Ok, this started about two weeks ago when I started to notice this girl looking at me during some classes. She'd look away when I looked in her direction, but I would see her do it a few times during a class. After a few days of that, she started talking to me in the halls between classes, which is strange because we're both really quiet people. Then, two fridays ago (the 3rd), she really caught me off guard, she came up to me after school, said "Call me later," and handed me a piece of paper with her phone number on it. I called her that night and we talked for around 30 minutes when out of nowhere she asked me to go to the Homecoming dance with her. This caught me off guard again, but I do have some feelings for her, so I said yes. Lately we've been talking on and off throughout the days and at football games (we're both in pep band) and becomming better friends. Then earlier this evening, after we had school church choir practice, she was waiting outside the school and wanted to talk to me. She asked me what was going on between us and if I liked her any. I told her that I'm not sure what's happening, but I think I do like her, but that I'm not positive as to what how I feel means because I've never felt this way before. I asked her how she felt about what was happening and she said that I was a great guy and that she didn't know what was happening either.

Whenever I talk to her I get a feeling that I can only describe as extreme nervousness or a form of fear. Something like an adrenaline(sp?) rush. I still have that feeling now from talking to her almost an hour ago. I get the feeling that she likes me, but I'm not sure. I'm not even sure what I feel for her, I just know that I've never felt it before.

Does it seem that she likes me or am I just reading things wrong? picking up the wrong signals? What do you think I should do about it? Homecoming is next week and I really don't want our friendship (or whatever we have) to end by saying something wrong, because I really enjoy talking with her.
I could use some advice on this.

You're imagining things, she just wants you to ask her out so she can reject you. Also, hahahahaaha pep band.

Oh she likes you. Sounds like both of you are kinda new to this sort of thing though so you might want to take things slowly. A good start is to talk to her some more about it IMO.

Also, don't forget to read the manual.

I literally laughed out loud. Thank you sir.

.......she's outright telling you she wants to talk to you and go out on a date with you and you ask "Am I reading things wrong?" Consider yourself lucky. Most of the time girls are never as obvious as she is being. And what's this "I don't want to say anything that will end our friendship"? Do you say stupid things frequently or do you think you have to be someone else in order for her to accept you? It looks like she likes who you are, so don't change it. If by chance you say something stupid, oh well. It's not uncommon. And what's this about friendship? If you are interested in her at all you should be moving this relationship forward. How far off is the dance?

Someone got up on the wrong side of the nest.. :p

Jaiph and Kieran are right. She asked you out, she gave you her phone number, she's making the moves at you.. She digs you like a backhoe. (Woo late-night-analogies!) By the description of how you feel, I'd say give it a go. See what happens, it can't turn out that badly. You both obviously feel something more than just a casual "Hullo thar" to each other.


And Flexor- I tried typing in: man woman, but there was no entry found... :/

No, I just rarely say anything at all so I have no idea what to ever say.


Next Saturday, the 25th.

(Dammit, kieran, you beat me to it! :p )


looks like things are off to a good start. However, one thing you should have done differently is waited a few days before calling, but you were lucky in that nothing bad hapened in this case. At any rate, it will certaintly do no harm to sit on any numbers you get in the future for a few days, okay? (caling the same night makes you look desperate, which is never good for you)



also, don't worry about saying something stupid, it just comes across as insecurity. Whatever you do, do it with cockiness.

And kieran is also right in the sense that friendship is nothing to hold onto when it can progress to something else.

tight nuts man! go 4 it... or something

A girl could not gift wrap it any more. Like Jaiph said, she it totally into you. The fact that she asked you out is something that rarely happens

But what if you are desperate? Or at least pathetic?

.... I'm asking for a friend. Yeah, that's it. A friend.

Listen to Kieran! lol It takes a lot for a girl to admit to a guy that she is interested in him. The fact that she took the initiative to give you her number and then to ask you out to homecoming is great. She obviously likes you, and her asking what you feel is her way of knowing where she stands with you. She apparently likes you, and it seems that she wants a little more then just friendship, but she also seems like she is checking out how you feel to make sure not to push it and go at your pace incase you only want friendship. I say this is very good. But definitely listen to Kieran, he gives good advice, and I agree with what he said

Yeah, and make sure after homecoming you get the cheapest hotel you can find

By the sounds of it, there's no way you've misread any signals, she obviously does like you. It's nice that you've actually talked about how the two of you feel about eachother, if this is the first time either of you have thought about dating, I think it's very good that you're talking it out, finding your way together. How old are you?

Girls are lying whores. She'll take you to the dance, then get it on with two chicks and a dude while you're on the dance floor holding her punch. I swear to god. Girls are whores.

Zuljin's right. Either that, or she's a clingy psycho beast. She's moving this thing along very quickly without any help from you. Punch her square in the throat and let it serve as a warning to all other women who try to trap you in a leeching, manipulative situation.

Don't forget...

GO FOR THE EYES BOO, GO FOR THE EYESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSs

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!

Good times.

hey do you talk to her on a nightly basis as well... your setting yourself up to be the push-over bf... its cool that shes into you and being the man of the relationship but it will get out of control. Soon you will be leaving movies early so she can go home and watch will and grace, and typing to your friends on massassi will be replaced with listening to her talk about how her friend stole her friends hair clip and then overheard her other friend say that she didnt take the hair clip but borrowed it without telling because she didnt like this girl that originally wanted to take the hairclip... etc. it gets monotanous... stay free my man dont fall in a dangerous trap...

note: this can all be disregaurded if you thing your gonna get some... and dont use a condum

First of all, never, EVER, ask for relationship help on these forums, 50% of the people will tell you to just go for it, 25% will mock you, and 25% will give your very poor advice.

Best advice ever!

So the dance is a week and a half away? Why are you waiting for the dance? Ask her out for this weekend. Since you two already know a lot about each other, you don't have to do something that is conversation orienated as the case would be otherwise. This is one instance where I condone taking her to a movie as a first date, but I think going to lunch on Saturday would be better. Has she talked to you about her favorite foods or restaurants are?

I'm not gonna read any of the previous posts.

Dude, how old are you kids (what grade, etc.)?

Yes, she does like you.

Also, is she hot? I'm not talking about "okay" or even something like "above average/okay".

Even if you don't particularly like her there is no harm in spending time with her if you don't mind and have nothing better to do or if you like spending time with her. If you don't like her, you shouldn't lead her on, but that doesn't mean you can't spend time with her. Again, if you don't like her that way (:p) but like spending time with her, then spend time with her and you never know what might happen.

Then why do I have all these women hurling soiled panties at me? I mean, I work in a laundromat for christ's sake and I... oh. Well, damn.

Pagewizard - I would have waited to call, except that I was going to be out of town the next two days and wouldn't have a chance to.

maevie and Tonberry - I'm 17 and she's 18. Junior/Senior

Snoopfighter - No, I talk to her between classes, not nightly

greenboy - Normally, I wouldn't ask here, but I've nowhere else to ask.

Kieran - I'm thinking about asking her to lunch or something this weekend, and no, she hasn't told me much about her favorite foods or restaurants.

IS

SHE

hot?

i mean an older senior girl going for a junior...? if she is hot then do it man! if shes not then pass it up cuz you can always go back to her later if you realize you can't do much better.

And? What are you waiting for?

Yes. Women love arrogance.

Anyway...
She has a crush on you, no doubt about it. If you get a nervous feeling, then you feel the same, most likely. An adrenaline rush would be the giveaway; that would mean you really like her. After all, there's no other reason you'd get nervous around her, right?

And a certain few of you are way to obsessed with appearance.

Looks like someones had some girl problems in the past....

Interesting topic here...

With a number of interesting replies...

I think greenboy's hit the nail on the head...

25% will ask stupid questions like 'is she hot?'

25% will mock you.

And then 50% will actually try giving good advice.

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Hot or not, go for it. If what's happening is what you're saying is happening, then she undoubtedly likes you, as Keiran said. I mean, it's all gift-wrapped and everything.

Yes, there is that remote possibility that she's setting you up for something, but that is REMOTE.

As for the "falling into the trap of a relationship" thing, that's awful, you guys! No one should LIVE online!

Gebohq: *cough*

Hey, just because I do it, doesn't mean I SHOULD...



But seriously, I think it's too bad that you don't have anyplace else to ask for help. Not even a friend or two you can just email personally? Even if it's an online friend?

My advice is this. GET OUT THERE AND MAKE SOME FRIENDS!

Good luck with this young lady.

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P.S. "Don't use a condum." Worst. Advice. Ever! Just abstain, buddy. Not to mention he misspelled the word "condom".

^ Birth Control pills > condoms.

<.<

>.>

Don't ask.

I'll guarantee you Rooftops will impress her

I'd just take her to someplace informal, really. That Madison Garden restaraunt still there? Down past the Hallmark on Main St. as you approach the silos? If so, that's a perfect place.

Either way, find somewhere. The only bad thing about that town is there are no really good places to go out and eat.

I'll try and think of more places for you to ask her in the meantime.

Have some confidence. If she's been this obvious about liking you, it should be pretty hard for you to screw up.

Quoted for truth... and bitterness, but mostly truth.

To see her.

We have a bumper crop of girl threads this week. Mabye we should ban girls. They can live in... Nebraska.

Where. The HECK. IS IT??!?

...Seriously.

(whoops, I forgot I was Mr. Know-It-All there for a sec....)


Ahh.... Ask me anything about girls...