It's true, he shouldn't be having sex at 16. My reasoning? I wasn't getting any at that age, why should he?

Yeah, that was partly behind my reasoning too. :p

16 year olds are, in general, not nearly responsible or mature enough to handle that sort of situation.

i think many are

I think I am actually. But I'm still going to wait.

Mmm...I'm Mr. Fat_CoW here. There are those who are mature enough but I'd say the bulk majority is not.

I would agree. I'm sure, however, we'd all like to think we were in that minority... I mean, I'm pretty sure I was... :/ Y'know?

Besides the fact that life-spans were shorter, one of the reasons the Puritans married people so early is because they knew people started doing it around the age of 16 and wanted to avoid the sin of pre-marital sex. But it's more widely accepted now (by the youth at least) and as long as you're smart about it, there's no reason to not start having sex at 16. For the ones who aren't mature enough, it's not like there's much we can do to stop it, besides educating people about sex.

With that said, it's your decision. Holding off is cool until you're ready. 7 months sounds like it's a good relationship, and you don't have to rush things.

There is a major difference between being mature and responsible enough to have sex, and just wanting to have sex and being ignorant of your own maturity or responsibility. All but a handful of the adolescents that I know (and a good portion of the adults, even), are ignorant of their responsibilities and the consequences of their actions, and simply do what "feels good" wether it's actually good for them or not.

Pardon my idealism for a moment, but think; if every human being on the face of the planet waited to have sex until after marriage, it would severely cut down on the spread of STD's, and abortions and unwanted pregnancies would be amazingly low.

Now, of course, that will never happen, because the average person just wants to do what feels good, and pretend that nothing bad could happen. And then when something bad does happen, they blame it on something else, and/or try to find the "easy" way out. A frighteningly small portion of humanity actually takes responsibility for their actions anymore.

I've spoken to a lot of adults on the subject (I'm 17, for the record), and I'm talking the mature, responsible, and succesful type of adult, and most of them regret having sex at such an early age. I'm more inclined to trust that they know what they're talking about, and follow their judgement, then to listen to a bunch of short-sighted, ignorant teenagers and young adults who can't even begin to know what's best for themselves, let alone tell other people what's best for them.

But if people were educated about all the stuff you said, like forms of broth control and STDs, all the bad stuff would decrease but people could still have sex.

Your opinion is WRONG.

Glad to hear you managed to talk it out properly. From your first post, you're both about the ages I would expect for this situation, and handling it very maturely. But even though you've both decided you're not quite ready yet, the subject will come up again, and probably quite soon, so don't stop talking just because you've made a decision for now. You're obviously both in a very similar place in terms of what you are and aren't ready for, so take advantage of that and move forward together, at a pace that you're both comfortable with.

Taking responsibility at such a 'young' age is actually possible for every damn one of us, you just need to think with your brains and not your wang. Sure, we all know sex is an act of both love and lust, but that doesn't mean you don't have to use your brains. Condoms, the pill, STD-tests, they should be regular terms for an adolescent that does have sex.

Because, as you said, with sex comes responsibility. Responsibility isn't the same as holding your girlfriend's hand when she's getting an abortion, obviously. However, if you've listened during bioligy class, and both your girlfriend and yourself use protection, there seems to not be much wrong with sex, in all honesty.

For the record: I'm 16, my girlfriend's on the pill, I always have a condom with me, and we both have taken an STD test that turned out negative. I'd say that's responsible enough, is it not?

Said the mother to the daughter: "And remember not to do, you know what, with your future husband, before you are married."
Daughter: "Why of all of them not with him?"

But those ones who are aren't the ones who really, really want to, or can. :p

yecti, i partially agree with you, i thought that, but that completely went after the first time i had sex, its just something now. nothing life changing or emotionally deep, its just a shag.

[QUOTE=Mr. Stafford]yecti, i partially agree with you, i thought that, but that completely went after the first time i had sex, its just something now. nothing life changing or emotionally deep, its just a shag.[/QUOTE]
agreed

it's not a "life changing mistical experence" yes it can have a lot of emotions tied to it, but it doeset have to.

well ok, me and my boyfriend dont even agree on what people need emotionally to fool around, (there are other thing) but mostly i just need a deep trust in the other person, but he needs much more than that (trust, love, respect, and many other things). it's just different, neither view is rong. the person just has to know how he/she feels abotu it, and make informed decisions accordingly.

That post is useless without the pic.

But no one does, and that's my point. The vast majority do it anyway, and pretend that nothing bad could ever happen, and when it does, they shirk off responsibility, claiming things like it wasn't their fault, or they didn't know, or what have you, and always looking for the easy way out without ever taking responsibility for their own actions. Yes, it is "actually possible for every damn one of us" to act responsibly, but we don't, because being responsible isn't as fun.

There's a pic?

Yeah, you should wait... you won't regret doing that = ]

You've never seen the "your opinion is wrong" pic?

The DJ yoshi one is quite cool.

Check your state laws before you get thrown in jail. Surprised no one said that yet.

infact, teen pregnancies are going down, statistically speaking. and i dont think that's because less people are having sex in that age group.

Yecti's advice is sage indeed.