I second the need for a "laugh at him for being a dumbass." If my friends didn't see why we broke up, then they obviously need to learn the same way I did.

she's your ex. that means she's not your girl friend. that means she's available for consentual sex with anyone. including your friends.

i don't, and probably never will, understand this so called code.
out of respect for my friends who believe in this code, i wouldn't sleep with any of their ex girlfriends.
on the other hand i have set up friends with my ex girlfriends.

I'd just laugh at my friend. Here's why.

1. If the girl broke up with me in a very bad way, I'd just be pissed at her anyway.
2. If I broke up with the girl, I'd probably have a good reason for it. I'd start a pool on how many hours it takes for my friend to come to the same conclusion, and break up with her.

Hah!

I haven't read most of this, but I don't really see it as that big a deal.

There was this girl that I was interested in for a while. We never dated, but we got pretty close. Then we met this guy, who ended up being my best friend (still is). He was kind of interested in her, and she was kind of interested in him, but he knew we kind of had a history, so he asked me if it'd be ok for him to pursue his interest in her. I didn't have any problems with it. Anyway, he never ended up dating her either, cause he got to know her a bit better and decided he didn't really like her, but the point is, I wouldn't have cared if he had dated her.

The only time I could see this as being a problem is if the girl breaks up with you and you still have feelings for her, then your best friend starts dating her without talking to you about it first. If he really is a good friend, he'll ask you what you think and take your feelings into consideration.

Well, in the past. I dated a chick for a few weeks but we just decided to be friends afterwords.. and we were, we're still friends 5 years later. I hooked her up with my of my friends no problem, I just never had that special feeling towards her.. Never botherd me.. they didnt last anyway.

The latest situation, I broke up with her but I still had feelings for her.. her and I would even still hook up once a month or so to hang out whatever.. during those times she was dating people but it never bothered me... but I know if I dated one of her friends she would be pissed. It was just a week or so ago she was almost 'rubbing it in' that she was talking to him on myspace.. I just ignored it and haven't said anything else, and I wont say anything and I'll try and stay away from them both..