Brief summary:

Met a lass online 2 years ago, on okcupid, just a casual online friend. She said she was 20 at 1st, but after a few months admitted to being only 16.

Fast forward a year later, Ive come to view her as a young misguided girl who needs advise on how to make up for her mistakes of being a tearaway chav when she was 13 or 14. Ie. she was pregnant at age 15, and had abortion at age 16. I tell her how to live her life basically, and how to leave the north and how to get into Uni.

Now things get tricky.

She comes down to visit, and yeah she's quite hot, ive been single 2.5 years at this stage, she's not my type and is 18 in 5 months. After hanging out in person for 2 days, i realise she is rather immature but is flirting a lot. After a night out of booze (obviously she lies about her age again and pretends to be 18), we're both a tad tipsy, and we have sex.[ Yeah, i'm still a man, i try to remain moral, but im only human, F*** you.]

Epic fail immediately afterwards, when she asks for a relationship. Panic mode. I thought she was familiar with casual lays, but i guess not. I think she admitted to perhaps having feelings for me, and i tried to avert this uncomfortable moment by pointing out that she lives 250 miles away ish and long distance doesnt work.
(real reason being, you're 17, i prefer girls who are smart and mature)
She buys it at the time.

Next time she visits, she acts like gf and bf, and i get angry. She doesnt seem to get the hint. She continuously invites herself down to my house.
Maybe i made it worse by accepting we could still sleep together.

3 months ago i ended this casual lay thing and said it was damaging her and ruining our friendship. She cried. I got angrier, i found it pathetic. She could tell i was always stressed around her. This has gotten worse each time. Each time she invites herself down and i cant think of an excuse to rescheduel, she hangs out for 5 days, hardly leaving me alone for 5 minutes, and I go a tad more insane.

Last week, she spent 6 days here. No sex, even though she sleeps in my bed wearing hardly anything, in fact the thought of sex with her makes me gag, which is somewhat over the top for a reaction. I couldnt hide my distaste of her company, and she said she felt low, and was acting VERY *****y towards me. She left yesterday on a coach, giving me the puppy eyes, and when i walked off, i felt pure freedom.

Now, I do admit, i know i have issues right now, I have to see a councillor etc, but i dont act like this with anyone else.

A list of **** she's pulled:

- Constantly talks about all the pointless immature gossip about her friends up north.
- Acts *****y towards me when i stopped begrudgingly giving her hugs when she asked for them. [friends dont whine about not getting hugged]
- Fails to organise anything for herself, didnt prepare for her exams and then whined about her course being rubbish the night before she was meant to do the exam
- Instead of packing her bags the night before so she didnt miss her coach, she said "i'll do it in the morning", and in fact, she DIDNT do it in the morning, and i woke up to find her crying about her going deaf and being scared (she got water in her ear after having a bath the night before)
- Fills my room with glasses of milkshake then knocks them over.
- Knocks over bottles in the bathroom and doesnt pick them up
- Leaves clothes all over my room and then forgets half of them when she leaves
- Brings drama into my life, not only by creating this scenario, but crying at me on the phone when her parents shout at her, or her dad "allegedly" hits her. Granted her mom has nearly died twice this year from drug abuse of some kind, but i cant do anything about that. I dont know how to be nice and caring to be honest.

After speaking to her earlier online, she was giving me the cold shoulder like an exgf, which only angers me more due to my hatred of immature *****iness. I told her why she angers me, and has now removed me from facebook, and sent me a text saying "u have no idea what u've done, i cant believe this"

So try to imagine how pathetic and whiny this girl is, (and yes, i'm quite similar, but nowhere near as bad), is it right for me to get this angry?
Do i detest her so much simply because i no longer shag around with her, and have grown bored of her company?
Or do I have a point here, her immaturity and personality are too much to take long term, my housemate agrees with me, and finds her almost as annoying.

So, whats your opinion? If this is my fault, then i have some serious issues, and will end up losing yet many more friends.

[since i started writing this, i've been sent a flurry of abuse from her friends on facebook, the same ones she *****es about]

if(getThingFlags(source) & 0x8){
  do her}
elseif(getThingFlags(source) & 0x4){
  do other babe}
else{
  do a dude}

Yeah, sounds like she's a bit nuts. I'd just lock your door and don't let her in the next time she comes around. Drop that **** like a bad habit. You may have made a mistake by sleeping with her, but it's not too late to just tell her to go away. She seriously sounds wacko (could be a result of her age as well). Obviously sounds like you don't want her around anymore, and never really did in the first place, so just drop it.

I heartily agree with Mr C.

You're both stupid ****s.
(not mscbuck or boco)

Drop that ***** like a hot potato, she reminds me of my ex-fiance. She was extremely over possesive of me and she was very insecure. When I fled from her I felt like I could breath again. I felt like I a released hostage after I left her.

You're both being stupid, imo.

Um, if having sex with someone under 18 is illegal where you live, I'd get that off the internet asap.

Sounds like she was in a bad place already and this 'relationship' hasn't helped. There's not a lot you can do beyond being firm with her and ending things completely, but you'll probably want to make sure there's someone else (ie her parents or another friend) who can look out for her.

Say what you like about her being nuts and deserving, but I know that I wouldn't want it on my conscience if she did something stupid.

It's not, the age of consent in the UK is 16.

You hate her because she's an obnoxious person who feels entitled to your time and attention at all times, does nothing but annoy and and cause trouble for you, and contributes nothing of value in return. Seems reasonable.

age of consent is 16, but even at 17 its still the worst thing ive ever done in my life

if(getThingFlags(source) & 0x8){
  do her}
elseif(getThingFlags(source) & 0x4){
  do other babe}
else{
  do a dude}

Probably not the answer you want but...I think she has problems, but I think you messed up far more than she did and have your own issue you need to sort out.

You should break things off with her (as smoothly as possible) and then focus on yourself. If seeing a councilor or talking to a friend helps, do it. And make sure you talk to a guy friend. You probably won't bone him when you've been drinking.

Is she from Middlesbrough?

You hate her because she's you.

Before knocking them over, did her milkshake bring all the boys to your yard?

This really doesn't seem like a very difficult scenario at all actually.

Agreed, you both made mistakes and the best thing for both of you is to break it off and sort it out on your own.

Sounds like she charges high bull**** rates for sex. You can find sex dispensers with much smaller bull**** rates.

she seems pretty bat**** crazy, but youre also in the wrong for agreeing to have her over so much.

you keep using the words "break it off" despite the obvious fact we were never an item whatsoever. A few mates down here seem confused about that, thats probably where i went wrong, didnt make these things clear

if(getThingFlags(source) & 0x8){
  do her}
elseif(getThingFlags(source) & 0x4){
  do other babe}
else{
  do a dude}

You werent an "item" but you were certainly together

Well, I mean "break it off" as in ending contact with her, etc. in general.

Yeah, exactly. Passive-aggressively acting like a dick in an effort for her to "get it" and leave you alone, while still having her over and trying to bang her, is not breaking it off. Cutting off contact is.

I've reconsidered. You should patch things up with her. Get her this as a peace offering:

You guys are worthless.

As a complete chauvinist I find her completely at fault.

These seem kinda like problems, to some degree. Are you qualified to give her this advice? Maybe/probably not (I wouldn't say I was, either) and she seems like the type to just resent it, anyway. 'Specially coming from her ex-bf ( ).

In general, my unqualified advice would be to try and take it easy, don't see her, let things kinda gel, and give yourself time to analyze her, yourself, and the situation with more emotional distance. I doubt you'll have too much trouble figuring things out if you step outside yourself and think aboot it.

Either way, you'll be away from her, which seems necessary, and you'll probably learn something about yoself, which is always fun and satisfying.

chavinist

Hahahah oh god she's so dumb.

Cut and run. The crazy isn't worth it. She's unstable, and probably needs professional help that you are unable to provide - especially if she now views you as a relationshipperson. </Dr. Drew>

Kill her. Then eat her.

It's the only way.

I had a situation with a guy (I cut him out really quick though) who decided that after 3 times hanging out, that I was his saviour, and "his light". He was a nice enough guy initially, then I saw the crazy, desperate for affection, self loathing, immmature, needy over dramatic twit that he was, and I ended our relationship. That didn't stop him from trying to talk to me/see me/ ask me for advice, but I realized that some people just can't be helped. If someone truely wants help then they'll get it. It really sounds like she doesn't want help, she wants attention. And you're giving it to her. I'd explain to her that you're not going to be responsible for her mental health, and that she needs to find herself some serious help, which you cannot provide. Then block her chave friends, don't answer your door when she comes down, and don't respond to her.

You hung out with ragna?

Voted for Option 1. IGNORE HER.