Lee's Styles of Loving:

• Romantic (eros) people tend to place their empahsis on physical beauty as they search for ideal mates. Romantic, erotic lovers delight in the visual beauty and tactile and sensual pleasures provided by their lovers' bodies, and they tend to be very affectionate and openly communicative with their partners.
• Game-playing (ludus) people like to play the field and acquire many sexual "conquests" with little or no commitment. Love is for fun, the act of sdeuction is to be enjoyed, and relationships are to remain casual and transitory.
• Possessive (mania) people are inclined to seek obsessive love relationships that are often characterized by turmoil and jealousy. These people live a rollercoaster style of love in which each display of affection from the lover brings ecstasy and the mildest slight produces painful agitation.
• Companionate (storge) people are slow to develop affection and commitment but tend to experience relationships that endure. This style is love without fever or turmoil, a peaceful and quiet kind of relatin that usually begins as friendship and develops over time into affection and love.
• Altruisitc (agape) people are characterized by selflessness and a caring, compassionate desire to give to another without expectation of reciprocity. Such love is patient and never demanding or jealous.
• Pragmatic (pragma) people are inclined to select lovers based on rational, practical criteria (such as shared interests) that are likely to lead to mutual satisfaction. These individuals approach love in a businesslike fashion, trying to get the best "romantic ideal" by seeking partners with social, educational, religious, and interest patterns that are compatible with their own.

Myself, I think I'm a Possessive.

I'm rather possessive.

Hell if I know. Don't really fit into any of 'em.

Altruisitc.

Basically, if my woman is happy, that's enough to satisfy me. I will sacrifice whatever I can to ensure her happiness. I don't care what pain I must go through to ensure her happiness. I respect her deeply, and the ideals she holds. Her happiness is simply more important than my own (relates to first sentence above).

dunno, but I'm just f***ed up in the head when it comes to women,...

/me picks up Katana sword

if(getThingFlags(source) & 0x8){
  do her}
elseif(getThingFlags(source) & 0x4){
  do other babe}
else{
  do a dude}

Companionate

my best realtionships come out of "friends first" type deals. it avoides the "well we broke up and can never talk to each other again, even though i said we could be firends" senarios. come to think of it, i'm kina Possessive too. oh well, i guess a mix of them then.

really, why do people expect to be firends with people after thay have broken up with someone unless thay had a sort of 'friend' relatioship before thay dated? it doesent make sence.

It can happen. Worked for me.

Eventually.

The first or the second one, depending.

I can go between Game-playing and Companionate.

Right now though, I'm Game-playing.

Definitely companionate.

Missionary style?

Pragmatic. And I think we all already kno what Pagewizard is. The definition was made for Pagewizard.

I would say I'm compassionate.

Romantic.

Why hasn't Pagewizard replied to this thread yet?

He's obviously a "Game-playing."

Because it's about love, not sex. :p

Also, I voted wrong.

...hey, the poll was confusing.

Mix of companionate and altruistic

My thoughts exactly.

Pragmatic. Id be more companionate if the market around here wernt so thin...

Pragmatic

altruisitc & romantic

I am a hybrid of game-playing (b/c i follow a definite strategy instead of shooting blind. I don't consider it to be playing games, its simply a matter of being successful or not) and eros, (b/c I like to go after the BEST women available in terms of looks. )

Hmmm...I would have thought there would be more 'possessive' people here. I guess I'm not as normal as I would have thought...:o

Mostly Companionate..kinda a mix of the last 3, I guess.

Mostly Companionate, with some Altruistic thrown in.

We have a word for that: Shallow.

:p

I'm very slow to develope love but in time I can become very compasionate.

BTW, serious empathy can really suck sometimes.

I have another word for it: effective.

"If you fail to plan then you plan to fail." - Henry Ford

Actually, Pagewizard, that is not the case. Nowhere in any of the descriptions is effectiveness discussed. If anything, I would assume that the pragmatic love is the most "effective". Game-playing isn't effective, it's shallow. By definition. Sexual conquests. No commitment. Shallow.

Committment is not something that you jump into right away.

I agree. Therefore, it makes sense to slowly build a foundation of trust with one partner until you're willing to make a commitment to them. If you're not willing to make a commitment, it's not nice to use them.

I have found that you have to plan everything at the beginning, b/c w/o it, the situations that you run into will kick your a** every time.

The tactics i use are a sort of filtration system to weed out the flaky/untrustworthy chicks and determine the good ones from the bad. What I do is a precursor to a long term relationship. its like cutting the grass.

Okay, I won't even try to understand what you just said.

wow.

Tactics???

How in the name of all that is good in this world do you cut your grass?

Do you go through with scissors, and cut only the blades of grass that are too long for you, and leave the still-short blades until they become too long for you, in which case you cut them too? Because everyone I know uses a lawn mower and pushes it across the lawn until it's nice and even...

I fail to see how that is ANYTHING like what you said...


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I must say, I do see a certain logic in what you've said, but that's also not to say I necessarily agree with all of it, but it does make sense.

But I do think that your style is shallow... I mean going for the best looking girl(s) is practically the definition of shallow... it shouldn't be about looks, I mean sure you do have to be attracted to your other person in terms of their physical appearance, but by no means should they be the "best looking girl"

I'm sure there's more I could say, but I'm far too tired to continue right now.

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And to keep this post legit...

I'm a bit of a mix of them all except for game playing and, for the most part, possessive, but I can't say I'm completly 'exempt' from the possessive category either.

Companionate, I couldn't be with someone, live with someone for the rest of my life unless they were a good friend.

Me too. Probably should've read descriptions before voting. I'm some combo of the last three. Usually try to start off as just being friends first and see how much we have in common. Probably Altruistic the most.
And for the females that read this thread, please dont hold PageWizard's "tactics" and "system" against all of mankind. We arent all like him.