a random thought, talkng to some girl on msn, she's talking about all the people she kissed on the lips last night (just lips, just kissing friends), but I act like its a big deal.

I've been out drinking in clubs many times, just like everyone else, so why i am the only one who has never kissed a stranger for fun, or even pulled a girl?

Makes me feel like i'm a failure in a way, that i'm no fun, i'm not sure I've even tried, or people wouldnt want me to if i was in that situation.

WHats everyone's opinion on this stuff.

Does anyone else feel disconnected socially, in taht everyone else pulls the opposite sex frequently, seems to have more fun, and you somehow feel different and out of place?

To summarise? wtf is wrong here? Is everyone else morally void and sick, or are we (if there is anyone else who agrees) the sick ones, outcasts, who deserve to be loners, because we dont have it in us to interact like everyone else our age?

/end bitterness

if(getThingFlags(source) & 0x8){
  do her}
elseif(getThingFlags(source) & 0x4){
  do other babe}
else{
  do a dude}

I think kissing should be reserved for people that you love. Not just think look pretty.

Is this you?

But seriously though, you're totally handsome.

Just because everyone else does it, doesn't mean its right.

Also, I'd never do ANYTHING like that. Don't feel weird.

Its not really a right or wrong thing for me. I like to keep intimate acts for intimate people. Kissing everyone in sight cheapens the act, and makes it less.. special, I guess.

Sounds like a great way to get mono or herpes! Yay!

I've done it, but mainly because my friends have dared me to. I used to not think anything of it, but looking back, it's kind of gross. I don't even like people that much. >_>


Exactly.

wheres the fun in that!

Look who's talking Mr. I-hid-my-mattress-in-my-closet.


On a side note, why is the background to this "posting" screen rainbow?

If this is something MB did to me...

I know where you sleep, boy.

And so do the squirrels.

Ha ha, enjoy your seizure, sir!

VICTORY!

how about you stop de railing the thread?

if(getThingFlags(source) & 0x8){
  do her}
elseif(getThingFlags(source) & 0x4){
  do other babe}
else{
  do a dude}

gurlz

I don't kiss random strangers. Body shots and such is a different story though.

I wanna tell you 'bout the girl I love
My she looks so fine
She's the only one that I've been dreamin' of
Maybe someday she will be all mine

I wanna tell her that I love her so
I thrill with her every touch
I need to tell her she's the only one I really love

I've never kissed complete strangers or people I just met.

Hah, who was it, Joren DarkStar or something that said kissing a random person was the best way to get them to date you or something?

Though I'm definitely in the minority here, I'll go with the latter. Kissing, or sex even, don't have much to do with love; however I never really kissed a COMPLETE stranger because I'm a pussy I usually don't risk getting slapped in the face.

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I kissed a couple people randomly at a party once. While enjoyable (they were freaking hot) it was more boring than if there had been an exciting car chase (read=romance) beforehand.

However, we are social outcasts. Our only remaining venue is to become private security contractors and travel to Iraq with only checkerboard vans, a RedSox cap, boardshorts, a wifebeater and our m16s and proceed to kill insurgents and fall madly in love with veiled Arab women.

Why do you want to dress up like a clown..?

I've kissed near strangers (friends of friends who I've just met). I suppose I'd kiss total strangers, if the mood struck me. Nobody around here makes a big deal of it, including myself.

What is popular is not always right.
What is right is not always popular.

Okay but this isnt a right or wrong situation.

Its not like youre a bad person if you kiss somoene you dont know. Sure in some situations thats probably true, but if it was Ruth + some random girl at a club who decides she wants to kiss him, no big deal.

Yeah, I know. I just thought of that quote when Ruthie went into the moral dillema of it all.

I don't think it's a big deal. Kissing and sex can be had without love and not be a big deal. I know a lot of people associate sex with love, but to quote Firefly, "One of the benefits of not being puritanical about sex is not feeling bad afterwards."

Not that sex is the case here, but I think it applies suitably to kissing. Probably even more so, since kissing is less serious.

(Plus, if you wash your mouth out with alcohol, say Vodka, it kills all the nasty mono and herpes germs. Or at least gives you an excuse to drink more. )

Yeah, my thoughts exactly.

I've kissed plenty of randoms, but other than when I was about 14 I've only ever done it with the idea of following it up and trying to make some sort of relationship out of it.

Hell, I've never kissed anyone.

I don't kiss random people, but it would be pretty cool if I did.

I've kissed people whom I've just met, so I don't know if they count as strangers really. Friends of friends at hot tub parties, or people I thuoght I liked at the time but realized afterwards was a mistake. Lately I try to be more conscientious and responsible about whom I snog, as most of the time looking back it was either silly or a poor emotional investment or whatever.

I just got back from a sort of accidental date [in that I don't date and am not interested in having a girlfriend per se, but she decided the two times we've gone out to dinner were dates], and I kissed her sort of selfishly I suppose before I was able to confess to her that I wasn't looking for romance with her. But there are a lot of kisses that I totally wouldn't take back either.

I've had a couple friends with whom it was just normal and comfortable to kiss them hello or goodbye, or for that matter my best friend and I kissed a lot the first day we met, and have been together [albeit non-exclusively] for the last five years.

Sew.. will I kiss strangers or such in the future-- probably. Will it be a good idea-- hard to say. But I am trying to be more meaningful and intentional about my physicality these days.

Heh, I've probably gone exactly the opposite way. Because the pulling of random people tends to happen when drunk, and once I'm sober again I don't trust my judgement of the person, I'll tend to avoid seeing them again.

I want to meet someone that I can get to know before any physical stuff happens, unfortunately I don't really hang out in the right circles...

What's a kiss?

i do it when i'm raving and/or throttled on ecstacy, but usually no.

Dormouse's life parellels my own.

I've done the whole random thing. One night stands aren't really that cool and kissing random people just to kiss someone is probably best reserved for drug binges.

It's not something that I look down upon, it's just something I've done and I can say it's not really worth it. You don't get any real fulfillment.

During any random night at the bar, I tend to kiss about 30 girls. Then again, it's pretty much tradition to give girls you know a small kiss on the lips as to say hi, and give guys a hug. Not really that spectacular.

Then again, those aren't total strangers.

I have kissed one girl that I would consider a stranger.. She was actually a friend of my friends. We were all very drunk, and playing spin the bottle. Someone took a picture during. I'll upload it later if I can find it.

But anyway, other than that, I'm pretty specific about who I kiss. I've kissed three other girls, the first was the old love of my life, Megan. Then the "rebound" from her, Lindsay, and now the new love of my life, Lynsey (yes, they have the same name with different spelling... Kinda weird, I know).

So to summarize, Ruthy, no it's not weird that you don't randomly kiss random girls.

Haha, I remember that. Someone started a thread about how they'd never kissed a girl or something, and the guy (don't remember if it was Joren DarkStar or someone else) suggested catching a random girl's eye from across the room, smiling, walking over to them, kissing, and walking away.

Someone else pointed out that this would make you an exceedingly creepy person.

but at the same time would be exceedingly awesome

Honestly is something we've all done. Im gonna be annyoing, I was apperently the best kisser at school. Don't know how that was the case but kissing as im concerned is full on. I kissed girls and women and usaully it has often in Terrible Consequences. I would kiss a stranger cause its an excuse to prove I've got guts and can be dared.

Its sometimes paid off, and its quite fun to kiss someone in a car park, hey I did that in Canterbury's Whitefriars, I got a woo, and cheer But some girls and ladies judge by kissing, its claimed that a kiss can determine how much you like someone. But thats from my knowledge.