I posted a thread a while back about lying.. well. I guess I should have seen it coming.

My Fiancee is back at Camp Taji, and I'm out in sector. The first month I came out here I had no contact with her which scared me. I got this weird feeling one day that something had happened, but I blew it off as being paranoid. My Battalion left Camp Taji on Valentine's day and I didn't get to see her for roughly a month. After I started going back to Taji I thought everything was cool because we were able to talk again and all.

She was on this detail back at Taji putting up barriers and she met this guy from 1st Cav and started hanging out with him. I had no idea this was going on.

Well, I caught my fiancee lying to me about "Hanging out" with this guy from 1st Cavalry Division. She was going to his room (A sleep trailer) and supposedly watching movies.
She hadn't talked to him for a while and just recently sent an email asking if he wanted to hang out and "Accidentally" sent the email to me.
When I confronted her she lied about it at first, then told me she was sending it to one of her friends and then finally told me about the guy.

I thought that was the end of it.

Then I found some emails they had sent back and forth where she was telling him she missed him and couldn't wait until he got back off of leave.
I asked her about it and she said "I was just playing with him"
I asked her last night if she'd had sex with him and she denied it completely.

Then today she texted me on my haji tracfone and said "I need to talk to you, I want to tell you about me and Summerlin, I'll understand if you never want to talk to me again"

I kinda knew what was up, but I still held hope that maybe she had just kissed him or something. So I stepped outside and gave her a call.
I said "Hey, Sweetheart, so what do you want to tell me?"
She said "I had sex with Summerlin." and then proceeded to tell me she had gone to his CHU and it had just happened. That she was lonely and because she didn't have any contact with me and just wanted someone to hang out with, but then it just happened one night.


I'm just at a loss here. I mean.. I'm trying to figure out what I did wrong.
I love her to death, but I don't know what to do.

She cheated on you and you think you did something wrong?

Unfortunately you have a lot of emotion invested into the relationship, or at least I would hope so since you two are engaged and all. You can either forgive her and realize it'll probably happen again since you still won't have contact with her for awhile, or, you can dump her *** in the sandbox, change any banking accounts that she has access to so you don't get back stateside broke, and try to keep your head in the battle. As cold as this will sound, you being distracted about this will put the yours, and the lives of the men around you in danger.

damn...:( that sucks. i'm sorry.

if your going to end your relationship cut it off quickly. its extremely hard to do, but i've been dragged through a few that just would not end (she wanted me back then she didn't then she did... bla bla bla...) and it is even worse than just ending it. if your going to try and fix things then you need to realize shes done it once, it probably WILL happen again.



this statement (or question?) is one of the most important things your going to have to realize. YOU probably didn't do anything wrong, except maybe be a little too naive

I was being naive about it.

But I mean.. God damn, A ****ing Cav guy, of all people.


I know it sounds ridiculous to you non-military people, but it's seriously insulting. He's not even Airborne.

I'd tell you what they say about army chicks but then I'd get banned.

That's worse than dating a stripper tbqh

Yeah women are whores find a better one oops another whore

Well, ain't that a pickle.

Let's skip the typical military jokes about Cav and the size of their guns. The thing that mattered to her was his *** was around, and you were out with the crunchies, not around her. Just keep in mind she was perfectly happy lying to you until she ****ed up and let you in on her little secret.

roach can I say what they say about army chicks?

She lied...

I can't promise I won't have to trim it down to make it less graphic, but yes, yes you can.

I HAVE BEEN ABSOLVED OF RESPONSIBILITY

army chicks get more inches of **** in a week than you are tall

Ah, since they updated the content filter, I don't have to edit that.

(What do they get? Do they get more inches of rain? We'll never know!)

they never updated the filter I filtered it manually so as to not offend the delicate sensibilities of massassi's gentlemen

thank you, kind sirs

I think you ought to take some of your own medicine there, Fister. If I remember correctly, you are the one who went into Anthony's thread flinging about how easy it is to find someone new and that there are plenty of them out there.

Do that, since its so easy.





As for this, if you REALLY think that has anything to do with it, you sir, are a lost cause. And you are very ****ing right. It sounds ridiculous and pathetic to even think something like that.

Yeah, I guess you're right, jep.

It just kills me. I thought what I had was better than every other relationship story I heard, I guess there really aren't any decent women left.

sure there are, quit dating army chicks

Sure there are. Maevie and Sugarless come to mind! They are testament enough of kick *** women.

QFBTWIWGTS

Perhaps, but Maevie is in England and Sugarless doesn't like me

I'm pretty sure Maevie wont like you either, considering you claim British people are ugly. And I wasn't suggesting them necessarily. I'm just saying they are proof of awesome.

I'd recommend changing your sig, it may sting next time you're on.

Who's sig.

Good call, dave man. Thanks.

Move on.

Damn, I am sorry... that sucks. I would dump her. I have no respect for unfaithful people in committed relationships.

"Time to meet my... BOOT!"

I have nothing to add.

I'm going to give the same advice everyone gave me on my (now functioning to perfection) relationship.

Boo. ****ing. Hoo. Get over it. Life sucks. Don't speak to her anymore. Find a new one.

Not so nice when it's you asking for advice, now is it?

This makes me want to watch Jarhead.

You trusted a liar. Face it, she will never have a good relationship with anyone, even the other guy. That's just who she is.

You're right.

I play hardass all the time, but I now understand how it feels to have your heart crushed.

I've already decided what I'm going to do, though.

I'm sorry for what I said to you before.

Life happens. All you have to do now is decide how you're going to move past it. That's all it is. Decide how you're going to move foreward. You know, as strange as it may sound, there are thousands of people who have been cheated on and then spend the rest of their lives with that very person who wronged them.

It's not unusual. And it's not impossible.

dude, suicide.

I've been thinking and praying about it all day.

I realized there is more to this than just us being together by chance and her cheating on me being the end of it.

God always forgives me when I mess up, Who am I to not forgive someone when they mess up?

It hurts, but She has genuinely changed recently, and I believe what she's telling me is the truth.

I'm sorry, did you just compare yourself to God?

God is the wrong direction to look in this situation. Religion teaches people that it's ok to be satisfied with not understanding life. Figure it out. And like I said, not matter what, figure out how to move forward and improve your life.

Personally, I'd leave her. I can't stand cheaters...probably because I've been cheated on so much.

A few years back, my boyfriend got deployed and at that time he was engaged to his girlfriend of 5 some years. Not even a few months after he'd been gone she had slept with two different guys (one of them was her step brother) and tried to use the defense that he probably was sleeping around on her. Anyways, they obviously broke up yadda yadda yadda..but he was telling one of his Marine friends about it. He said that you can't hold your wife responsible for anything she does while you are on leave. That always annoyed me but apparently my boyfriend really does believe that statement.

Meh...either way, you should look deep down inside and see if you really think it's going to be worth working through everything to stay with her. You should probably also ask her if she wants to stay with you. Communication is always good, even if the topic isn't.

This is always a scary statement. It's like the calm before the storm...at least from what I've seen.

Double-you. Tee. Eff.

I don't understand people.