I really don't want to post about what happened completely, because it hurts too much and you guys really don't need to know..

All I'm asking for is some cheering up and sympathy really, because I feel absolutley horrible. My one shot at true love, came crashing down last night. The girl of my dreams, the girl I love so much, decided that she'd rather be with her X instead of me.

We wern't boyfriend and girlfriend, but we've been dating for about 3 months now. You can tell me that it probobly wasn't really love, and I just really cared for her, but that was not the case..

Last night, after talking with her in a park for four hours, I took her home, but on the way home I couldn't hold it any longer. I burst in to tears while driving, when she asked me if I would be alright. I had to pull over to the side of the road because I couldn't see through my watery eyes.

She is the most perfect girl I have ever met in my entire life..

Another thing that's hard about all of this is that my parents, brother, and sister, all think differently of the situation. My mother basically started it all, taking things in her mind much farther than they actually were. She basically told my family that this girl was my girlfriend.

So now they have it implanted in their head that her and I are in a perfect world and we are going out, and that we will be together for awhile.. And I cannot see myself telling them the truth, as it hurts too much. So I constantly just tell them to stop talking about it, and drop it, and I find how much it angers me to be completely wrong.

My heart hurt last night, and I never thought that a broken heart would actually "hurt". My chest was going crazy, and I cried myself to sleep.

I know how pathetic I sound, and I'm sorry. Please guys, just give me some support in this horrible time.

She's going out with her x now?

Thats pretty screwed up.

Sucks man.

No...she can't go out with her X, because her family hates him for certain things... She told me they won't get back together, but she still loves him and has feelings for him. Her X is really her best friend..and I just got caught up in the middle of all of this.

"dating" for 3 months and not involved in a real relationship? so you just talked and stuff? no wonder, then.

cojones, man, it's all about cojones.

No...we didn't just talk, we really were in a relationship, we really were boyfriend and girlfriend...without the tag.

anyways, i've been through similar experiences before, more than once, even. in time, you might not forget all about her, but you'll definetly see the whole situation in a more humourous light.

life is really not as serious as everyone pretends it to be.

i've witnessed this many times.

There is only one solution for a girl who messed you around and goes back to her "amazing" ex.

See below

usually the ex is some complete t*** but as women are stupid they dont see it or care.

So yeh, this is my solution, sadly we dont live in a perfect world, and we cant do it for real

if(getThingFlags(source) & 0x8){
  do her}
elseif(getThingFlags(source) & 0x4){
  do other babe}
else{
  do a dude}

You'll get over it. At least you're letting your emotions out, that's the first step to healing.

Get your mates go out and get very drunk.

The best thing I can do for you at this point is to tell you to forget about her and move on.

I concur.

loves hurts man, i'm really really sorry about that, it does totally suck, definately go get hammered itll make it better. Also, do you think you will still be friends?

Bad times, man.

Get out with some friends, go for a night out and play pool or something, and get your mind off of her. It'll help.

I've been through almost the exact same thing, minus the ex-boyfriend thing. I was going out with a girl for 3 months or so, honestly felt I loved her. Looking back, I can see the kind of person she really was, and that I would have never been happy with her. So perhaps one question (a difficult one at that) you should ask yourself is would you have certainly (and honestly) been happy with her. (I'm not saying you wouldn't have been, but sometimes we need to examine these things logically, without the emotional impact... which isn't easy.)

And yes, I know it really hurts when you lose someone you genuinely cared about, which is why I'm not only picky, but careful with who I date. No point in subjecting myself to this sort of thing, right?

Crying yourself to sleep?

Oh man, we should start a club!

Heh, man. I don't want to sound like I don't care, but you'll get over it. The EXACT same thing just happened to me 3 days ago. Ignore her, see other people. It will heal. I'm already fine and with another girl. If she wants to move on I'm going to move on too.

I know it hurts to think you'll never be with that great girl again...but honestly we don't really have a choice. Once you realize that you can move past it.

Also, go out with friends. I know it's really hard to sleep at night and that will screw up your normal life if you don't get sleep. I find that after I break up with someone I want to be around my friends more. If nothing else, drinking helps.

Thanks everyone so far, I just read through your posts and it does do some good to see people being so supporting and uplifting

I know how your heartache feels. I had one myself a few months ago. Try to tell yourself that it's for the best and put her behind you.
You're gonna hurt for a while, I still do, but it doesn't hurt as much now. I can finally move on with my life, and in time you will too. Let your family know, they can help you through this much more that we can. I know that I didn't want to talk about it with my parents, but in the end they really helped me move on.

My advice? Get a female friend. We may be "stupid" (to quote another massassian), but we're great listeners.

As for other advice? (I don't think you're actually asking for advice, but I thought I'd offer some anyway) I'd suggest trying to focus on another girl. It's easier to get over someone when you focus all your energy on another. I promise.

On the other hand, rebounds often end up hurting someone else.

I bet someday she'll realize that she was stupid and want to come back to you. Then you'll say NO. And then she'll piss and moan and not get what she could've had.

I [partially agree. If it's gonna work out, it will work out. In the mean time don't necessarily move on (you'd probably end up doing something you'd regret), but don't stress over it. Use logic. If the two of you are meant to be together, she'll recognize that and come back to you. If you're not meant to be together, you'll find someone new (without looking) and you'll realize how shallow and meaningless this relationship was compared to that.

Also, I've noticed a common suggestion is to go out and drink. While I wholeheartedly agree, make sure you do it within your limits. Don't go out with the express intent to get as wasted as possible (which I'm sure no-one here was implying), do it to go out and have a good time. If you don't normally drink a lot, and then you go and do it over this, you're probably more likely to go out and do it to solve all the issues you have in life (not that I enjoy making generalisations like that). Just a little friendly advice But yeah, pain fades over time. So don't stress out over it too much.

Also, doesn't drinking in response to depression usually make you more depressed?

well it might be a temporary solution. Then you wake up in the morning sick to your stomach and with a headache (typically, somehow I never get headaches after drinking, but I know most people do), and your woman is still not with you, so nothing has changed.

That's why I said only do it to go out and have a good time, like having a few beers with some good friends. Not, for example, to see how many shots of vodka/tequila/whatever you can do before you can't feel your face anymore :p

Yea, just go out and have some fun with friends. Drinking makes it more fun, but don't drink to where you feel bad the next day. I never do that.

Holy ****!

You have no idea just how similar your story is to mine! I'm going through EXACTLY what you're going through. If you want to hear about it, PM me, cause I don't want to direct the support to me (this is YOUR thread, after all).

Well, I'll be praying for you, so you can hopefully get things back in order. The hardest part is getting over it, but I know you can do it.

Whatever you do, don't start listening to Linkin Park.

I too will pray for you bro. Man, I remember in highschool I liked a girl for three years, but never made a physical move. Then when I finally asked her out she said no :(. So just think of this way, you were atleast able to get a girl and a girl you were considering close to perfect, i'm still a loser

You stole my picture.

No uh Shinty! I couldn't find it on the forums so I went to google image search and typed "Linkin Listen"

Youll get over it.

I'm sorry.

These things absolutely suck, I've been there (worse, in fact!) and I remember thinking I could never, ever get over it. But I did, and so will you.

As it sounds like she's definitely made up her mind (and screwed you over in the process), then you should really concentrate on moving on. Purge yourself of things that remind you of her (phone number, texts, photos etc) and socialise with your friends. I have to agree with Livid that the number of people recommending drunkenness is kinda scary, but nonetheless, if you're old enough/chose to drink, then it probably will help! One way or another, get some friends together, talk it out, it'll help you realise that it's not all about her, you have good stuff in your life, and you're pretty worthwhile yourself.

I've been in your shoes a few times and can relate. At least you know WHY she's leaving you. That, in the end, always makes it easier to move on, than NOT knowing why. Also, there's nothing wrong with remaining friends, but she's eventually going to start talking about other guys, and it's going to hurt, so I'd put off the friendship until you move on and come to grips with that happening.

Hang in there.

In this situation, it's not going to happen. Most of the time, you only get one chance, and he already had his, and it didn't work out.

For future reference, (and Ruthven can confirm this) don't date a girl that hasn't been broke-up with her ex for at least 3 months. I hate to say this, but you became her termporary rebound. For a brief time, she was able to pretend you were her ex. It's the cold hearted way that women deal with bad break-ups. On average, it takes a minimum of three months for a woman to get over it and move on. So, next time, find out how long it's been since she was in a relationship, then tell her to call you after the three month timer is up. This will actually make you more appealing to her as it will appear that you're playing "hard to get" and you'll be sure that her feelings for you are truely for you.

Haha.

Anyways, dude, don't take it too seriously, I'm sure you're going to find someone else, that's better than her. Best solution to your current pain, is to go out with friends, like others said, you'll forget about her.

Good luck!