his **** up... when in the end someone puked in a bathtub... a ceramic easily cleanable surface that is self contained. Worst things can happen after having a party. Puke on the carpet for example, cuz then you have to buy cleaner and go through more work. Or someone breaks your hookah by lifting it in the middle and not by the glass bottom. Point is, I don't think worrying about it that much was worth it.

That's the way it usally works out. The lesson here is: Don't throw a party if you're not willing to take care of the aftermath.

Maybe, but cleaning ANY vomit still sucks. Especially since he had not planned on actually making it a get drunk out of your mind and barf party. I know we had one guy in my "gang" that used to do that every time we had a party. He wouldn't miss it, he HAD to get drunk on us and barf in the bathroom or in the driveway (which is shared with many other people in the appartment building).

I eventually told him off. My other friends were pissed at me, but once they cooled off, all our parties were all the more enjoyable. No puke cleaning is the shiznit.

Personally I would not drink, one because I am not a big drinker, so it's really not a lose and let your friends get ripped. Then ask them a really serious question, using some of their intoxicated neurons, its like a show in itself watching people that are drunk try to answer this question because most of them are just dumbfounded or just ramble about one thing totally wrong then it goes off topic.... you get the point. But losen up... these are your friends, if they are really your friends they won't let you down. So don't worry have a good time. If they get a little roudy put them in their places.

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