Yeah, that's right. I'm making a girls thread. My levels of lamedom have reached a new low.

So anyway, there's a girl that was in my animation class that I've hung out with a few times (some with a friend of ours, and two or three lunch/dinner things on campus of just me and her). Thing is, I just found out that she has a crush on me, but I don't feel the same way with her. It's rather fustrating because she's the first girl I'm aware of that has had those sort of feelings for me, and she's a nice and not un-attractive, and part of me is all "What are you, stupid? Look at your track record -- that's right, a lack of one. Go get a girlfriend already!" The thing is, though, as much as I hate it, there's no "spark" there, and forcing feelings I don't have would be a bad thing. So when I see her again this weekend, I'm going to do my best to tell her nicely but, more importantly for me, honestly. I don't want to leave her in any sort of question about how I feel on the matter. It just sucks amazingly hardcore that I couldn't feel differently about her, and I now empathize on a whole new level I didn't want to be on with those who have been in this same situation. I realize being the one to reject is never fun, but I guess this seems different because I wish I did like her, and that I feel especially lame rejecting someone like her, given my lack of track record.

So... yeah. I'm not really asking advice on the matter, as I know what I'm going to do. I just felt the overwhelming urge to post about this on the forums. Feel free to tell me I'm lame for making the forums my livejournal or whatever.

omq ur so lame!!11!11111!!

aaaaaaaaaanyway... something that occurred to me reading that - does she know that you know how she feels? it could be incredibly awkward for her to have you turn her down when she hasn't even put anything forward.

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Try to get to know her. I may be wierd, but acttraction to someone has more to do with who they are then what they look like.

Yes. She left a message on myspace saying she has had a crush on me.

Obi: That's part of why I've spent the time I have spent with her -- to try and get to know her. I don't like the idea of "closing the door" so to speak by rejecting her, because I realize that the spark might come about late or something, and I'm fully aware of the powers of spending time with someone. However, since she's let me know that she has a crush on me, I need to tell her as soon as I can how I feel. I don't intend to leave her hanging.

FGR: No, sorry. Not my style.

I think you're saving her a lot of pain. The spark is important.

Meanie.

A truth I'm really not liking right now

at least you have someone that likes you.

You wouldn't believe how much of an upside that's been too.

dude, I say go for it. If you tell her you're not interested, you could end up doing a lot of damage and burning any bridges you may have in the future. Take her on a couple dates, and see how it goes. She's not going to be so stupid that she becomes emotionally attached with just a couple dates, and you may find that the only reason the spark's not there is because you haven't been bothering to look for it...

just my 2 cents.

Either go for it, or send her my way so I can make a meaningful post in the "<3" thread.

Trust me, I've been looking for it, and trust me when I say burning bridges is[/b] a big fear of mine, but I think trying to pursue the matter would be a bad idea. Maybe the story will change when I talk to her over the weekend -- I intend to go in with open ears, of course, but I feel I need to be firm on whatever I do, or else things will turn out poorly.

Poor Scott.

Not every can be as awesome as ]-[ellequin, so don't worry about itl

well that's where I think you're wrong. You don't need to be firm about anything at first (please avoid childish jokes). If you go in open-minded and give it a shot something might happen.

However, if you flat out shut her down then you never know what you may have missed, and if you go in head over heels, then you'll get too attatched if it doesn't work.

But anyway it's ultimately up to you. I just would hate to see you create a problem that's not there.

Nothing wrong with just being her friend. *shrug*

I think I can be both firm and open-minded. That might sound contradictory, but that's going to be my intent, if for no other reason than I don't like to be close-minded about anything.

MZZT: Of course not, and I hope we can still be such.

Just to save you heartache, the note on myspace may be a fake. someone messing with you to pretend its her.

To be sure, you will have ot take her to the ocean and push her in. If a whale swallows her she does like you, if she just sinks it was never meant to be. This is also a good way to tell if someone is a witch.

Just tell her, "Lets just be friends." That way she'll go home and cry because she thinks she's ugly.

But seriously, I was in the same situation recently, and I kind of ignored her. Once I got a girlfriend the girl with the crush was really sad. So definitely want to tell her how you feel rather than letting her hanging. I felt pretty bad.

Geb, we need to talk.

What also floats in water?

A DUCK!

So...any girl who likes you is a witch? Or is it the other way around?

Probably what will happen too. And all her friends will tell her what a jerk you are and give her chocolate. Ah...female logic and companionship.

Edit : Meh, bad comment, my opinion of females got shaken with Jess. I still love you all dear female counterparts. <3

It's a tougn spot to be in, but I think you're handling it the right way.

Pretty much either way works.

You already have my position on the subject, but good luck to ye anyway.

PS - I hate mac keyboards.

DO WHAT YOUR HEART TELLS YOU TO DO.

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of skater girl TORI!!!

if(getThingFlags(source) & 0x8){
  do her}
elseif(getThingFlags(source) & 0x4){
  do other babe}
else{
  do a dude}

Just like I say in every other girl thread.


GET YOUR SPANK ON!!!

Hmmm, i sent one small bit of advice through myspace.

Take it into consideration.

if(getThingFlags(source) & 0x8){
  do her}
elseif(getThingFlags(source) & 0x4){
  do other babe}
else{
  do a dude}

Is this the same girl you talked to me about a long time ago? Yeesh.

After you're done with him..

Where do babies come from?

[QUOTE=Cool Matty]Is this the same girl you talked to me about a long time ago? Yeesh.[/QUOTE]

No, that was a different girl.

In all my 13 years of wisdom, I'm going to side with Sarn.

Go out with her on a date or two, get around her as more than just a friend...may show a different side of her (wow, sounded cheesy).

1. Don't lead her on.

2. Don't piss her off. Sometimes you develop feelings for people after you've gotten to know them for a while...and that certainly won't happen if she thinks you're a gigantic (hee, literally!) *******.

3. Be sexy. Bow chicka wow wow.

His name is Scott, too?

Man, what is it with us Scotts and not getting any girls

It's a cursed name I tell ya!

I have learned that, the biggest problem in relationships (especially budding ones) is the communication, or rather, the lack there of. The only reason you are in a dilima is because you're not communicating openly to her. Keep in mind, there's things she isn't telling you either. For instance, she may have a "crush" on you, but that doesn't mean she doesn't have any reservations about a relationship. She might be worried that a relationship could damage the growing friendship the two of you are having.

Advice:
Tell her! Tell her everything you've told us in this thread. Tell her you're dilima and for pete's sake DO NOT SUGAR COAT IT! Tell it like it is, regardless of what happens, she'll have the up most respect for you. Either way, when you do, she'll more then likely open up to you and tell you any reservations she may be having and you might muturally decide not to pursue a relationship right now. It's a hell of a lot better then worrying yourself about it (which has been found to be medically unhealthy for you anyway).

Personally, I don't think there's been a "spark" between you two because you haven't DONE anything together yet (other then stuffing your faces in front of each other which has never helped to provide a "spark" in any relationship). Go out and do something physical (no, not sex). Go indoor rock climbing, bowling, put-put golf, ANYTHING! Then see if nothing is "sparked."

That's a good point. But even then, if you go out to eat and are really having a good time, and laugh and so on, you can usually tell if there's something there, but I agree that it might be easier or more likely to occur in a different setting.