Is confidence the same as indifference? Because I've got plenty of that.

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Our very existence is at stake

Yay! I can finally join the snail-racing crew.

-@%

even so, they're fun as hell to nail.



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Old aunts used to come up to me at weddings, poking me in the ribs and cackling, telling me, "You're next." They stopped after I started doing the same thing to them at funerals.

Yeah I've never really understood the idea of "lowering your standards". You can't force yourself to have chemistry with someone you don't. Either it's there or it's not and if you feel like you are "lowering yourself" by being with someone then you are doing a disservice to yourself and them in the long run. No-one deserves to be some kind of consolation prize and it's sure not a recipe for lasting happiness.

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Cantina Cloud | BCF | The Massassian 1, 2 & 3 | Gonkmeg
Corrupting the kiddies since '97

pfft. Can confidence carry oxyhaemaglobin or glucose?


Seriously though, I think people over use the whole confidence is the answer riff. It's fine if that works for you, but for me I've found that being neither confident or scared is the best way to go. Eg for a test, I'm neither nervous of confident, I figure I'll get what I deserve. If I studied enough, I'll go good, if I didn't I wont go good. (ooh causality). But I would consider myself something of a reductionist so this may or may not be good for anyone else.


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This one day I went to change my password, but being the clever chappy that I am, I accidently typed the new pw into the e-mail address bar and clicked submit, hence the slightly modified new user name. Go me and my awesome computer skills.

Why, Jaiph, why must you be so wise

Everyone has concerns where "love/love-life" is concerned. For some it's "if/when will I find that someone?"; for others it's "so where's the money going to come from to afford your upkeep this month?"

I "waited" (well ok - no one really took an interest in me - minor technicality ) until I was 17 before I got my first kiss and a hug. Emphasis on first (and currently "only"). Now at nearly 22, with no "experience" or however you wish to phrase it, could I care less? Answer: "No". Reason: because I firmly believe that there's someone for everyone - it's always a case of "when" - not "if". The only question in my mind is whether or not I'll find that "one person" in this life, or the next. Either way - "Carpe Diem" - life's too short and you know what they say - you'll find it when you least expect it. Just don't use chatrooms to reach that goal

EDIT: I'm hardly getting any younger either (my mirror can testify ) and yet despite all these "worries", what do you see me do most - smile . Therein lies my philosophy with life - you can let it bite you in the a$$ and not get up again, or you can pick yourself up, dust yourself down, smile and say "Take 2", to the camera that's focusing on your individual life

-Jackpot

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"lucky_jackpot is the smily god..." - gothicX

"Life is mostly froth and bubble, but two things stand in stone,
Kindness in another's trouble, courage in your own"
("Ye Wearie Wayfarer" - by Adam Lindsay Gordon)

And he's finally off the starting grid --> Zooooom -@%

[This message has been edited by lucky_jackpot (edited June 04, 2004).]

almost 20 here, zero experience here. It's not such a lonely boat afterall.

I'd gloat that I'm going out with a girl tomorrow, but that would be wrong, so I won't.

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Superstition brings bad luck.
-Raymond Smullyan, 5000B.C.

Donate to charity or support the hopeless, ill or sad. That makes me happy.

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Snail racing: (500 posts per line)

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The Massassi JO/JA Single Player contest info

19. Never kissed a girl (surprising, huh?). Meh. If there's someone for me, I'll meet them. If not, meh. If I need companionship, I've got friends for a reason (no, I'm not implying "friends with 'benefits'").

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<ubuu> does hitler have a last name?
<jipe> .. yes, Ubuu, we're racist commy nazi jews, and we hate male pattern baldness
<Professor`K> Sorry, but half-way through your logic, my head exploded

20 and a half for proper stuff.
Kissed a girl when I was 19, but she was a lesbo, so it didnt go anywhere.
Then a month ago met someone new and within 3 days I got the whole deal, trust me though, it doesnt make you happy. Cos in teh end you just loose that person...

"Is the happiness we feel with a lover worth the effort when in a short time we break up and feel horrible longing and sadness? NO IT ISNT!!! "

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Yank - "English boy ay? Y'know we saved your butts in World World II!"
Brit - "Oh Yeh? Well we saved YOUR arses in World War III!!"
Yank - "Yeh thats true"

if(getThingFlags(source) & 0x8){
  do her}
elseif(getThingFlags(source) & 0x4){
  do other babe}
else{
  do a dude}

I've had two relationships, the other one still "continues"...

And that's it.

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<landfish> FastGamerr > Satan

Lucky *******s...

My first kiss was when I was eleven, and was in a "Truth or Dare" game. It was on the lips aswell. I feel ashamed.

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Titan A.E.

only feel ashamed if you kissed another guy in this game. kissing's fun.


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IMPORTANT NOTICE PLEASE READ

Employees dying on the job are faling to fall down. THIS PRACTICE MUST STOP as it becmes impossible to distinguish between death and the natural movement of he staf.

Any employee found dead in an upright position will be dropped from the payroll.

Kissing is ok but snogging is fantastic

if(getThingFlags(source) & 0x8){
  do her}
elseif(getThingFlags(source) & 0x4){
  do other babe}
else{
  do a dude}

That's because you're just longing for external happiness. Have fun in a very dull and normal life.

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Wake up, rise and shine, Gotta take another pint, Dig heads and watch out for the night.

Wow.. GBK is depressed alot. i've seen this same thread at least 3 times this month. I think he needs a change of scenes. who here wants to hyjack his computer and install XP on it?

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"No good can ever come from staying with normal people"
-Outlaw Star
"Some people play tennis. I erode the human soul"
-Tycho, Penny Arcade
"I'm a Cannabal-Vegitarian. I will BBQ an employee if there is no veggie option"
-DX:IW
A Knight's Tail
Exile: A Tale of Light in Dark
The Never Ending Story²[/i]

He'd murder you. Bloodily.

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GBK, you can always take comfort in knowing that you've dated more women than I have.

Damnit, now I'm depressed.

Also, a few minutes here should be entertaining.

what the?

/me disturbed.

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Snail racing: (500 posts per line)

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The Massassi JO/JA Single Player contest info

Is snogging similar to flogging?

And RE: Hampsterdance...

No.

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[16:38] Correction: dick tracy was a real man
[16:38] happydud: Actually...
[16:38] happydud: He wasn't.

[19:08] Dormouse: hi, my name's happydud and i'm passive-aggress.. SHUTUP!! *stabs nearby orphan*
[You have gained 3 Dark Side Points]

Not really I'd say, as long as it wasn't your first kiss.

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Bassoon, n. A brazen instrument into which a fool blows out his brains.

I'm going to go slightly out on a limb here, and suggest something... Why are you depressed? Because you're lacking compaionship, sex, whatever? Do something about it. Shut down that *nix box, and go for a walk. Posting on an internet forum doesn't count Even what Emon suggested could be, at the least, a start. Anything is a start, and surely anything is better than sitting on your computer feeling terrible.

Pagewizard, every post I read of yours makes me laugh. Your approch to women scares me, and while some of your advice is sound, your attitude is not. And before your write me off as a "nerd" who thinks AIM is the only place to meet *chicks*, I do have a girlfriend. But that's as many details as I feel I need to share. I don't think a thread asking about relationship advice is the place to brag, nor one asking for help as someone is depressed.

You also seem to have a need to work in your relationship advice, of course with personal examples, into any thread that even hints at having the word "girl" in it.

Just a thought.

[This message has been edited by BuuBox (edited June 04, 2004).]

I'm only sharing what I know with the board just in case there is even one person here that wants to listen even a little.

BTW, what do you have against my attitude? (I probably already know what oyu're going to say, but I want to hear it from you.)


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Old aunts used to come up to me at weddings, poking me in the ribs and cackling, telling me, "You're next." They stopped after I started doing the same thing to them at funerals.

[This message has been edited by Pagewizard_YKS (edited June 04, 2004).]

From your posts, the only conclusion that I can come to is that you see women as objects and possessions; something to brag to your mates about at every possible chance. From this, I feel that there’s nothing in your relationships besides a want for physical intimacy. And maybe that’s fine, for you. I’ve had relationships like that in the past, casual things lasting a night or even a few weeks at best. I guess the difference is that I found someone, and I perhaps I found love. And that feels many times better than moving on from girl to girl at parties and nightclubs. This, to some extent, has changed how I viewed things.

That’s how you end up hurting people. Girls are people too.

You might view these as untruths, but it's how I’m reading into your posts, and I would be surprised if I was the only one.

You also preach your views as fact, and that those who don’t believe and practice aren’t worthy of women, of sex, of whatever, and are inferior. It’s not always a game, and shouldn’t always be a game.

It's comments like...



...that seem to back my statements up. Correct me if I’m wrong, but don’t turn this into a flame war

[This message has been edited by BuuBox (edited June 04, 2004).]

You're not.

For one, that isn't my official stance at all. Sticky this at the top of the board if you have to in order to get the point across to everyone here.

My objective is to

1. Build my abilities and eliminate my weaknesses by being in a perpetual state of self-improvement.

2. Secondary objective: use these new aspects of my personality to get the best women possible/available.

I don't view woman as objects, but merely equals. I do not place them on pedestals, but I don't keep them beneath me, either. However, this does not keep me from having very high standards.

I enforce these standards by being the prize to be sought after by women. Why should I chase after them? Women are the ones that emphasize physical appearance the most, so logically, they should use such attributes to appeal to me.

For them to want to appeal to me, I must set myself apart. I do this by improving myself and dedicating myself to everything that I do 100%. Women will (and do) sense the attention and passion that I place on everything that i do, and they want a piece of the action. Women want attention. they crave it. They then compete with my interests to gain a piece of my time and some of the desired attention. This may make me appear to be hard to get, but my activities force me to prioritize my time and things with a lower priority get treated as such.
In this way, I make myself a rare and valuable commodity to be sought after simply by being passionate about what I do. This is no game that I'm playing-- it is simple causality: By being focused on what I do, I have less time for everything else. Cause and effect.

I then add to this principle the element of confidence. I have already stated the value of confidence earlier, but i did not tell you how to apply it. Confidence sustains me. It allows me to take failure at point-blank range and keep on going. Confidence is both the source and the product of success. Confidence is what gives me the ability to get involved with the most attractive women. Condidence is what has allowed me to endure against hardships in the past.

In short, my attitude is not about deceiving and using women. My attitude, as you call it, is a guide to improving yourself and having the best women come to you out of their own free will. It's not a game I play, what oyu are looking at is an extension of my personality itself. I go through life impassioned about what I do, and the ability to be successful with women is a by-product of this attude, not the reason for it.

I hope you (and everyone else) understand the points that I have covered here.

I believe that everyone here has the ability to be successful with women, but my way is by far the easiest way to do so. What i have described works great for me, so it must be fact or else it would not be so. Besides, what does anyone here have to lose by trying my advice? You can always go back until oyu reach a certain point.


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Old aunts used to come up to me at weddings, poking me in the ribs and cackling, telling me, "You're next." They stopped after I started doing the same thing to them at funerals.

[This message has been edited by Pagewizard_YKS (edited June 04, 2004).]

GBK, your things aren't as f'd as up they could be.. I have a girlfriend, who i love very much, but still i'd kill myself if it changed anything in my life.. so yeah..

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