Yep, another one of my rare but occasional emo threads.

Point: I'm unhappy with how secluded I am... I have no real friends, so obviously I need to learn to be more outgoing and relate to people. Besides my family members, the only person who is actually close to me is my gf. Is it me, or does that seem wrong? I need friends....but every time I meet someone who might be cool, I just don't know what to say..."I wanna be your friend, please"? I try to be myself, but in turn I am artificial in conversations. It's really not fare that I should be missing out on a lot of fun in life; I want to know people, and I want people to know me...for who I am, not just the shy tall guy at school.

So, friendly Massassians...give me advice, on how to make friends. Good ones. Homies, people I can trust and hang out with, and be...well, be like a brother to. It's a change that must come to my life.

[creepy voice]You already have friends. Right here. You don't need new friends. Delphian, do you not love us? We don't like NEW friends.[/creepy voice]

How old are you? I had friends in high school, but I have a completely new group of friends since I came to college. First year of college is IMO the best and easiest way to meet people...because nobody knows anybody else, so it's not at all akward to talk to random people.

16...

and no friends..*weeps*

Really...no friends at all?

Well, just hang around with people who you think you'll get along with, you know? Talk to people in your classes, join some clubs and such... you'll meet a few people that way, just going to meetings occasionally or calling classmates to ask about homework... the more contacts you have, the better your relationships will be, and sooner than you know it you'll meet your friend's friends, and your friend's friends' friends. Just be easygoing, be yourself, don't try to act how you think anyone wants you to act. If you act like who you are, you'll meet and get along great with the people who are like you, or who complement you and vice versa. You seem reasonably confident and intelligent, you're prolly just a little shy I'm assuming... Go for it, you'll do great.

Yeah, clubs and other activiites are the best way to go.

Get drunk.

You never ask someone if they want to be your friend. You just hang out and talk and eventually it's just kind of known that you are friends. It's weird.

[QUOTE=Vincent Valentine]Get krunk.[/QUOTE]

fixed

YEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH[/little john]

What we're all trying to say is that you can do it. Easily!

No, I mean of course I have friends...but they're just school acquaintances; people I see at school and on the bus home. But that's all, really. I guess you're right, I need to let go of my shyness, be easygoing. Yeah.

The last time I made a new friend was in kindergarten. After that, I relied on my friends to find new friends, who would in turn be friends with me. It's a great system, except when I'm away at school I don't know anyone. But it's okay; I have my computer.

I'm not sure how this helps your problem at all.

Just don't worry about having a specific purpose of making friends. If you ask someone "will you be my friend?" it sounds creepy and desperate. Talk to people; in real life, on the internet, wherever. Friendship will happen naturally. And you don't even have to share a lot of the same interests. My two best friends and I; we're like tri-polar opposites, and yet we have lots of fun together. Anyways, you will have to make an effort to socialize. I feel like a hypocrite for suggesting this, but you should join a club or a sports team. It's a great way to meet people.

WHHHHHAAAAAT

O-KAY

I'm much the same, stupid engineering takes up too much of my time for a serious social life. Right now all I have at school are acquaintances.

I know how you feel. I have felt the same way myself. One thing you might try is if you see someone you know at a distance, go over and say hello (or at the least, wave to them and smile). If you go talk to them just ask questions about how their day's going, etc.. They'll usually be more than willing to tell you about it, and then just listen and make comments based on what they say. People love to hang out with other people who listen to their problems. Don't tell them how to fix it, but feel free to make suggestions or commiserate.

Anyway, as you start holding conversations with people, you'll get more comfortable and confident with it, and people will start confiding in you more.. As that happens, invite them to hang out with you (ie, go see a movie, play pool at a local bar, etc). If you can, schedule it with other friends.

I can't really help you, I've been hanging out with the same group of four people for the last decade or so. People are overrated, anyway.

People kick ***.

new friends allll the timeeeee

thats the way to goooo

And then sometimes random people Skype you and want to be your friend. :p

I never hung out with friends outside of school until my senior year.

And now I'm stuck with the same two people.

I know some who don't. :p

Anyway, I have no idea how I managed to be friends with my current best friend, but for the first two years that I knew him, I hated him and insulted him greatly at one point. Then I grew up and started being nice. Not sure how it happened. :/

[QUOTE=Vincent Valentine]
And now I'm stuck with the same two people.[/QUOTE]

[insert joke about hands]

You need to meet more famous people.

rare, but occasional?

Wow! That girl is so lucky to have her picture made with Jar Jar!

omfg

LOLLLLLLLERRRFORCE!!!!!!

PWNED!

[QUOTE=Vincent Valentine]I never hung out with friends outside of school until my senior year.

And now I'm stuck with the same two people.[/QUOTE]
<Vinny> I wish someone would call me
<Vinny> I mean on the phone
<Vinny> to go hang out
(Vinny makes lies to coverup lonelyness)

Someone here already said it: talk to people about what they've done, what they're going to do, what you've done, what YOU'RE going to do, whatever. Also, just SAY stuff. Nothing is creepier than "that guy" who stands around and never talks. He's the guy who walks up behind you while you're talking to your friends, and you say something funny, and everyone chuckles including him, and you turn around because he scared the crap out of you because he didn't say anything when he walked up. Don't assume everything you want to say is stupid. Even if it is, oh well, that's just your personality. Me and my friends say stupid stuff all the time, and then everybody laughs at him or her.

Just take part in stuff in any way you can. But don't try too hard.

Also, if you think you already told a story, don't even think about telling it again. I know this one guy who has about 5 stories and I've heard them all a hundred times, since every time someone mentions something remotely related, he tells the story.

If you meet someone cool and you like hanging out with them tell them. Just be like "Hey, I like hanging out with you, you're a cool kid." I know it sounds kind of creepy, but it works.

or listen to more Wilco:

How to fight loneliness
Smile all the time
Shine you teeth til meaningless
Sharpen them with lies

And whatevers going down
Will follow you around
Thats how you fight loneliness
You laugh at every joke
Drag your blanket blindly
Fill your heart with smoke
And the first thing that you want
Will be the last thing you ever need
Thats how you fight it

Just smile all the time
Just smile all the time
Just smile all the time
Just smile all the time

Somebody phone me; I'm bored.

I dont have friends, or time for friends:(

College
Work
Sleep

Repeat...

Forever...

rare but occasional...riight


but anyway I beg to differ, I think these type of threads are too common here

Heh. Play WoW or GW. Make virtual friends. Never leave the house again. Works for me.

A club or activity is the way to go, as it'll give you a common interest with other people. Then you just need to start talking to these people and get to know them.

Also, don't be the guy that stands really close to other guys, almost touching their shoulders. At least for me, I -hate- when people do this. Don't stand there and not say much, and when you DO say things.... don't make them things like "Yeah. I saw this movie called Serenity. It's supposed to be a Chinese word for calm!!" And when you say something stupid, don't laugh really loud.
Especially not while you're in the 'I'm so close I'm touching your shoulder' position.
And when someone says something not worth laughing about, don't give an all out yelling laugh. You'll sound like an idiot, and -I- personally get annoyed by people like that.
There's a guy that acts like that, and I think he's a little too interested in my very good femal friend. Which is another thing that annoys me. I'm too 'nice' to tell him to go away, though.
Just... be friendly, and not the guy that everyone wants to go away, but is too afraid to tell you to do so.
OH! And be polite. When a girl has really dry skin/hands one day, don't yell at her "WOW! YOU LOOK LIKE YOU DIPPED YOUR HANDS IN TOXIC WASTE! AHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHA!" and then when she recoils in complete shock (because she was already almost crying in the first place, in case you didn't notice) don't stand there and go "WHAAAAA!? WHAT ARE YOU MAD AT -ME- FOR!?? YOU'RE THE ONE WITH THE FREAKY ACID LOOKING HANDS!!!"

-_-

I'm so annoyed with that guy. I'm 16, and this guy annoying me is like... 14 or 15.
The sad thing is, he has -no- friends... so... yeah. He really has no where else to go, since my school is very small.
Oh, oh, and from my experience, you should try to make friends that are close to your age/grade. There's a sixth grader following me around all the time, and it's driving me crazy.

Extracurricular activities are a great way to meet people. I had friends in high school, but you get to know people better in closer community in college.