hey so i'm bored and i noticed the attention the other girl thread got so i'm gonna splurge about my "girl troubles"

OK...starts like this.......

This girl transfered from a different mcdonalds(i work there remember) about a month ago...so needless to say she didn't know anyone where i work....i had the exact same shifts as her all week so we got alot of talking in. She told me about how she got cheated on by her boyfriend...

She was walking downtown...and see's her boyfriends car...and theres some girl in the passenger seat...and at this point he'd been sort of avoiding her for some time......She didn't want to confront him about it...so she yelled at his friend(lol)...and naturally he told him....then he comes over to Abby's(the girl) house crying like a baby.....blah blah blah they break up...
lol i skipped a bunch but you get the idea....so

now she's single

Then on a friday night...we were both closing...she says to me about how she doesn't wanna go home and sleep after close...sleeping's boring....and that she wants to do something...so we start planning an evening...we were gonna go on the lakewalk...then afterwards watch a movie at her place...pretty basic...but...good enough for me....

then she started talking to another girl while i was on break....talking about being cheated on....and she started feeling depressed...then when i got back...she went out to the lobby to close that...keeping her busy for about an hour...and allowing her to stew for...an hour...she comes back...and says how she just wants to go home and goto bed...i didn't want to sound like a jerk so i'm like....ok

So i didn't work with her the next week except for a thursday...everything was normal, we talked as usual...but it seemed she had gotten more comfortable with me...ya know as if we'd know eachother quite some time.....because...she was really tired that day...she had got 4 hours of sleep....and throughout the day...she was taking little catnaps on my shoulder...considering we've know eachother for a little more then a week this was kinda neat...after the first couple times....i put my arm around her...she didn't seem to mind at all...in fact she did it a few more times and i did too....it was cool....when work was over she said goodbye and i did to........all in all things are goin good.......

but then.....:mad:

i had told my sister about this girl...and her EXpert advice was to sorta let her make the first move...to let her ask me out...that way i'd be sure that she's over this guy(who btw was her high school sweetheart) and also that she does actually like me...so w/e it sounded like a good idea...so i went with it....but....nothing much seemed to happen...sure we'd flirt all the time....and not like the pushing and shoving kind of flirting(althought there was some)....so i decided to scrap the whole wait for her to make the first move idea....and was going to ask her out....

so the day, the minute......the second....i was going to say "hey abby........" she blurts out....GUESS WHAT?!!! i figure..well it can wait a few more minutes...."What?" i met this really nice guy....he goes to UMD and he's sooooo nice....he says hes gonna cook for me and talk me on walks....and blah blah blah....
i'm like......WtFfffffff

i didn't know what to do...what to say....i just sorta froze...naturally i was pissed....but i just couldn't be angry around abby(she has that effect)............later that night she was commenting to another girl about how....she thinks this boy is nice....but all boys SEEM nice at first....

so i was hoping that this kid...only seemed nice....but the next day...she was talking about him before i got there....how excited she was cause she had another date....and how they stayed up all night talking....even tho she worked at 8 in the morning....

All i could think is....how could i be so wrong??? i really thought she liked me...maybe that's just her personality???....but that wouldn't explain the extended flirting...and the "physical contact" lol........ and tho the last thing i want to do is settle for "just a friend" it looks like that's all there is for me.....

-END- (man i wrote alot )

girls need attention when they break up with another guy. sounds like you were the attention giver.

Evad's right. And furthermore - in my experience at least - the guy that stands by a girl to comfort her after a breakup rarely turns out to be her next romantic interest. But he usually will be the first to hear about the next guy she dates.

Though you may have seen the whole her-head-on-your-shoulder and arm-around-her as an intimate sort of "more than friend" thing, it doesn't sound like she did. Rather (in her mind), you were just comforting her during her time of hardship.

bahhh that sucks...lol...

i hate it when people are sooooo right......and you are sooooo right.....see i thought of those possibilities for a while...and...then stopped thinking about them lol....but ya

-i r r r t3h yar fo shar...

"Women... you can scarcely ever fathom their depths -- they haven't any."
-- Freidrich Nietzsche

"No men who really think deeply about women retain a high opinion of them; men either despise women or they have never thought seriously about them."
-- Otto Weininger

- "How do you write women so well?"
- "I think of a man and I take away reason and accountability."
-- As Good As It Gets

Sounds like someone else needs my plasma gun instructions!

Well, in my romantic opinion, I say you go tio her and tell her how yah feel. I mean tell ehr everything, like how you like her and you thought that she liked you and you were broken hearted when they day you went to ask her out she talked about this new guy. Of course this could far from work it depends on her personality, if she REALLY cares maybe she'll listen....But anyways good luck to yah dude.

Hobo.. Giving romantic advice... *'splodes*

Plus, getting involved with someone you work with so closely isn't always a great idea either.

Katt wins.

This has happend to me before... he speaks the truth... trust me on that.

-Yeah I thought you where a girl... hell your named after a female character in Star Fox-

You mean "he."

eh, it's not the first time someone has thought that I'm a girl :p

I made the same mistake you did. My situation was worse, because the guy was one of my best friends, and the girl was a friend to. It resulted in me being led on for about a year or so with no result, I was pretty dumb then. :/

Anyways, rule one: never get involved with a coworker.
rule two: never ever expect to get with a girl that you comfort after she breaks up with a guy. it happens once in a while, but don't count on it.
rule three: if you continue to use that many ellipsis, you will fail miserably at every relationship, especially those of an online nature.

rofl...that's just how i write online...i don't bother to...ya know...form proper sentence structure etc...i find that overall it's a lot easier to do so...and besides..........it looks cool

but as for this girl...i have decided to take one last whack at it...and if that fails then i will gladly bow out...

i have narrowed down to two possible courses of action, both which are pretty much the same expect one is of a more complex one...they both let her know that i like her...and that i don't like the fact that all that crap happened.....but one is more...hmm
romancy while the other is more blunt and sorta mean

so she's almost gaurenteeeeeeeeed to talk about this kid she's dating next time i see her......and my idea was that i just sorta start telling her to shutup about it...say he's stupid etc. etc. lol...this will undoubtedly trigger a reaction from her...possibly even a "what are you jealous?" then i can cue her in to the fact that yes...i am jealous....the idea of me liking her should come as a TOTAL surprise and she'll obviously start asking questions...and for every question i will refer to the initial post of this thread....until all has been said....from there i don't know...but yar

the other more romancy and a bit more clever idea...also btw going to be very hard to pull off....is pretty much a trick....Abby is a nice girl and if anyone looks unhappy she tries to cheer them up....sooooooo .....i don't know how well i can act but i'll try to look sad...maybe have a big frowny face ....but she will ask "what's wrong, Sam?" i'll reply.....lol "girl troubles"....then i will procede in saying something to the effect of "well about a month ago i met this girl...she's a good lookin girl...really nice too... .... .... .... we'd talk alot...she'd tell me all about her self... ... we'd try and hang out just the two of us...and something would always come up at the last minute...... etc etc etc etc"

now the real challenge of that one is...of course making it vague enough so she doesn't immediately realize it's about her...and yet "enthralling" enough to keep her attention so she picks up all of it........she's not stupid so she SHOULD get that it's about her....lol i hope so....but in the event she doesn't...she'll then probably give her spin on it and maybe give some cliche advice...like..."Just tell her how you feeeel maybe she feeeeeels the same" at which point i do tell her...and then it hits her the whole thing was about her and we live happily ever after....*har* *har*

tho i'm sure this may seem like a pointless effort....i don't wanna just give up stating...well...she's got someone else...might as well accept it........and as for which scenario i'm planning on...i'm leaning towards the first...because it's far less "comforting" and that way i can get away from the role as "comforter"

btw.... 60 elipsi

Girls... again. Banish them I say!

CAUTION: Contains high levels of cheese.

no regrets, just broken hearts.

i admire your courage sir.

nice guys finish last... its an article i think on college humor and it explains how girls dont want nice guys they want cocky *******s for bfs..

it's actually true to some extent.

However, once women are no longer in their teens and 20's, they shift toward wanting a "Mr. Nice Guy". Coincidentially, most men by this age have changed to adapt to the females who want "cocky *******s for bfs", and as a result, you have a large portion of the population (of both genders) that remains single for a long, long time.

And you might just push her away from you, too. It would seem so for many women. My solution is to not get interested in the ones that go for that sort of thing.
Nottheking hit the nail on the head.

True I found I had very few girlfriends when I was younger because I was so nice. But as the girls matured into women they tend to now like me around because I won't put them down and I treat them with respect. I even got a girlfriend out of the situation. So I suppose the moral of the story is people grow up and their tastes mature in time... well some peoples do.

^ What state & city do you live in, if you don't mind my asking. You sound like someone I sorta know.

women settle down with a nice guy b/c he gives her financial stability, but she ends up having an affair with an exciting guy. Nice guys are stable, and with stability comes boredom.
that's why they lose.

That's not always the case. That just means the girl hasn't settled down yet if she's still doing that. The "nice guy" will do fine with women. It's just a matter of being assertive and confident. It's possible to do so without being a jack***

That was the stupidest thing I've ever heard.
Nice guys get cheated on?

WTF? Where do you come up with crap like that?

Actually, I agree with Page, I've read about that happening.

I too have read about that happening. But I have also heard of nice guys getting nice girls and living very happy long lives together. I guess it really comes down to the people who are involved in the relationship.

I forget who asked above but I don't think I'm the person you know. We don't live in the same country I don't think, I'm from Canada.

Hey cool, what province are you in?

Im at school
Girls thread suck

Of course it happens. But just because a guy is nice? That by itself? I think not.

though I do feel bad for you, my advice is to become a loner. I was once with the "in" crowd, then I saw them for what they really were. Become a Loner, join the club

well, I used to be a nice guy, for one. Then I turned and became what I am now.

I know it from experience, b/c it used to happen to me. I've lived both sides.

"it looks cool" and "it looks like a 2nd grader typed this" are not the same thing.

Anyway, these are the mistakes you made:
A) You let her take advantage of you(I use the term loosely). Would you let some person you weren't interested in rest their head on your shoulder or would you be their shrink at work even though you barelt knew them? You were hypnotized by her boobs.
B) You waited too long to act(had she been interested in you in the beginning).
C) You misread her body language. Just because a woman hugs you or leans her head on your shoulder doesn't mean she is interested in you beyond a friendship. Women are just touchy feely.
D) As people said before, you tried to date a co-worker. There are two reasons dating a co-worker doesn't work out. It gives two people a lot more time together. When you are just getting to know a woman, this is the last thing you want. You want to give her more time to stew and think about you and try to figure you out. "Give her the gift of missing you". The second reason is if **** hits the fan between you two, work would be a very uncomfortable place to be and drama will run amok in the workplace.

Um....what? Later in life an average woman will look for a more stable guy to settle down with. They've had their fun with bad boys, now they want to find a nice predictable man to get married to.

Both are German, k Austrian, but that's German ;)... what a coincidence

But I like it! Like it pretty much... did I mention I am German?

But perhaps they are even right. At least sometimes I think the same way.

By "nice guy" I mean a guy that fits into the "subservient doormat" stereotype. This guy has no backbone, no ambitions, lets people around him control him in every way possible, is scared s***less of talking to women, etc.

Really? You've been married? You settled down with a woman when you were a nice guy?

A relationship isn't going to get to a point you described because the woman who wants a bad boy will take him over all the financial security she could want. In a battle between the heart and logic, the heart rarely loses.

Exactly.

I haven't been maried, I've had chicks cheat on me in past relationships b/c I fit the damn nice guy stereotype back in HS and couldn't see it coming. I know chicks act like that in Marriage b/c it happened to my cousin, who is a little bit older than I am. He treated her well, but his chick divorced him and ended up with some skater-dude prick.

thankfully, the nice guy habits in my life died a long time ago, so that will never happen to me.