No.

I did the same with my GF, and we're still together. It's been 3 years.

Ironically, it was facebook too...

You misunderstand Xzero, they didn't MEET online, and his girlfriend isn't half cat or twelve. :-P

Haha, kirby, that was a much needed laugh that you gave me. Yeah well guys I appreciate the concern, but I've decided to take control of this. I did take a step back and look at everything and questioned what exactly it was that I've been holding on to. I mentioned that to her, and she made it very clear how sincerely sorry she was, and she told me that she really felt like I deserved a better person. She said that she would try so hard to earn my trust back, and she told me if she screws up again she'll understand when I walk away from it all, and I am prepared to do so. I love her very much, but I do understand that a relationship is not worth it if you cannot trust the other person in it. I'll just have to see how everything pans out, and hopefully it will all be for the best.

Maybe you're right... I just can't seem to read an entire post before my eyes and brain feel like they are being incinerated.

Are you two ever going to be moving back together at some point?

If this is an indefinite thing, what's the point?


Just don't sell yourself short, man. Best of luck.

God I remember a time when my ex-gf was going about this guy in Liverpool, she phoned and emailed him like everyday and she told me that he'd be upset if he knew she'd got a bf and told me not to get jealous... anyway I dumped her after three weeks and apparently she cheated on me... and just to make it worse she tried to make me as many enemies as possible. She tried to wrap me around her little fingers, and hey im glad I did dumped, and a few months rubbed my nose in it by bedding one of my mates. On purpose...

Don't think you're doing anything wrong... and besides your doubts served you well... I can be easy to tell (sometimes) if someone's got something to hide, it becomes obvious...

God, sounds like one of my exes. They're everywhere the little harlots.

Danm right... she tried and failed.

But been single since... so yeah thats why it sticks in the mind.
Like I freaking care...

hahaha, martyn may I use that last bit for a signature?

Short simple advice:

1. Don't jump to any conclusions. She may be hiding something, but she may not, and what she is hiding may not be a big deal.

2. Be honest. Tell her that you that you are concerned and that you think she is hiding your relationship from people at her college. And see what she says. If the facebook thing comes up, admit to what you did, admit that it was wrong, and explain why you did it (because of your own fears that something was up). If you approach it that way, by being genuine and straight-forward, she may feel like it is safe to tell you what is going on. Also, if you are honest, it gives you grounds to demand honesty from her; ultimately no relationship can work without honestly, and if she refuses to be honest, then you can tell her as much.

My 2 cents.

(Also late, but there it is anyway.)

Wow, I haven't seen Kiramin in nearly a decade

Lmao. I get your joke, but to explain.

I met my GF in RL, she's 17, and I only wish she were half cat >.>

It was mostly just a state of confusion, I don't regularly talk to girls - they usually dismiss me because they think I'm a nerd or something. So when a girl is nice to me I used to get a weird feeling that I thought meant something.

Obviously, it doesn't, it was just me being more outgoing and them giving a reaction lol

Feel free my good man.

I think the reason so many relationships fail is that people are going around with a "must find girlfriend" attitude and when they find one the realtionship isn't built on the things an actual relationship needs. Sexual attraction is an important part of a relationship, but it sure a hell won't do it alone. There are other even important important aspects that need to be considered and they aren't what people are immediately thinking of when they are in "get girlfriend asap" mode. I wouldn't consider dating someone unless I've been friends with them for a reasonable amount of time.

but wouldn't that possibly ruin the friendship if it didn't work out?

I've always been of the opinion that, as long as neither party has done anything horribly disrespectful to disintegrate the relationship, friendships that have gone romantic can still be salvaged if the romance part fails. At least that's been the case with me. I've taken that leap and managed to re-establish very good friendships with a couple ladies. It's all about respect and maturity, and being prepared to move on.