I just had to cut my ex out of my life entirely. Removed her phone number, facebook, blog, pictures/presents. I'm trying to, seven months after, get over the fact that I can't have what I want. She's being really receptive and helpful in the matter, and just came over to get some of her stuff and say goodbye. It's hard to lose your best friend over something like your own battered ego, but I'm betting on the fact that it'll help me focus on the problems I'm having with my life right now.

Have you ever had to cut anyone out, and was it affective?

tried that with my ex. Didn't work. Can't get away from people in a small town. I'm doing best now that we're on speaking terms. It took me a good 4-5 months to get over her though.. and relapse wouldn't surprise me. It comes and goes.

Had a friend basically decide that she was better than all of us (read: friends she'd known since middle school). I told her to go **** herself. It's been hard to get over how much of a ***** she turned out to be, but I'll get over her eventually.

Knew another girl in college who royally screwed over my friend. Cut her out of my life completely and haven't looked back.

Going to a university with a large student body, it's disturbingly easy to drop people and never have to see them again. I've done it to people and had people do it to me.

Saddly I've had to do that more than once. But with varying results.
In one case I was able to cut the person out long enough for me to get over her and recently we've started communicating again and it's been pleasant.
In another case I had to cut her off and I still recieve messages every now and then from her trying to reconnect. But those have gotten more and more sparse.

In both cases it was effective.

My ex decided cutting everyone out of her own life except for one friend was the solution to our problems.

Oh and she let me know on Christmas Eve, so it was double awesome.

I moved to alabama partly from the prodding of a friend. This friend has since seen me once (I bought a bag from him), and since then has basically dodged any attempt I've made at hanging out. Called him, set **** up, talked to him on AIM MULTIPLE (read, more than 10) times. I don't really know why the hell it happened, but I guess he doesn't want to be my friend. Kinda sucks because now I have to find friends, and doing that at a job where you interact with two family members all day long with no school and no idea of where to hang out is hard.

So I spend most of my time at home by myself. I ****ing hate my life right now.

C'est la vie.

I cut off all contact with an ex about a year and a half ago after she broke up with me because her mom, who had never met me, didn't like me. I was pretty pissed off and haven't talked to her since. She's made repeated attempts to stay in touch with me, but I never respond.

Considering your profession, I take it the "KILL IT WITH FIRE" meme is somewhat out of taste here?

initially, kirby's method is the right one. its horrible, but you have to cut out anything in your life that causes you pain, ex's, alcoholic depressed mothers, friends who embarass you, and of course full time work.

if(getThingFlags(source) & 0x8){
  do her}
elseif(getThingFlags(source) & 0x4){
  do other babe}
else{
  do a dude}

Hey! That sounds like my life. Awesome.

I wasn't fighting fire yet, but I pretty much left it with something along the lines of "I don't want to be friends with a 10 year old."

Gentlemen, never date a mama's girl. Seriously.

In the immortal words of The Rolling Stones, You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometime, you just might find you get what you need.

I was friends with a girl a few years back, and she sort of made it a priority to simultaneously make sure I had no life outside of her while partying every night of the week (at exclusive parties where she was absolutely positive I wouldn't have any fun, so don't tag along, i.e. lots of coke and sleeping with guys). I had to eat with her for every meal (we were still ate at the dining hall), and if she wanted to see me at any time that I was unavailable, she'd throw a **** fit. She caused me to do very poorly in a class (we happened to be in it together), and was generally a pain in the ***. I probably spent an entire 24 hours that year waiting at her doorstep. The summer came, I started to unwind, wise up and met another girl, and decided that the crazy one was too much hassle. So I cut her off, and vowed never to speak to her again.

Once she realized I wasn't talking to her, she freaked out. She started calling me nonstop, one night she called a total of 42 times in an eight hour period, started coming to my house at 3 in the morning, would look into my bedroom window, leave sobbing voicemails about how she's going to cut herself etc etc. One time she broke into my house and passed out in front of my apartment door.

I cut out my "best friend" of 15 years. She had tons of problems (eating disorders, mental instability) and was a liar. She ended up not being a friend (as I knew for years before this) and I finally had the courage to completely stop contact with her when she emailed me to tell me happy birthday (which sounds cruel, but she wasn't really emailing me about my birthday as much as she was pushing one of her agendas.)

Actually, I wish I had the courage to drop people like this more often...

Dude... isn't that, like, statutory?

(j/k)

I've never cut anyone off and no one has ever cut me off.. but people move, people change, and relationships grow apart.. part of life just gotta move on

Following our break up, for a little over half a year, I cut out my ex pretty effectively. Then we got back together after having talked for the first time in seven months. We dated again for a few months, broke up again. Two months after that, we got back together yet again. We'll have been back together for a year on the 15th.

I tried to cut out a girl once. It didn't work. Eventually I moved on and found another girl, and now me and this other girl that I tried to cut out are best friends again. It sucks but once you finally go move on, it's so much better.

Daddy's girl is bad too. Very bad. Even worse is a wiccan/christian/buddhist girl who pretends to be all growed up.

Even worse is religious prejudice.

i was referring to all 3 at the same time. It doesnt take a genious to work out how much sense THAT makes.

This one didn't have a dad around and believed everything coming out of her mom's mouth was right. Suffice it to say, I've moved on just fine.

In 2005 I met this awesome Israeli geekette at a Klezmer concert in Helsinki and we went out for 1.5 weeks just about every day. Then she just disappeared and I never heard of her again. What a bore.

This

Had a guy in college that cut out everyone and started over. Doesn't talk to his old roommates, anyone else that he used to hang out with from the dorms, everybody. Started hanging out with freshmen instead.

It hurts but sometimes it's necessary. I know how much it sucks to have myspace or facebook be a daily reminder of how happy your ex is. Nobody likes to be taunted with what they can't have.

Yeah, I did it to an ex before. It really worked too, as I didn't talk to her until a year after that (only on AIM). To me, it made it getting over her that much better - since you're not constantly reminded or thinking "maybe it can work"

My ex and I broke up in mid December after going out for 3.5 years. Everything was going fine, we had talked about marriage, all that. All of a sudden one day she realizes that it's not going to work out in the end because I'm agnostic and she's a fundie. We've spoken a couple of times since, but she's moving across the country in two weeks, and I imagine we're just going to lose contact.

I don't plan on completely erasing every trace that she was in my life. I took down the pictures I had of her, but there are tons on facebook. It's 3.5 years of my life, I can't just pretend it never happened. I guess it's kind of different for us though because we both pretty much agreed that we needed to break up.

When I found out that my two best friends drank and did drugs occasionally in high school junior year last year, I effectively cut them off completely, and stopped talking to them for an entire summer. It would have worked still if our school wasn't so small, but since I see them everyday I kind of realized that there really was no one else in the school who was my friend and were hanging out again. It's not too bad, they learned to not be stupid and do that stuff in high school, I hope.

I'm pretty sure I've had lots of people just cut me out of their lives, but I'm not really good at cutting people out of mine. The most recent thing I've done is move a screen name down to the bottom where I can't see it and removed their phone number (not that I called much or they called me). The equivalent of me "cutting off" anyone is not engaging them in conversation like I almost always do with people. I don't think I've ever had a case where I wouldn't talk to someone who wanted to talk with me actively -- people talking actively to me seems to be rare.

That almost seems like a silly reason to cut somebody off entirely. Even if the choices they were making weren't good ones, it doesn't sound like they pressured you to do anything you wouldn't do.

I've really only actively cut someone out of my life once, and that is/was my ex. And that's been like 3 years now.

wow

edit: and to actually contribute: no, I have never cut anyone out of my life.

Almost?

That's the stupidest ****ing reason I've ever seen to cut someone off. Why you would affect your friendship because of their choices is beyond me. They probably smoked pot 3 times and drink regularly...which is pretty much the biography of your average teenager.

If I cut my friends off because they did **** I didn't like, a lot of my junky friends I wouldn't talk to. Granted, I'd never buy drugs from them, do drugs with them, or anything like that, but they're still cool *** people regardless.

Maybe you should try cutting them instead of ignoring?

Groan, don't turn this into a drug thread. Make a new one, please.

It was a trust thing. Also it had to do with how every time they came over they decided to do something that would almost end up in us getting arrested and calling me a pussy if i didnt join in.

I probably should have mentioned that.

Okay that definitely changes the scope then.