How is 'woman logic' NOT a thing. I'm not implying male logic is superior but men and woman have vastly different hormones that influence our decisions.

Well, 'woman logic' can and is used to express misogynist ideas. I doubt there's much solid evidence for it, even if people sort of 'get it' when you talk about it.

erm care to give a parable so i can see how this is applied?

'woman logic' a.k.a. white lies used to justify self-interest in a way that lets them avoid direct conflict with large predatory mammals twice their size

Suggesting that men or women do certain things because of a difference in hormonal balance is to suggest that because of gender, pretty much the entire human race is incapable of rational thought.

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That might be an easy argument to make but it seems a little silly to try in this thread where the topic is heartache/relationships. Even if you could remove all emotional bias from these decisions then I think you would end up removing all the enjoyment as well.

OP's ex didn't do what she did because she's a woman. She did what she did because she's either a *****, or OP is an *******.

Stop excluding the middle!

Is your empathy stronger than 6 beers?

Obviously the grass is not greener because you're staying with her, either from her attraction or the fear of not having anyone.

and the grass is greener does not always apply to every human at every second, obviously Dash_rendar's girlfriend was looking for an upgrade.

I like this.

Although, a bit too naturalistic for my taste, on closer inspection.

obviously Dash_rendar's girlfriend was looking for an upgrade.

Heh, my initial comment containing the phrase 'woman logic' wasn't directed to OP, it was referring to a post made by Admiral Zarn. And To be fair there really wasn't enough information in Zarn's post to reach any conclusion, initially I read "cheated on me because I wasn't Christian enough" as something his significant other actually said but it might have been his own conclusion.

That argument is fundamentally flawed because it relies on a constant truth. The grass is always greener. It's a product of irrational thought.

I'll use an example: I have a girlfriend that I've been with for a decent while now. I love her dearly. We have literally never had a fight of any kind. We always have fun together. Yet I still find other women desirable because it's a natural human thing to do. There's a girl that I work with who has magnificent D-Cup fake boobs and hits on me all the time, and while I would love to sleep with her, but I don't, because I have a stable relationship. So while my girlfriend doesn't have large fake breasts, I still stick with her instead of chasing someone else down. This is largely because I have the capacity for empathy. I know that if I banged the girl from work it would break my girlfriend's heart, so I don't do it, no matter how much I would like to, and no matter how awesome it would almost certainly be. My physical attraction to her is countered by my devotion to my girlfriend.

I don't buy the "grass is greener" argument because, as I said before, it's always seems true. It is, also as I said before, a lack of empathy.

No, see, what you just described isn't actual empathy. If you have to restrain yourself, you're faking it.

Christian logic was described as cheating on your SO because they don't believe in your religion. Do you not find that objectionable?

I think staying faithful out of a fear of personal consequences is not the same thing as staying faithful because you love and respect your SO. I think intentions matter. Basically what I am saying is that to a lot of people, the outcome alone isn't good enough if it's for the wrong reason.

I don't agree that people have bad impulses regarding values they actually hold. When values you actually hold are violated or you think about violating them, it is repulsive. It just so happens that a great many people don't value monogamy. If you're one of them, let your SO know that up front and save the both of you some heartache.

of course there is no continuum, we're only talking about Dash_rendar and a possible alternative. Certainly some people are more attractive than others.

My guess is she was already looking, at least subconsciously, for a different partner for a while.

If she's really attractive, then she gets approached by guys all the time, so the fact that they had a solid relationship for over a year means Dash_rendar has a lot going for him. I can only speculate as to what happened, bro.

Well, in this case I'd say that on a purely carnal level, you would absolutely prefer the other woman. The problem is there is too much risk, too many other factors keeping you from wanting to do that.

Dash_rendar's ex-girlfriend obviously didn't have much holding her back. Now obviously we can all agree that the relationship was probably going sour for a while before the first incident, which is why I'd say she was probably talking to different guys and considering them as potential partners for a while. If she's attractive, she's given plenty more opportunities by men. So it's more likely that she will find a more solid "upgrade" in terms of objective qualities of people. Yes it's ****ed up, it's shallow, it's cruel and Dash_rendar doesn't deserve it, but I'll be damned if it doesn't happen often enough to be a trend. She's her own person, and if she wants to leave Dash_rendar for another man, she can. But it's obvious where she stands in her opinion on Dash, which is why I recommend he never take her back, which may be hard if she's good at manipulating and comes to him with the waterworks running.

And no, I'm not implying that people only chase after superficial qualities, as in your case you prefer a companion that you love being around to the bimbo-type that you're more sexually attracted to. That's perfect for you because an emotional connection is obviously what satisfies you.

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