Antony
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Reid, please take this the worst possible way you can: You are a goddamn terrible human being. You do not even remotely have to be manipulative to get laid all the time, or be in a stable relationship. The reason you cannot get laid or have a stable relationship without manipulation is because you are a terrible person.
At the end of the day the conventional wisdom of "be yourself" is the most successful way to find a stable relationship. You should not have to alter your personality in any way.
As far as getting laid all the time is concerned, I can also shed some light on that. In my early 20s I got laid constantly, and pretty much without any kind of real effort. How did I do this? I'm a relatively handsome guy, I have a fairly large degree of self confidence without crossing into an overly inflated sense of self worth, and I'm funny and charismatic. Basically, the way to get laid all the time without being an emotionally manipulative ******** is to be the type of person that is generally considered to be sexually desirable. I'm sorry if you aren't those things, and you have to resort to manipulation to get sex. Not everyone has those attributes, just like not everyone is capable of remarkable feats of athleticism. Some guys are naturally athletically gifted, and some guys take steroids, and the third group of guys put in years of hard work to become good at those things. You are the kind of guy who takes steroids. Instead of actually isolating the issues which need improvement and working on them to accomplish your end goal, you take the easy (read: harmful) way.
Coincidentally, steroids can also make your balls shrink to the point that you barely have the defining characteristics of being a man, other than a Y chromosome. Read into that what you will.
Really, people like you are the reason why we have a high rate of depression and suicide over relationships. You completely fail to understand that the women you are dealing with are human beings, and your emotional manipulation could have serious long term mental health effects on them.
It might be time to consider that the reason you are unable to find a successful healthy relationship is because you're an incredibly selfish and narcissistic douchebag.
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