I'm a mixture. I have to be friends with a person before I decide I want to date them. I could have the initial attraction but not until we are friends will I decide if I want to take it further. that could take anywhere between a couple of weeks to a couple of months. Of course I like physical looks, who doesnt, and of course I have my preferences I prefer brunettes, but I think personality also holds a lot of weight in the final decision. I try to look for people who have common interests as my own, or someone who will teach me new experiances. I like someone who keeps me on my toes and yet I dont like games. Do I get jealous? Sometimes, then again I think i'm just a protective person.
I've done it when I think someone is flirting with my sisters fiance, I'll glare at the girl like "bring it, that's my sisters man" then again when i've gone with my parents to my fathers business parties, I've glared at women I meet who seem flirtatious with my father and I'll be very snappy with them to let them know he's got a woman in his life (my mother) and I got no prob regulating if sed female thinks of trying something. And again I can remember being as young as 5 and going to the store with my mother and seeing men smile at her, and I'd glare at them.
Then again once the person lets their intentions be known and I feel they are trustworthy, only then will I back off. When I care for someone and/or love them I tend to be protective around shady people. Does that mean i'll be possessive and tell them not to go around those people? No way, it's their life and their friends. I respect anyones decisions and if I dont like it, it's my prob. and I'll deal, i'd never tell someone they cant hang around with someone else. I'll state that I dont like the person, but the final decision would be left up to that person.
Anywho it's something I work on, but i'm very much about vibes I get off of someone else and whether or not I feel they are good people or if they are sneaky and just smiling in your face to throw u off. Meh anywho i'm a combo of it all. I'm just complex with those kinda things, hence why i've dated so little, a guy could ask me out and i'd prob. say no, unless I feel they are cute, funny, considerate, and an indiviual and have common interests like myself. I like people who are smart, but not cocky, confident, but not egotistical, who can have a fun time while drinking, but who dont do drugs. Meh I dunno, I guess I'm just picky that way. Do I flirt a lot, yes. Does that mean I want to date every guy I flirt with...hell no. I'll flirt cuz i have some sort of attraction to the guy, but that doesnt mean i want a relationship with them. Just being honest, i'm complex like that [/end rant]
Laura
