Ok heres the story, my gf and i have been living together since december last year, just shy of 8 months now. When she first moved in, she had come all the way from californnia and we had both decided that it was a temporary arrangement untill she got a job and her own place.

But as time went on and we got more used to it, it kinda seemed as though we had both forgotten about her leaving at all. We argued a bit at first but got ever it in time, we have melded everything together pretty well (or so i thought), and wed both just let it slide. We were, in fact, even talking about us BOTH moving out of this place to get a new larger appartment that was for both of us, and making it a little more official then just the two of us living in mine.

But the house hunt got hard, everyone in this town was looking for a place and the pets we were bringing were a red flag to most landlords (2 cats, a mouse, a snake, some birds, and a screeching cockroach that gives me the god-damned willys). So the hunt was nearly halted and in time slipped my mind altogether, in spite of all the things going on at work preparing to change clients.

A few days ago she tells me that she had been going to Family Services with her mother and has been looking for a place again for some time (how long exactly, i dont know) and never told me anything about it.

First of all that pissed me off, but i didn't say anything. Whats more is that she now tells me she is not looking for a place for US at all... she is going herself. She says she does not want to break up with me, and when she says it i believe her, she seems just as intent stay together as me. She has even made me a copy of her key already. She says that she has been living with other people from the day she moved out of her mothers, and has never had a place of her own, that she is begining to feel like she cant get by without someone else doing things for her and shes tired of how weak that makes her feel. She wants a place of her own so she can become more independant.

The thing is i have never had a gf for more than a month before and so i dont really have any experiences like this to draw off of. So even though we had been planning for this to happen long ago, it stills seems bad to me. The more i think about it the more i feel like maybe she is looking for space from ME and not just from people in general. This just really seems like something a chick would do before she breaks up with someone.

I am hoping that someone on massassi has been through a similar situation before and can tell me if my worries are just worries or if this really might be the end. Shes coming home soon at any minute, and we are going to go check out her new place together.

I love her, and when i think about her going away, and knowing that it could be so soon it makes me really sad. She has been with me through so much that has happened over the last year, and when i think of loosing her like this i dont know what ill do.

Please, if anyone has any advice or input i would love to hear it. Im especialy interested in anything that has come from real life eperiances, not just assumptions, so if you have anything to share please do...

I don't even have to read the story...

definitely yes.

She obviously wants some degree of independence, and isn't dumping you (hence the key), but female independence is REALLY close to bachelorhood...

I don't understand the problem and that doesn't really sound like the full story.

But, yeah, I would break up with you.

Mostly just because that's the standard ******* Massassian answer.:v:

yep you're too emo

Maybe she just wants to live on her own for a while. Hell, she gave you a copy of the key already...

But eh, what do I know.

My girlfriend pulled this "maybe we shouldn't live together" crap not too long ago. Just ride it out. Your life will suck for the next 2 weeks or so, and then everything will be better.

From what you say it sounds like the house thing is different from the dating thing. She gave you a key to her place, she has a pretty good reason for moving out, and she said that she doesn't want to break up. You've got some good evidence in favor of you two staying together.
Talk to her, and let her know how you feel. The doubts may be unfounded, but they are there nonetheless. Get the issue resolved and in the past. It sucks to live with a nagging doubt like you've developed.

how old are you? and if she is your first serious girlfriend it will sting a little but im guessing since you are both going through 'change' ie... moving out of the parentals housing that other things in life will change as well even though you want to say to yourself "it'll be great we will live together and have support and yatta blah w/e". The truth is you are young yeah shes probably thinking about moving on and getting her independence which should be a 'sigh' to you that you should as well. It dosn't matter how good 'it' was or how much you cared its just going to happen. The good news you now have no one to answer to and can get drunk more often and hit on more women. Which is not what you want to hear but trust me it will all make sense in time.

Don't read so much into it.

Wow, i did not expect so many responses so fast. I expected the "yes id break up with you" response from at least 10 people, cus thats what you get when you ask the internet.

But mostly what im gathering from the "shes breaking up with you" side, is that its just gonna happen and i should cope with it.

And from the "she might not be" side im getting just relax and dont think about it so much.

That, and the talk to her about it one, which is sound advice as well. i guess it mostly just comes down to letting what happens, happen. She is the one who chose to do this, so if she is planning to break it off, the ball is in her court.

Still, the waiting isn't much fun either, but i guess theres not much else i can do..

What you need, boy, is a girlfriend.

I don't know what a freind is, and frankly I don't want to know.

Yeah, sounds like you're either reading into it to much, or there's more to the story to make you think she wants to break up. Chances are she just wants to be independent. I can't blame her, either. It could strengthen your own relationship, even.

Pics!

I'm with Nightmare. Of you, so we can know whether or not to break up with you. Of her, so we can know if we're out of your league.

I say your looking to deep into this. I think I'm right because I'd do the same as her. Hell, I'll probably end up doing the same at some point; I wouldn't worry about it too much. She did give you a key, I'm pretty sure she's waiting for you to surprise her in the morning

Yeah.

But only because I'd be leaving you for kirby, so you might not want to take my opinion into account.

Seriously though, sounds like she just wants a mix up. This will either prove the fatal end of your relationship, or give you both thinking/breathing room and could possibly prove to be something that strengthens your relationship.

Yes.

Yeah, I forgot to mention: Don't ever introduce your girlfriend to me.

(Spook, I'll meet you behind Quiznos with a bottle of margarine. I know an employee.)

Can we do the thing with the bacon again too?

If she's never lived on her own before, she really needs to. Let her have some space, be cool about it, don't spend too much time over at her place, and it will feel like hers. After a while (maybe a year) she'll be ready for something more probably.

And Brian wins my heart.

errr... the thread.


<.<

*Runs*

For making longass posts like that, sure, why the hell not!

When is your girlfriend's birthday? I'm guessing she's a Sagittarius.

If she is, pm me and I'll tell you how to deal with the situation, My Fiancee is a Sagittarius

WHICH MAKES THEM THE SAME GULLIBLE ***** THAT DATES IDIOTS LIKE US, LOL!

I think your girlfriend just needs some time to live on her own and get a feeling of independence for a little bit. It sounds okay, and you should do your best to be supportive of her. It doesn't sound like she's leaving you, or would ever do something like that.

Not the same, but alike in most characteristics.

Usually when a girl wants to take a break or something like that it means "I want to have sex with other men without it being on my conscience." This doesn't seem the case though. At least from what you've told us.

This story made me feel sad! (But then 82nd Fister gave me a giggle!) Seriously, as much as I understand your girlfriend's need for a bit of space, is it really right that she should be making someone she cares about and has shared 8 months with feel sad? You need to talk to her and explain that this has come a bit of a shock - after all, she didn't tell you she was going to Family Services, and couples shouldn't have secrets, should they? i imagine you would appreciate more honesty and open discussion in future.

And in answer to your question - no, it doesn't necessarily mean she's going to break up with you, but isn't that a question you should be asking her? And if the answer were yes, doesn't that mean you should wait patiently for someone who really deserves you? You shouldn't have to be going through this from a girlfriend, so my advice would be to get talking. Good luck!

Psh. You women and your "talking". Highly unnatural thing if you ask me.

Actually, IM the saggitarious, though i dont really think im acting like one right now. She is a Pisces.

No good can come of this.

Star signs are bull****.

I'd probably dump you for believing in that wannabe new age spiritual hippy bullcrap.

We both believe in horoscopes, tarot, witchcraft, psychics, lucid dreaming, divine numerology/geometry, and all that other stuff. Normally, i read my tarot cards everyfull moon to look into things like this, but like i have said, my work has been messed up the last couple of months, and ive been going from night shifts to morning shifts and back often.

When you schedule your reading to a time of day/month, it sometimes gets hard to tune in after harsh changes like that. I really cant do any readings untill i get myself straightened out again.

And as for the saggitarious/pisces combo, we knew the ominous signs of that from early on, but there is always a positive side to every combo as well, and i really just figured we were leaning towards that end. But i guess thats why its hardest to read for yourself, you tend to want to interperet things a certain way.

Oh, and its not "new age", its a hell of alot older than anything you believe in, i would assume, as it dates back farther than most religions.

tl;dr

your penis is tiny and your face is ugly, of course its inevitable.

suck it SPE

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This is madness.

Either she's already planning to dump you, in which case it won't help you to make a big deal out of this, or she's not planning to dump you, in which case you could make a big deal out of this and then she will dump you.

So don't make a big deal out of this.

That's my take, anyway.

You and JM would be the best of friends. :downs:

Break up with your girlfriend. Don't try to find another. Go gay. Please don't breed.

What the lucid dreaming have to with any of that? There nothing mystical about lucid dreaming.

Also, language warning:
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