There, there.

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Banks and banks of humming machinery! I've never seen so many knobs. We're going to have to do something, Charlie! Try pushing that button there. No? How about that one? No, not that one either. I know! I'll try pushing this one. Hold my hat will you? Good fellow.

I'm not here to gloat or anything, but It seems that a lot of people here suffer from low confidence, based on what i've read so far on this thread. My question to you is, why do you feel this way? Do you have a legitimate reason, or have you simply resigned yourself to it? it's just a simple question.

Long ago, I used to be like that, but It's been so long that i don't really remember what it was like and how my mindset used to be back then. As I go through my day, it seems like I have an infinite supply of self-confidence at my disposal. Not being confident is a concept that is totally foriegn and alien to me.

I'm curious, why do so many here have problems with confidence, shyness, etc? I believe that everyone has the potential for high self-confidence. The skill is there, but it has to be unlocked and developed.



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I have found that you can transform your character solely by the power of belief: as you believe yourself to be, so you shall become over time.

*Stab*

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Have a good one,
Freelancer

*gives freelancer a bigger knife*

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Because this is the internet.

^Incidentally, that's also the reason nobody takes you seriously, Page. I mean, don't video games and discussion forums cut into your mackin' time?

I used to have low confidence, then I discovered how I had different talents than the people I hung out with and learned how to apply them.

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"Look at me! I'm Tracer! BLAHBLAHBLAH!"

-MBeggar

Not really. I probably waste more time than that sitting in traffic on the freeway, yet I still have time for the rest of my life. It's all about balance.

I don't have to tie myself to a stereotype, real life doesn't work like that. Besides, my skills rely on my ability to blend in, so if you saw me on the street, you wouldn't be seeing me talk about confidence and what not. You people here have seen a side of me that few people see.



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I have found that you can transform your character solely by the power of belief: as you believe yourself to be, so you shall become over time.

Because we lack your talent for self-deception.

Physically, I'm not a big fan of my irritable bowel syndrome. Personality wise: I'm not very trusting of others and generally refuse to divulge anything but the most obvious and basic information about myself (although I'm not sure if I'd consider it a flaw per se)


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Run: forgetting passwords and stuffing up profiles on a regular basis.

Don't hand me that. You've racked up 2000 posts in about 14 months. That's huge. And I'm not stupid. There's no way you can post that much, sleep, play video games, go to college *and* be Mr. Super-hip.

Seriously, there's only 168 hours in a week.

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"Look at me! I'm Tracer! BLAHBLAHBLAH!"

-MBeggar

when I'm at uni, I mostly post here during the day when I'm between classes. Also, I cut back on my social life during fall + spring semesters.

I only hang out / go out with chicks / etc. at night, so during the day, I post here, and get work done.

Besides, you don't think I go out with women every night, do you? Once a week is quite enough for me, if i do more than that it gets to be a chore.



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I have found that you can transform your character solely by the power of belief: as you believe yourself to be, so you shall become over time.

I can be pretty cynical at times

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I'm not an actor. I just play one on TV.

My back being bent wrong, my teeth having a few chips (and a little crooked cause my retainer broke), and the scars I have on my back.

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I can't think of anything to put here right now.

I've spent the vast majority of my life in front of a computer.

I am thin as a rail.

I have absolutely no social skills.

I post on what essentially is an e/n log thread.

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btw, no one has answered my question: If you have low confidence, why do you feel that way?

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I have found that you can transform your character solely by the power of belief: as you believe yourself to be, so you shall become over time.


[This message has been edited by Pagewizard_YKS (edited July 16, 2004).]

It's partly because I hate people and being around with them.

It's also because I know I'm bound to piss them off in one way or another.

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Wise men say that fools rush in where angels fear to tread, so look before you leap, so to speak, because the grass is not always greener on the other side of the hill.

I hate everything about myself.
I hate that I hate everything about myself.
I hate that I hate everything about myself and yet don't do anything about it.
mainly because the stuff I dislike is either physical (and I'm too lazy to sort that out) or is to do with my mental attitude, which I seem to be incapable of changing.

I have a habit of getting easily irritated with people for no reason, and yet I really don't think enough of myself to justify acting as though I was better than them.
I have social anxiety, though apparently I hide it well. I'm not shy, I'm just constantly freaking out inside around new people.
I'm a huge underachiever.

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/end boob rant

You could work at looking a little less like Bert from Sesame Street. Eyebrow waxing is in.

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"The moral of the story? No means no, especially when it comes to the English language. It's not into the kinky stuff you want it to do, and therefore you should not force it." - Darko

... So we can live in a van down by the river?



Please god shut up

Sine +1

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Wake up, rise and shine, Gotta take another pint, Dig heads and watch out for the night.

I look like a failed genetic experiment, all the girls hate me, I can't seem to become any good at making music. And I'm lazy, and post on the internet instead of practicing my guitar.

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No signature for you.

Ummm... I'm not that bad looking, and I think I am pretty talented in many different things... music, drawing, JED.. etc. Also, where I work Nearly EVERY girl there has or had in the past a crush on me. Many people have told me this... including the girls themselves... the only problem is that it seems that all the girls that like me are really ugly. Maybe it's just where I work that 80% of the girls are ugly. It sucks for me too, cause I have so many options, but I feel that I can do better... I guess my standards are too high. and it sucks

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Oh jeez, I can't even tell you all that I hate about me. For starters, I must be the laziest kid in my school, which really pisses me off. I'm not in shape, but hopefully I'll be able to body build or something soon. I've VERY low confidence. I think I may be able to do something, and then that feeling dies. I see things that I think are cool, do them, and get laughed at. MY HAIR IS STATIC! I have no control AT ALL over it. I'd have to use a bucket of glue to make it go down, so I just comb it back, because it seems to fall that way. I have almost no sport ability, except in Dodgeball (It relives the pain in wanting to hit somebody with a ball ) and Soccer. Acne problems, yay. I don't mind this to much, but I'm diffrent from my friends, I like to be alone often, and they wonder why. I like my friends, but often when they call I just don't want to do anything, and prefer to just go walk the neighborhood or meditate or something, alone. I have VERY different music tastes it's almost scary. I SUCK AT MATH!!

The rest I don't dare say on these boards.

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Titan A.E.

Well I used to be like you are now. But then I discovered that other people had talents and I didn't. And I still don't. Then I started to look at myself. I'm not very articulate, I'm ugly as sin, I'm clumsy, I act like I'm stupid, I'm always tense, I have bad eyesight, I have freckles on one side of my neck and not the other,I have bad people skills, I have a temper,I'm not a very nice person, when I do act nice, everybody walks all over me, I naturally have very black hair and very pale skin and kinda creepy looking eyes; which makes everyone think I'm a goth or satanist, when people actually do talk to me I wind up being shy. I get irritated when people listen to crap music, I'm too serious about stuff, I'm dangerously underweight, which only adds to my vampire-like appearance. Most girls hate me. Most guys hate me now that I think about it. I'm an insomniac, so my eyes are always bloodshot, which also adds to my creepy factor. I'm very bland. I'm not funny, I'm not interesting, I'm not unique. I'm just bland. My voice is bland and it always sounds like I'm speaking with a fake english accent. So people I meet often tell me to stop with the bad accent. I have crappy hair. I'm not motivated at all. I'm tall which alienates me even more. I procrastinate. I'm very judgemental. I'm detatched from everything. The nice people who do notice me pity me and I wind up blowing up in their face. I can't take compliments because I always think people are pitying me, a lot of times they are. I think about killing myself a lot. I've tried twice.
Back to the point. If all there is is bad, why should I feel good about myself? If I screw up everything that I try to do, why should I be confident? If people always wind up not liking me and getting angry at me, why shouldn't I be shy? Should I just be asking for people to be mad at me?

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"Father to your hands I commend my spirirt. Father to your hands-Why have you forsaken me?"

Sine:



Thank you.

[This message has been edited by Morfildor (edited July 16, 2004).]

Me too.

Also, I'm freakishly shy. People are afraid of my quietness. Coincidentally, I have a lot of hidden aggresion.
I also hate my teeth.
And have scoliosis (sp?)
And I could afford to loose a few pounds.
My nose is a bit on the large side, imo.
I'm not very coordinated.
My left ear has some kind of problem w/distortion at certain frequencies. (Sounds like a blown speaker at times.)
My hair is thinning.
Can't seem to grow a damn beard. (at least not a good one).
My skin produces highly unusual amounts of oil. You can litterally scrape it off my face and see it... and possibly use it for fuel.
Seriously. 10% of the world's oil supply comes from my face.

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[This message has been edited by DogSRoOL (edited July 16, 2004).]

I do not dislike any of my characteristics. I have come to grips with the reality that is my life, my appearance, and my personality. I like myself, my life, and my appearance. Do I still want to change some of it? Yes. But do I hate myself for the things I want to change? No. Do I hate the fact that I spend most of my time either playing videogames watching movies or playing guitar? No. I enjoy those things. So that's what I do. Anyone that is ashamed of anything they do, or dislikes themself in any way needs a good kick in the face. And you hate that other people don't like you. How can other people like you if you don't like yourself? If other people don't like you for being who you are, then they're not worth being around anyway, and apparantly you're not meant to be friends with that person. My only change I try to make with myself is becoming a better version of what I am now. I practice playing guitar and videogames. I work out alot. I read alot. I try to learn everything I can. I go to art school. I try to improve my qualities, not change them.

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I resent that.

Nice, but with some people like myself it just doesn't work. I'm ashamed that I sit at the computer and mindlessly play guitar once I finally get bored with games. I don't really like doing it either. I'd rather be out doing something like a normal person. I need a good kick in the face. But that's the thing. I want to be kicked in the face. I hate myself. I don't know how anyone could like me, but some people do anyway. Most of them have never really known me. All my life people have never really liked me for who I am. After a while it sinks in.

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"Father to your hands I commend my spirirt. Father to your hands-Why have you forsaken me?"

Weight
Low Self Esteem(caused by weight)
Clumsiness

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Kill Your Idols!

Am I the only one who agrees with Page on the fact that self-confidence is something that can be improved on?

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When guitars are outlawed, only outlaws will have guitars.

I agree as well.

Sure, we can improve. It's just easier to complain about it

• Being 6'6" AND thin as a rail
• My voice
• not having a controlled sleep pattern
• laziness
• being oblivious to certain things

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"Look at me! I'm Tracer! BLAHBLAHBLAH!"

-MBeggar

I agree with that part. I'm try to change and to become better. I'm working on it, but I'm not getting too far.

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"Father to your hands I commend my spirirt. Father to your hands-Why have you forsaken me?"

- I'm overweight, and not fit (though I am working on this)
- acne (which seems to be clearing up, so that's nice)
- no girlfriend (however, this is related to my next point...)
- I have a hard time talking to people (if I talk about anything I am interested in, people seem to get bored and stop talking to me) and therefore I am becoming increasingly antisocial
- I am a pessimist, and I can never seem to appreciate what I have; instead, I always dwell on what I don't have
- I get sunburned way too easily
- I don't have a diamond-matrix skeleton or carbon nanotube muscles

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"May your gravity well be shallow, and your deBroglie wavelength short."

so just change. What is really stopping you?
all you have to do to change is just to want to bad enough...

find something that you don't like about yourself, and start working on it. Once the problem is resolved, go on to the next one. Eventually, you will have systematically improved your entire personality once all the flaws are gone. You can't fake it. you actually have to want to do it or else it won't make much difference.

Once you start improving yourself the same way i did, the process is self-sustaining. its almost addictive to get rid of your old flaws and rebuild yourself from scratch. The benefits are almost immediate-- people will notice the changes in you and will want to be around you, i guarantee it.

If you ever wanted a social life, self improvement will give you everything that you always wanted, and more.




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I have found that you can transform your character solely by the power of belief: as you believe yourself to be, so you shall become over time.

It's not easy at first. It's like having a piece of elastic constraining you, holding you back. Staying what you're close to (your current personality or whatever) will not get you anywhere. But the further and harder you pull, the more likely the elastic is to break. Eventually it does, and you're more free to explore things that can add to your personality. You wouldn't find new things in the same old place, would you?
Hopefully that analogy makes some sense.

And everyone, just remember: there's nothing about you that changing yourself completely couldn't fix.

I get extreamly paranoid at odd tiems for no good reason. really sucks sometimes, 'cause it has a tendency to make me act like a jerk.

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Why in God's name is this thread more popular than the things-you-like-about-yourself thread? You are some damn depressing kids.

Just for the sake of completion, seeing as I posted in the other thread too:

Sometimes I'm a bit too quick to compromise and give in. I'm a bad haggler.

I'm tall and lanky which means I'm a bit clumsy, I trip over stuff, I walk into people, I hit my head on low stuff, I knock stuff off of shelves accidentally.

I'm bad at trying not to act nervous.

I'm not good at talking to people if I can't look into their eyes and read their reactions. Thus, I'm not fond of important phonecalls with people I don't know.

I'm very indecisive when it comes to stuff that matters. I'm not at all spontaneous or impulsive. I think too much over considering all possible outcomes.

I find it hard to learn comletely abstract sciences with nothing concrete to grasp, where everything is wishy-washy theories or models and memorizing definitions of stuff that have no physical property.

I'm too polarised. Either I make it personal, carry grudges and don't forgive, or I let people get too close to me when I really should know better.

Being drunk just makes me sleepy.

I'm quick to raising my voice or snapping. It's far too easy for me to get irritated at people who are impolite, loud, obnoxious, who don't pull their own weight in a group or who never admit when they've made a mistake.

I'm too much of an idealist. I'm not apathetic enough.

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Worth a million in prizes, baby.

No, it's just that it's easier to list the things we don't like.

Like it's easier to just count the abnormals than it is to count all the normals.

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