The girl I've been in love with for 1.5 years (who also happens to be pretty much the hottest woman on the planet, funny how that works) ran off on me not too long ago, just before we were about to move in together. I told her that's fine, do what you have to do (ouch). She did, then came back saying it wasn't the same without me. I said I agree, I'm glad we had the break. That lasted about 3 weeks and she ran off again, this time for good. She doesn't love me any more, all that we had and built is now just a memory and learning experience. I've broken a few hearts in my day but never had the favor returned until now. I'm in pain. Wanted to share with you guys. Thanks for reading.

:\ Hope you'll feel better soon. I'll pour one out for a fellow JK editor.

(Coincidentally my chest also hurts but that's mostly due to leaning towards a wall in a moving train, maybe I should take up exercising...)

Just fell out of love here too mang.

Know how you feel.

Not going to say it gets better, but I feel you.

The woman that I was with for 4 years left; cheated on me because I wasn't Christian enough. It's been half a year, and I feel worse about it every day.

Hang in there.

Damn, I should really fire up JED for some therapy.

Sucks bros. Just gotta keep on keepin' on and the pain will slowly fade

Dude... that sucks.


That... that doesn't make sense.

That was my first thought as well, but I figured that does sound like woman logic.

No, that's Christian logic.

Yup.

Sorry to hear.

Post her naked pics on the i-net and link us up, you'll feel better.

I'm comfortably single.

I haven't been in love since my marriage (not truly), no disrespect to my last gf who's a wonderful person. And even when I was married, it was more infatuation than love. I was 21, by the way (IIRC). My ex-wife lied about her contraception pretty much and got pregnant; I figured I loved her & got married. 2 years of hell followed. After 1 year I told her that even though we have a kid, I'll divorce her if she doesn't start treating me with some respect. 1 year later she got pregnant again (I'm still considering making a DNA test with my son because I know how much she wanted a 2nd kid, and not 100% sure if he's even mine, sorry to say, she's the kind of woman who'd do anything to get what she wants I think), although she continued to scream at me, being jealous for no reason, etc. I haven't even went out with my friends over the 2 years, not to mention finding somebody to cheat on her with... And anyway, that wasn't my style. **** deteriorated even further and I figured if I don't leave her now, I won't have the heart to do so after the 2nd kid's born.

And so I did. Was pretty much one of the ****tiest things I've done in my life (not counting marrying her), but hey, the way I figured it, if I were a kid I'd rather see my dad do his own thing than be my mommy's *****.

She's not working and hadn't for the past 6 years, and is now apparently into dating men over 50. I guess she thinks one of them will marry her. Mmm.

Dash that sucks hard, I'm sorry man


Ayyy this is super not okay

I'm guessing that he's just saying that he wasn't in to going to church events enough or maybe that his beliefs were less absolutist or fundamentalist. I've dated evangelical/fundamentalist Christians & it's no ****ing picnic. The sex is better than one might expect (holy **** there's some disturbed chicks in churches--those Mormon sect leaders have it right (minus the kids of course), so long as one can stand their dated clothes & hairstyles) but in the end it's just too much ****ing work--she did him a favor & he'll agree once the pain is less raw. I became an atheist towards the end of a 5 year relationship with a Christian--I don't think that she ever really accepted it & I'm certain that it was a factor in the relationship ending. Big ****ing favor she did me.

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That's the worst thing you've ever said.

Cool Matty can still use that account again.

You know that's illegal in the United States now, right?

idgi.

I told her to sleep with whoever she wants during that time. I certainly did. I think she came back after she saw that I can still pull like a boss

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Because (she thinks) she's fallen in love with the coworker she had an affair with and subsequently invented a list of reasons she didn't think it would work out with me.

Maybe she really has, and maybe the reasons aren't invented. If she felt the need to leave, it probably wouldn't have worked anyway.

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Jesus ****ing christ are you a horrendous human being.

Says the guy who generalized all Christians in this very thread.

I never said that all Christians act a certain way, only that using religion to justify infidelity is much more likely to be due to someone's religious background rather than their gender. Don't try to tell me "woman logic" is a thing, **** anyone who thinks that.

I'm tired about people denying that generalizations are generally true. Isn't it tautological?

Then again, I've never really been victimized by them, either.

Why does it have to be all or nothing? What's so wrong about pointing out that many Christians act a certain way? If it's more than half, you're justified in the generalization, in my opinion, as a first approximation.

What is it that is so hard for our society to grasp about certain traits being overrepresented by specific classes of people? Forget all ideology for a moment and deny that with a straight face. Has our obsession with individual rights clouded our very judgement about basic truths?

"Women are irrational who can understand them am I right guys" is not a basic truth, though, it's just dumb bull****

Wellll, if we start with the assumption that no rational woman would leave a great guy like myself, then there is no choice.....

Maybe the problem with a man's resorting to the charge of irrationality has more to do with his lack of understanding of a woman's motives, needs, etc.

But then again, how is he supposed to know if she does not communicate them (except in subtle ways beyond the comprehension of the male brain)?

I suppose everyone projects his own sex onto the other, to some extent. Perhaps a man could better understand women if he decided to become one for a few days.

(The stereotypical conclusion from that line of logic is that men lack the "social intelligence" or empathy that women have.)

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Men are perfectly capable of social understanding, it's just that the traditional thing to do is to not bother trying and tell each other women are all crazy. Because they couldn't possibly be the reason their relationships keep failing, obviously. (not referring to Zarn here at all, just the "women are from venus" thing)

Also if you think men aren't just as guilty of not communicating their feelings with romantic partners, cmon haha

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I might also point out that she may not be satisfied with any single man, and that her decision to leave may say more about her than it does about Dash. The propensity to maintain a stable relationship surely varies from person to person, perhaps due to genetics. Ethical and supportive behavior may not necessarily be biologically advantageous if the goal is to propagate the species.

wow what a ****ing awesome convo to have in a thread a guy posted because he's hurtin

How is 'woman logic' NOT a thing. I'm not implying male logic is superior but men and woman have vastly different hormones that influence our decisions.

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