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Relationships suck.
2007-10-22, 11:00 PM #1
I have now experienced the OTHER side of breaking up. I started going out with a girl about 2 weeks ago. I've known her since like 6th grade, but not that well. Gotten to know her better in the past year or so. Anyway, we started going out, and got very close physically.. way to fast. I ended up realizing I only wanted her as a friend, and that I needed to end things now to avoid further pain. Anyway, this sucks, because I feel like a total ******* now. Why does the nice thing to do have to feel so lame? >__<

So um, yeah. Post crappy breakups or something.

o.0
2007-10-22, 11:03 PM #2
:(
Fincham: Where are you going?
Me: I have no idea
Fincham: I meant where are you sitting. This wasn't an existential question.
2007-10-22, 11:09 PM #3
I'm helping mediate my ex and her new girlfriend. I'm literally the mature side of their relationship, and it's a horrible experience. I told them I'm done dating them both and getting nothing out of it. They were honest to god devastated. I don't understand 'asexual lesbians' at all, apparently.
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2007-10-22, 11:11 PM #4
asexual lesbians? I've never heard of such a thing. And I go to a women's college!
Fincham: Where are you going?
Me: I have no idea
Fincham: I meant where are you sitting. This wasn't an existential question.
2007-10-22, 11:15 PM #5
No, it's a crock of stat. The fact of the matter is that they've had negative sexual experiences too young to know how they felt about them, and decided that it meant they didn't want sexuality at all. Now they're repressed and afraid of sex, yet they enjoy the affection with anyone who will give it.

Long story short: A pair of sexually repressed girls that are too full of themselves and eachother to admit that they just need to experience and explore themselves instead of making up their minds at age 14 and sticking with it into college.
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2007-10-22, 11:20 PM #6
Thats crazy. My only issue is that I don't want to lose a friendship. Although I fear its a little too late for that.

o.0
2007-10-22, 11:24 PM #7
**** happens, sadly. It's a tough spot to be in, no doubt. Bite the bullet and do it quickly, in person. It'll save a lot of hurt for the girl involved.
Pissed Off?
2007-10-22, 11:26 PM #8
Get over it. Chances are she'll get over it too. Quit whining :downs:

2007-10-22, 11:27 PM #9
If she can't respect you for trying to salvage the friendship out of a relationship you don't see working, than she's bad news bears to begin with.
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2007-10-22, 11:42 PM #10
Eat it!



Oh wait. Wrong kind of thread. :suicide:
My blawgh.
2007-10-22, 11:44 PM #11
Last time I dated was 2 years ago, it was an Israeli girl (totally awesome, hell, she even liked Kraftwerk (hell, she even liked Electric Cafe, now that's something)) and those were reall yfun two weeks. Of course, then she left back to Israel and I never heard of her ever again. Times.
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2007-10-22, 11:47 PM #12
At least you had a relationship.
2007-10-23, 12:32 AM #13
Well, in persons out because I already did it via MSN. Horrible I know. She seems to understand, and shes a really level headed person. She'll probably be fine.

o.0
2007-10-23, 12:33 AM #14
mmmmm... asexual lesbians
"it is time to get a credit card to complete my financial independance" — Tibby, Aug. 2009
2007-10-23, 12:33 AM #15
Sooner is always for the better. Good job on doing the right thing.
Pissed Off?
2007-10-23, 12:41 AM #16
I had a relationship once. She met me over myspace, I wasn't interested in meeting her, she kept pestering me to meet her.

So I dragged a friend along and hung out with her. We had nothing in common. The next day she came to my house and wanted to hang out. We went to mall, she shopped and I sat around and wondered why I had ever wanted to date anyone in the first place if it would lead to something like this.

That night I told her I really didn't like her like that, she cried and I gave in and said that I would give it a chance. She didn't know anything about me and she had just broken up with someone and wouldn't stop talking about him, so I came to my senses and called it off the next day.

What I don't understand about this whole thing is, why do people in highschool feel like they HAVE to be in a relationship?
My blawgh.
2007-10-23, 12:52 AM #17
becuz they r so matur
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2007-10-23, 12:56 AM #18
I don't feel like I have to be. Its just that my last one lasted about a year, and was really awesome. Long term relationships are worth it.. Just need to find the right interesting person. And hope they feel the same way.

o.0
2007-10-23, 4:43 AM #19
I'm sorry for your pain, Greenboy.

At the same time, I can't say I didn't see this one coming... :rolleyes:
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2007-10-23, 4:47 AM #20
Well, let this be a lesson learned, take your time with your women. Then again you might end up living with her for 2 years and having her cheat on your sorry axe, then claim she's pregnant with your kid when its really the others. :suicide:
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2007-10-23, 11:23 AM #21
/me hugs jep
nope.
2007-10-23, 3:43 PM #22
/me huggles jep
Fincham: Where are you going?
Me: I have no idea
Fincham: I meant where are you sitting. This wasn't an existential question.
2007-10-23, 3:51 PM #23
/ME removes pants for jep
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2007-10-23, 4:34 PM #24
Originally posted by Greenboy:
Well, in persons out because I already did it via MSN. Horrible I know. She seems to understand, and shes a really level headed person. She'll probably be fine.


You did it over the internet? :eek:

You dick, that is the worst way you could possibly end it. Seriously, I hope she never speaks to you again.

I say this because I've been the victim of an over-net breakup, and the girl could not look me in the eye.

The phone isn't exactly good either. Honestly, if you don't do it in person, it makes you come off as a coward.

Only one of my ex's did it in person, and she's the only one I'm still friends with.
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2007-10-23, 4:47 PM #25
Well, I had been meaning to do it in person, but we started talking online and well, **** happens. To be fair, the relationship started online also. >_>

o.0
2007-10-23, 4:48 PM #26
yeah seriously, petmc knows what he's talking about. I've lost one girlfriend over IM, didn't forgive her for a year and a half.
DO NOT WANT.
2007-10-23, 7:14 PM #27
if I wanted to end a relationship I'd definitely do it over the internet regardless of the insecurity of the previous several posts.
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2007-10-23, 7:16 PM #28
I just got dumped via email while I was on a trip.

I love it. almost 3 years down the pipe.
2007-10-23, 7:16 PM #29
I think that communication is communication. Internet isn't much different from real life if the people involved are sane.

@Backslash.. Did you enjoy those 3 years? Then they aren't wasted. If you didn't enjoy them you shouldn't be sad. >_>

o.0
2007-10-23, 7:18 PM #30
People do have long, involved conversations over IM these days. That just makes it more acceptable for using it to break up.
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2007-10-23, 7:30 PM #31
I am possibly hooking up with a foxy little lady this weekend. Woot for the home team!
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2007-10-23, 7:32 PM #32
Originally posted by Freelancer:
if I wanted to end a relationship I'd definitely do it over the internet regardless of the insecurity of the previous several posts.


Face to face is the only real way to do it, because you can see their expression and feelings and they cant just simply hang up or sign off.

That is, unless they're stone cold *****es and they do it 5 minutes before practice and they barely even slow down to tell you theyre breaking up with you... :argh:
DO NOT WANT.
2007-10-23, 7:51 PM #33
I once saw a breakup infront of a milkmachine.
It was really odd, Like they planned it out and told eachother "Meet at the milk machine at lunch, we need to talk"
2007-10-23, 8:24 PM #34
Originally posted by Zell:
Face to face is the only real way to do it, because you can see their expression and feelings and they cant just simply hang up or sign off.

That is, unless they're stone cold *****es and they do it 5 minutes before practice and they barely even slow down to tell you theyre breaking up with you... :argh:


Well, I agree on the expressions bit, but we didnt just sign off, we talked for a good while and sorted things out. Circumstances change for different people..

o.0
2007-10-23, 9:22 PM #35
Originally posted by Freelancer:
if I wanted to end a relationship I'd definitely do it over the internet regardless of the insecurity of the previous several posts.


Because you're a coward, hrm?

You're a goddamn fool if you think talking with text is even remotely comparative to talking face to face. If you're breaking up with someone, you're ending a relationship that they're a part of. Even if you're not invested in it, she might be. Not only do they deserve you to do it in person, but you owe it to them. Talking over IM creates way too much distance, not just with inflection but also with emotion, for a moment that should be between two people. Granted, if you're ending a fling or a relationship neither were invested in to begin with, you can really end that any way you want.

Well that's my mini-rant. Oh, and I've been on the recieving end of an SMS breakup. Yay.
2007-10-23, 9:27 PM #36
No, mostly because I'm much more expressive in writing than if I have to talk on the spur of the moment. I wouldn't do it over IM any more than I'd do it on the phone. I'd do an email or something.
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2007-10-23, 9:39 PM #37
... Seriously, man? You really need to get out more. A lot. A whole lot. Go, now.
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2007-10-23, 9:46 PM #38
Hahah, yeah, sure. I've been to places you could only dream of going in your wheelchair.
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2007-10-23, 9:49 PM #39
Normally I'd retaliate, but this time I'd feel bad.
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2007-10-23, 10:23 PM #40
Originally posted by Freelancer:
No, mostly because I'm much more expressive in writing than


im sure this works very well since all of your relationships are conducted via a textual medium
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