Okay I guess I’ve been in deep thought a lot lately, don’t know why, just the business of like has caught up with me. I’ve mainly been thinking about my dating status.

Status? None. Basically I have been single of my 17 years. Don’t know why, maybe I just got chicken the first time I asked a girl out, maybe I’m to scared of first dating awkwardness, maybe I’m just too busy, or maybe all over the above. I’m not bad looking or anything, sort of that nice guy look, usually rated about a 6 or a 7. Clique? Mainly average guy, quiet in large groups of unknowns but with close friends I crack them up. Sure I got friends that are girls, those are the ones I would like to ask out, but of course if I ask and they say no, what of the friendship? Awkwardness for the rest of your life. Man I always wanted to be a teenager, now I think things are better when they are simple when your 12 or 13. There’s a few girls I like, friends, but clique issues and the loss of a friend out way dating. Do cliques mean anything? Should dating between cliques be forbidden? What about parents? I don't know.

Crazy hormones.

Well it’s lunch time at school, better go just needed to get this off my mind, maybe few of you have same problems. Friend or Girlfriend. Should you take the step? Or should you wait and never know in a sense of endless, but mundane security…. Thanks.



-KnightRider2000

It took me 18 years to ask someone out.

Just wait, you'll get the nerve eventually.

ROFL.























yeah I agree with Cool Matty, I'm 18 and in the same boat, but don't sweat it. It'll come naturally eventually.

Thirded.

I'm 19.

I've been with my girlfriend for half a year. I'm sixteen.



I'm so mean.

You're 16? Wow, I thought you were older.

Heard that one before, and not just on the internet.

I wouldn't fret too much about it. Don't spend those years being like others where 'I have to have a gf/bf!'. Be able to enjoy life and what you do WITHOUT having someone else there. Attain this first. Then the worries of getting a GF will not be as depressing and you'll eventually meet someone who it clicks with and things will happen. If you live life with the sole goal of finding someone else to love, then it will be a long and misarable life at first.

Also, then once you finally meet someone who thinks of you the same, you'll be that much more contempt and not completely dependent on them for happiness. So many people think having a gf equates to happiness. It can, but if you're unhappy with your life as it is - it just covers that for awhile before you eventually realize that. Then you'll get depressed again, she'll think its the relationship, you'll be unsure - and it'll break up. Then you'll be at page one again but this time with a broken heart.

So ask yourself, are these just 'crushes' or are you really ready for a relationship and all the joys and pains that come with it. Are you wanting a relationship because you're 17 and haven't had one once? Or are you wanting one for the actual merits of a relationship.

It sounds like you are near that breaking point where you are finally ready to learn something.

definitely go for it. You must learn to kill that desperation before you do, though.... it stands out like blood in shark-infested water and will turn the chicks off like nothing other. Also, lose the nice guy attitude-- it's a liability and does nothing for you. Just be a man.

The best way is the direct way--- just walk up to a chick oyu are interested in, get the phone number, wait a few days, then call and set something up.

Dating is a numbers game.... the more chicks you ask, the better your odds get. to get over your fear, give one of your best friends a lot of money (an ammount you will miss) and tell him not to give it back until you have gotten at least 5 phone numbers.

While I would normally agree and say that you don't need a GF to be complete, this time I just can't.

He needs to get a GF just to experience it. Forget about all the deep emotional crap at this time. These are some of the best years of his life, and spending them alone is pure misery.

For the love of god, don't listen to the geek 'waiting' advice above. Waiting = masturbating. Will you be the first in a bloodline of billions of years who can't reproduce???! Take action!

He doesn't need a girlfriend, it would just be nice. I'm kind of in that situation right now. I'm completely fine on my own, but there are times when a girl comes along and I get to thinking how it would kind of nice to have a girlfriend. Not necessary, but nice.

I'm not really sure what I meant to say now.

I was 14 when I had my first serious gf. We wound up going out for a little more than two years.

*runs*

Who the **** gives a **** about bloodlines? You're forgetting the billions of equally valid people who never reproduced, genius. Some of those weren't given the choice to, but some were.
You're the last person I expected to put any stock in bloodlines or conditionless sex.

God knows that the sorry ******* who inherits half my genetic material is doomed.

Being alone sucks, dude. You need someone special that you can be with, and do stuff with, etc... life is so much better.

I'm 18. Never had a girlfriend. Which in no way implies I don't get any. Heh, heh. TBH I just didn't meet anyone I'd care enough strong enough to have a relationship with. As opposed to just sex. So, er, good luck.

The point is, he needs a girlfriend to realise that he doesn't.

Wow. There is all very insightful. All very different. Any other opinions?


-KnightRider2000

Don't fret too much over it. I tell you, after three relationships which all failed within a month, I realize it's not too important. If it happens, fine. If not, I can always go fishing. Not to mention I save a bunch of money because I don't have to spend it on dates or gifts for some needy attention whore.

yeah, at this point of the thread, RUN>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

I'm alone, I'm sixteen. It sucks. I hate it. All the girls I like just want to be friends, which is basically their kind way of saying no.

That's what I think about my situation, except I got a year on you.


-KnightRider2000

I've no doubt it'll be the same in a year. I don't know about you, but I tend not to look too happy. Apparently happy looking people are more attractive. Try smiling and laughing a bit more. Might work.

(heh, didn't work for me but hey, three days wasn't long.)

Bitter much?

Not really, surprisingly enough.

Relationships are overrated and dating is taken too seriously. I think in the fervor to get a significant other, people forget about the all important word "Fun" and instead want a relationship just to have a relationship. I can have as much fun single and with friends that are girls as I can together with a girlfriend. Sometimes even more.

I'm just damn lucky

17. Single all 17 of em. I really have no desire to date yet.

The way I see it, dating is the road to marriage. During that time, determine whether or not you are willing to be with that person for the rest of your life or not. I have some GREAT girl friends. Would I marry any of them? Maybe. But I'm not ready for that yet. My plan is to just enjoy life as a single man until the right time arises. You still have all those great friends to lean on.

blah that was too much typing (and thinking). :p

18, had a gf for awhile, she turned out to be evil.
Currently looking for a gf.

The bad news is, if you wait, youll never G-R-Done.
The good new is, i just saved a lot of money by switching my car insurance to Geiko.

I've had two serious gf, two chicks I loved but never payed attention to me... well one of them did, but I screwed things up.... and there is currently one chick who knows I like here and I think she kinda likes me... any how... my last GF discouraged me alot to get close to anyone... at the time, I just stopped liking her... I dunno... the feeling just left... and I had remembered that I loved one girl for a very long time... hence she was the second chick who never payed attention to me... I felt like dying when she said no... but hey, were great friends now, before we were almost strangers so we did advance. You've got nothing to loose mate, go for it!

You dont need a girlfriend, just have fun. You are 17.

By the way, if they want to be just friends, that usually means you dont look so good or you are just plain boring. I suggest working out for the first one but if the second is true than i dont really know what to say..

I have a new "girlfriend" like every 2 weeks. (not officially) Dont get steady when you are only 17

I think I'll start my own thread... I could use some advice at the moment...

Yeah, but you're a musician. That's CHEATING

I was used to get really nervous when it came to girls. I was really shy when i was in high school, but I bit the bullet a few times. It helps jsut to take some action, even if it doesn't lead to anything.

Once you start dating, there are certain clear advantages to leading the bachellor life - just don't feel like you have to rush things. Make yourself available by going places where you will meet people, and don't burn any bridges.
If you're gonna ask a girl out, you don't have to do something really super special on a first date. Just ask her to a movie or somethin low pressure. You're not making a life long commitment by going on one date. You're just spending time with the girl to see how you do together, and see if you think it could go anywhere. If you don't want to make it a date and jeopardize a friendship, just specify that you're going as friends because it can still turn into something else. You can see a movie with a friend, can't you?
Just be yourself and try to have fun. If something goes a little wrong on a date, just laugh it off and don't make it a huge deal.

I'm 18 and haven't had a bf. Honestly though, I don't regret it at all just because when you're dating in high school you bacome half of a pair. That and you get to sit back and learn from everyone else's mistakes.

Now about this particular situation, it IS actually possible to ask out a girl and not be akward with each other if it doesn't work out. It depends on the girl though so I really couldn't help you out with that.

famous, last, words.

He could certaintly do better than a movie. Movie dates are so chiche, and it's predictable. That isn't good, especially for the first date.

also, when you are watching the movie, it leaves extremely limited time for interaction, which isn't good. Her focus should be on you, not on a movie.

Dinner dates are something that I also dislike, unless you mix it up with something else. It's boring as hell to sit around and talk the whole time, and the absolute LAST thing you want to be is boring. Women can take anything except boredom.

I prefer action dates, like bowling, laser tag, miniture golf, and generally anything that involves going out and actually DOING something.